How to distinguish a wealthy man from a poor cheater
'17.05.2021'
Source: Rambler
He gave flowers, drove to restaurants, talked about his very successful business. A month later, it turned out that he was just a small clerk in a bank and lives with his mother in a penny on the outskirts.
This is not the beginning of a comedy about unsuccessful relationships, such a scenario may well happen in life, because men no less than women like to splurge. Anews understood women's ways to recognize the classic “pontoreza” at an early stage of dating, quotes Rambler.
The quotes in the text are taken from forums and social networks.
The tie is good, but inside does not call
He is always dressed with a needle and has dates in pompous places, but always evades the question of going to visit him. And he lives, according to his own stories, somewhere in the center in a huge apartment next to Fyodor Bondarchuk or someone from the government.
The reasons for refusal are just as pompous as the cafes where he goes: either the maid has the terrible flu, or the large-scale repair doesn’t end, or the filming of a multi-part film in his elite house. All this, of course, may be true. But most likely, the guy just hangs noodles on his ears and you need to get to his real place of residence by train with three changes.
It is only for the period of repair.
Another option: he still calls to himself, but he admits that he rents an apartment, as they make repairs on his own and he needs to live somewhere. And he decided to live by all means in a steep apartment in the very center, since he was not used to saving anything.
“I had such a frame. I sold a room in a communal apartment to buy clothes and rent an apartment in the center (to amuse myself with a beautiful life and impress me at the same time), then I went to my mother in a small apartment on the edge of the city, fed at her expense, my mother was very poor there. He loved to hang out in the company of golden youth (among whom was the governor’s grandson) and loved to impress others, because of which he constantly had to go into debt and credit. ”
All good is on the way out.
He dresses for every date, as if he is going to be awarded an Oscar. But you decided to spend time in the park - to arrange something like a picnic. And where did he come from? Wearing denim jeans and a nearly torn T-shirt.
“A friend told me once about a very bright example of Ponte - everything that was expensive for a man was on the way out: a suit, accessories, a car, a choice of establishments. Then he invited her home, and it turned out that he lives in a tiny, neglected and clearly in need of repairing an apartment with an obviously needing good clothes and food for his mother. ”
“Crisis is in its heads”
If suddenly the conversation turned to the side of the economy (this can also happen on a date), the man-pontorez will by all means try to distance himself from problems. His fabulous approach will be something like the words that “a crisis is in people's heads, and real boys always achieve everything they want.” Next will be a story about his successful life, about how he is doing well in comparison with others, who, in essence, are fools and losers.
C'mon, it's not expensive!
Here you come to a cafe or a whole restaurant, where for some reason the prices are much higher than the average in such places. But the guy is not at all embarrassed, at least he does not give the mind. In this case, he orders something most expensive, but not much.
“My main field of activity is restaurant and club business. And that very ummmm ... "elite" segment. Well, there you go. There is a very clear, straightforward difference - really rich men who can calmly spend 1500-3000 dollars in an evening at the expense of planting (this, on average, it happens even higher), well, they will never break off to say, but why is it so expensive, to tell that there is a crisis , no money, bring champagne cheaper, we are poor students, well, stuff like that. And those same "pontorezs" with a bill of 75-100 dollars, well, they have exactly the opposite situation. They have a slight rounding in their eyes when the price menu is opened. "
Puts on the table and all the time touches
Although communicating with your own phone during a date belongs to the category of movetones, a true pontorez sees nothing wrong with that. Moreover, if the phone - the latest model of the iPhone. Having settled in front of the girl, the pretender man will put the gadget on the table, “apple” up and will periodically feel it and look at the display with a look of waiting for an important message.
There is a car, there is no housing
He drives an expensive car that is comparable in value to real estate, and claims that he did not buy it on credit. However, he does not have his own housing. When asked why he dashes around rented apartments, he answers something like “I don’t want to be attached to one place” or “I haven’t decided yet where I want to live.”
“I worked in a large bank in the department that helps make decisions on granting loans. Here's what really seemed interesting. There was a large, highly visible segment of customers: "The lower the income, the more expensive the car." ZP 3000-4500 dollars - Ford or Nissan cars. Salary - $ 1500, Lexus, Mercedes. One of my colleagues, working as an ordinary clerk (rogue), drove a BMW. "
Seemed beautiful until his mouth opened
The most valuable thing in communication between two people, especially when it comes to dating, is a full-fledged dialogue. Not a one-man theater. In the case of the classic pontoresis, the girl will most likely have to endure a long, sometimes tedious and pathetic monospectal, where the pronoun "I" is the most frequently mentioned word.
“I was in a company, at a friend's birthday party. One pontorez tried to make an impression all evening. Not by intellect, of course, but by stories about your connections and opportunities. He even seemed beautiful to me, until he opened his mouth. But he opened it, unfortunately, almost immediately, and then did not close the whole evening. We learned how expensive, but “correctly” it feeds. How swinging in the best rocking chair. And what is his car. As a target audience, he identified for himself the female part of the company. Apparently, we should have listened to him with his mouth open. ”
If men like to pretend to be wealthy to make an impression, then the task of girls playing the same game is different - to show complete indifference to financial benefits.
