Opinion: how a woman after 50 to arrange her personal life
'20.05.2020'
Source: Columnist
According to studies, the average age at marriage is pushed back every year. Moreover, more and more often women over 50 are in search of a life partner. The psychologist Lilia Akhremchik told how to increase her chances of happiness being in the silver age Browser.
Let's start with the survey. Do you think it is realistic for a woman after 50 to find a man for a long-term relationship? Is it realistic to meet love?
I ask because the success of the event depends on the answer to this question. If you think not, then you should not start. Under your beliefs, you will find reasons why not. If you think there are chances, then we can continue.
To be honest, making a couple over the years is more difficult. And we are becoming more frigid, it’s hard for us to please, and there are not just fewer free men, they generally become less with age. Therefore, we will have to reconsider our views, make an audit.
- The image of the ideal man for himself will have to be changed. For example, if you previously only looked at older men, you can now look at younger men as well. If you wanted men who have a business, then now you can see that both the surgeon and the designer are also quite an option, the main thing is what kind of person.
- You have to stop pretending to be a princess - "Dance me, dance." A woman in adulthood who builds an innocent girl looks ridiculous. The time to be a princess is over. You don't need to ask permission for anything else. Time to become queen and take what you want. Less troubles - more action: bring the favorite closer to the body and chop off the head, if necessary.
- More activity. It's sad, but true - many men, like women, get tired of life with age: they become too lazy to strain and they no longer want to hunt for a deer, they just have to admire it. And therefore, if we liked someone, we start talking ourselves, in a cafe we can sit down at a table, we can write first, sex at our will, and not assessing whether the man jumped enough for this. Self-confidence adorns any woman.
- Insecurity must be a thing of the past. At 50, it would be nice to know who you are, what you are and why, well, and what you love, too.
- Where do you want to dine?
- I do not know.
- What should you order?
- Oh, I don't go to restaurants at all.
- What to take a drink?
- I have no idea. Maybe champagne.
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No, such dialogues are no longer relevant. “I know”, “I love”, “this is for me”, “I prefer it this way” - there is strength in knowing oneself. She also attracts.
- As the body matures, uniqueness crystallizes. If youth is blurry enough, then maturity is individual. It's better to be weird than to be none. It is very important here what you are - a multi-page novel or a short article in the newspaper. You should be interesting to study.
- Will have to expand the geography of searches, literally. There are countries where there are fewer women than men, and the chances of finding a couple may be higher. To help you dating sites and marriage agencies. And yes, start learning a foreign language at least for yourself, the brain is developing.
- Dump the burden of the past. Melancholy in the gaze and in the figure, doom and hopelessness can only repel, not attract. Everyone loves different things: someone prefers thin, someone - plump, someone likes kind and caring, someone pins from crazy, but everyone loves life and the living. Interest in life, in yourself, in a man, passion for something, physical activity - that's what magnet. This is good for herself as well.
And yes, it’s not a shame to get to know each other, as well as to admit that you need a relationship.
Original column posted on Lilia Akhremchik's blog https://www.izakayasushilounge.com Columnist
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