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Married in America: sex ratio and credit attractiveness



Irkutsk journalist Marina Lykova, who married an American several years ago, continues to tell interesting things about life in the United States and about her marriage. Today - about the sex ratio in America, the desire to please and the habit of bright dress at any age.

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How is the song sung? "... because there are nine guys on the statistics girls?" Such statistics in Russia was a long time ago. At the time when I walked under the table. I can not say that the situation in Russia has improved. But I can firmly say that in the United States today, in my individual Idaho state, the ratio of single men and women is approximately equal: women slowly choose a mate, and men know that sooner or later they will find their only one, and everyone goes on dates, and all is well. But not in all states.

Recently found out that in one of the nearby (Utah, Salt Lake City) the ratio of single "m" and the same single "Well» 119: 100. And if there are more men, then it is more difficult for them to find a bride. And the competition among them is higher. And once the competition among the “players” is higher, they have to spend more and more money to attract the “female”. And once you have to spend more, more and more credit cards are multiplied with more and faster debts growing on them. This is how my husband’s amazement is remembered when he saw very young girls in short skirts, in caprone and with naked tummy peeking from behind open mini-coats in the center of Irkutsk in a forty-degree frost wiggling on their high heels. For me, the picture was familiar: there are not enough men, and we have to fight for them. Even so. Robert also believed that the health of such victims is not worth it.

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But I’ll take as an example all the same, for the purity of the experiment, not Irkutsk and not even my Idaho state, but another American state. It is only a few dozen miles from the “male” state, where the number of women currently prevails: male 78 alone accounts for a hundred “brides without a place”, and these brides sooner or later come to the conclusion that they need to migrate (which is normal for America). It is known that our “where was born, there was useful” in the United States does not work, because people do not attach to the place-home-work, but constantly look for where they feel better. And now the question: how does the numerical superiority of one or the other sex affect how quantitatively the prevailing sex spends money?

In America, almost the same as in Irkutsk, but with exactly the opposite.

In Irkutsk, men are greatly lacking, and women rush into all serious things, lowering all their pay on high-heeled boots, pheromone perfumes and sexy blouses. Single women are willing to go into debt, half-starving, but just to spend on a coat-bag-hat and "be like everyone else." In the States, things are much better for us women: men, seeing around mostly male faces, are ready, it seems, without much hesitation, to spend money on dinners in restaurants, on flowers, and even on a diamond engagement ring. But that's not all! Women in America, seeing around a sufficient number of free and attractive men, literally demand more and more from them! And I see that this knowledge is well used by advertisers, stressing that “the more you know, the less you assume, for it is worth it to assume”.

Remember the ad male deodorant advertising? That's right, the emphasis there is that one (!) Man is able to attract the attention of several (!) Ladies at once. And this idea slips here literally in everything. But the main thing, according to the local owner of an advertising publication, is to achieve anything, but not a sense of competition among consumers. In other words, the brand that inspires consumer confidence even though costs much more money, but it gives its consumers a sense of peace, peace of mind and self-confidence ...

- And if those and those equally, then what? - I do not hold.

- In such cases, American men still will not risk and will spend more! - sounded the answer. - Admit it, Marina, that does not interfere with knowing what affects us and our “free choice”. Even if this choice is not free, and some things cannot be changed at all.

Only here I learned that ninety-year-old women can, it turns out, weekly, on Fridays, go to the hairdresser's "induce beauty" hairdresser.

The hound is, of course, strongly said. The crowd of ninety-year-old women thins out every year, but this does not stop those who remain “in the ranks” of a weekly (!) Campaign for beauty. One of these grannies boasted to me the other day that she has been attending a hairdresser’s school for nearly thirty years: “The hairdresser’s school here is a godsend for a client’s wallet, Marina. And the service - it is better not to do it, because the girls are trying to student, and the cost of services is quite divine. The school needs me to exercise on anyone, and I need them to always look great! So we are made for each other! And you know what? For my ninetieth anniversary, the administration of the school of hairdressing gave me a certificate for lifelong maintenance! Satisfied with granny so pleased! ".

In general, despite the fact that the American people in their masses wear boring, indecently cheap and untidy, ninety-year old grannies to dress up in all these hats, in suits of pastel shades or in everything bright (such as in our Siberian villages would say “tear out your eyes!” ") It is still possible only when there is a lot in the wardrobe. When you can not think for months: what would buy such a unique classic skirt, which is morally obsolete for a long time, but since “classic is eternal!”, You have to put up with it so as not to waste money on fashionable things. And when there are dozens of skirts and dresses, and they are all different in style, and fashionable clothes of this season cost a penny, and you can combine and enjoy it, it's easy to be an elegant fashionable woman, even when you are over ninety.

