Five types of girlfriends: how not to lose every years later
'05.03.2018'
Source: Womo
Do not expect more from people than they are willing to give. Lizel Schillinger, a journalist and translator, the author of the popular Wordbirds neologism dictionary, talks about how to “correctly” make friends in the 21st century with different people.
Not all relationships between friends are the same. That is, you can equally cherish all your friends, however, each person has his own “friendly” style, quotes Womo. And if, say, a friend got angry with you, then most likely it’s because you interacted with her as you did with a friend from a completely different category.
The same trouble if you feel rejected by a friend, and she does not understand what your problem is. It should be understood that friendship and its parameters are influenced by additional factors: collaboration, family, education, and the list goes on. To be friends with pleasure means to understand with whom and on what basis you are friends.
"Like Sister"
This friend is practically a member of the family. You communicate in a circle of very close friends, meet at her or at your home, or somewhere else where you can feel completely free. If you meet together, she expects a long sincere conversation, which reflects your mutual deep knowledge of each other. Beware: if at a big party you met her, being in the company of other friends, take the time to chat with her face to face to give confirmation of your “special” friendship. Otherwise, she is mortally offended. Maintain and nourish this friendship, because it is a very valuable investment. This is the case when the “old friend is better than the new two.”
Companion
This is a busy woman, just like you, but she, just like you, is able to find a “free time” in the diary to go to an exhibition, concert, lecture or other cultural event with you. Remember: neither you nor she expects strong emotional support, but you find each other a very pleasant company. When you make your forays, you usually gossip about your acquaintances and share the news. This is a friendship for “good times,” not for crisis.
Childhood friend
You know her from the age of five. Perhaps she was your first real friend at school. Perhaps you see her now infrequently: she has small children or a very successful career that takes all the time. Perhaps she now lives in another city or in another country. But every time you manage to talk - by phone, in the messenger or in person - you think that there were not all these years that have already passed. And at such moments you are bitter that you are so close and perhaps not so far geographically (if she lives in the next quarter), but you cannot communicate more often because she “has more important things to do”. Consider whether you should maintain a relationship with a friend, if she doesn’t really value them, or, on the contrary, if she is trying to maintain a relationship, and they have become uninteresting to you. But if you like to communicate with her and she is also interested in you, then give her time to "deal" with children, career and all the rest. A good friendship is worth the wait.
Master of style
She has good taste and an appropriate budget (or flair), thanks to which she finds herself insanely beautiful clothes and shoes, she turns around on the street, and you go to “comfortable”. Perhaps you can feel like a “gray mouse” next to her, but it is better to try to draw inspiration from your girlfriend's gift in order to find your own style, and remind her that inner wealth means more external gloss.
"Flexible" friend
This is a girlfriend with a "flexible" schedule: then she does not call, then you are busy, but you are always on the same wavelength. You both have a wide social circle, several different groups of friends, sometimes they coincide, sometimes they don’t. Both of you can be “insane” in the eyes of other people, and “insane” in different ways. That is why you complement each other perfectly. And for the "flexible" girlfriend there is another name - the best friend.
