How to behave if someone else’s child spoils your belongings
'02.08.2019'
Source: 7sisters.ru
Often, children can spoil someone else's thing, considering it to be just fun fun, especially for young children. But things are different, and it is not always a cheap machine from the nearest supermarket. The situation is unpleasant, especially for the victim, who most often hears from the parents of the little bully: “This is a child!”.
How to act in a similar situation, the project 7sisters.ru consulted a child and family psychologist Alina Andreeva.
Expression of feelings
In order for the child to understand the consequences of his actions with respect to the people around him, it is very important to express his emotions about what happened out loud: “It is very unpleasant for me to walk in dirty things, it will be very difficult to wash out the berry stain”. And no matter how old a child is: 3 or 13 - he is able to perceive your emotions at any age. Spoiled something - there are consequences.
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Even if it is not your child, it is important to let them know that they will have to take responsibility for their actions. Of course, it is better if the parents of the child do it, but you can do it yourself. Just ask about how to fix the situation.
Older children can offer their options for action, and an adult should offer a way out of this situation to very young children. You can even change with the child: for example, ask for his toy instead of a spoiled blouse. And it does not matter the fact that you do not have children and you do not need a toy. The main thing is to show the child that it is necessary to take responsibility for the actions.
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Voicing your position to the parents of the "offender"
First you need to voice the problem to the parents of the baby: “Your child painted my coat with a marker, and this is very upsetting me, because now it is unlikely to be able to be washed off.”
Further actions depend on how responsible you are. Conscious parents will immediately try to atone for the guilt of their offspring and offer possible options.
If you are “lucky enough” to encounter “yazhetermer” ...
The situation is even more unpleasant, and then you have to decide what is important for you: restore justice or throw out a spoiled coat, but keep the relationship, if we are talking about people important to you. If you choose "war", then you have every right to go to the police and the court to restore justice, the expert says.