I am aware that my daughter, who treats money with super respect, took it not from her neighbor. Whether I want it or not, I see that seventeen-year-old Lina manifests claims for avarice and greed inherent in me, but only on an even more pronounced “scale”. But it is thanks to these qualities that I am calm for my daughter's financial future: there are not many teenagers who will be so wise to manage their own money. I don’t even speak about the fact that Lina is especially careful with parental money.

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I remember the example told by my spouse. His eldest son was sent (and David was already over twenty!) To the grocery store for the whole large family. (Americans do not go shopping every day, as most Russians do, trying to find cheaper and fresher here and there. It is often overloaded weekly or even monthly.) The father gave cash to his son, and after a few hours (when the son returned from shopping ) I was horrified to find that the guy did not buy what he was being punished, but “got off the leash” and spent all the money on flowers and gifts for the girl he loved at that time. I can not imagine a husband raising his voice to anyone else, and even more so to his own son, but I know one thing: after just over ten years, my husband does not give money to his own son. At all. Not a dime.

- Marina, listen to the Russians dress brightly after all! Like the Olympics in Sochi, I looked, so I understood why you also dress super bright. Well, for America.

... I hear this is not the first time. I heard from Europeans and Americans even twenty years ago (at a time when there was nothing to buy in clothing stores and buy something!) That we Russians love bright and elegant clothes, rich and rich colors (some of ours are painted and brightened in bright colors, Pavlovo Posad printed scarfs are worth something!). Europe and the United States, unlike us, dress up modestly: in blue, blue, black. Pants and T-shirts or shirts, buttons all buttoned. Blue collars. White-collar. A lot of black, uniform uniform (when an employee of one company with impossible ease is taken for his in another). And no heels! Bored they live, in one word.

I have never heard from my husband: “This color suits you!”. He doesn't care what I wear and how I dress. He is well. He definitely I, darling, in all outfits is good. We have been married for over six years, and to this day he does not know what is in my wardrobe. He only knows, perhaps, that there are few black things. And in general there are few things. By American standards. For some reason, Americans have such a stereotype that clothes, like shoes, never happen a lot. (And despite the fact that I myself know about the contents of my own wardrobe and a dresser full of clothes, no more than a spouse: it’s worth digging around and I’ll find something I forgot to think about.) And only here in America did I understand , how can you (and need!) clothes and appearance "play." Do not "think over the image", namely to play. Experiment.

I was over forty, and I suddenly found in myself an irresistible craving for bright colors.

And to super bright clothes. So bright that other passers-by even cuts eyes. I do not know, perhaps this is a sign of leaving youth? Or did they wake up Russian roots in me? Those same Slavic bloods mixed in bright wildflowers under the blue-blue Russian sky (the sky is nowhere else. Such a high and bright one)? I have not always loved bright. In adolescence, my mother almost tried to force off a black heavy maxi skirt, which I inherited from someone. Unsuccessfully. In that skittering and sidewalks of the feast, I felt just as protected as the children feel safe in a “house” built from an old cardboard box.

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- Well, what are you doing with yourself? Why do you need this old-fashioned? Wear a short while young! - Mom begged.

I did not listen to my mother. Now I would be happy to wear something shorter, but years (and legs), alas, are not the same. Now I compensate for the loss of bright fluorescent colors in jackets, shoes ... And my mother always urged me to dress up in something pink or blue. Especially in the blue - "under the eyes." Mom talked about the "blue" as a mantra. And I, having independently escaped to Moscow for the first time at the age of fifteen, lowered my pocket money, allotted to me for food for a whole week, to a huge spectacle frame in a bright blue color. "Under the eyes." At fifteen, I looked at all 65.

To dress up almost in only one black I became around thirty.

Loneliness in the populous Irkutsk left a certain imprint on my then-style, and black from head to toe and with heels made me slimmer and sexier in my own eyes. But America has changed not only my matrimonial status. With marriage in America, I became bolder. And in clothes as well. Although I still cannot afford to wear a “trendy” dress in a thick denim shirt tucked into a light, flying summer skirt with a strap and tennis sneakers - “to complete the look,” as local rare fashion women do. Mom would be glad if she looked in my wardrobe today. There are a lot of neon green, lime, orange, maroon, a lot of pink, but even more blue. Blue dresses. Blue sweaters. Blue shoes.

“Coming to your eyes!” My American husband already tells me.

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