Marrying an American - becoming a powerless slave: a bad experience
'23.11.2018'
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Who in America is looking for a Russian wife. Agree that this is a very strange subject. Does he not have enough of his own? Why is he eager to buy himself a Russian wife? An American woman, a slave to feminism and equality, is too demanding, knows her rights well, especially in states such as California, knows how to pump them, and in the event of a divorce, she lets her ex, if not around the world, then very emaciated. To start the next one the same (and they are all very calibrated, because they read the same women's magazines, watch the same women's programs and generally like to be uniquely standard) - which is going against the wind. So the Americans are starting up in search of Russian, Filipino, Chinese, Vietnamese and other non-American wives. This blog is a personal opinion based on personal experience, which turned out to be very, very sad. I would like to believe that everything turned out quite differently for our readers!
American husband is a real miser
Americans do not like Europeans - they are too cultured, extravagant, capricious and unpredictable, and they know how to pump rights better than American women. Islamic and African wives are also out of fashion - what to do with them? Filipinos are homebodies and housewives, loyal to the grave, Chinese women and Vietnamese are skillful cooks and resignedly friendly, Russians, Ukrainian women are beautiful, good in bed and educated. And all of them do not understand anything about American life, they are all ready to rush to the ghostly crunch of greens headlong. To this must be added a few characteristics of the Americans scurrying about in search of a foreign wife. Almost all of them are creepy misers and miser - from our point of view.
He will call his wife hani (honey) ten times a day, not because she is so sweet, but because it is a convenient standard to avoid confusion between the names of wives and other fighting friends. But, calling his betrothed "Hani", he will still try to disappear from his eyes in the restaurant when the waiter brings the bill for payment, or charge his half for grub and stay, use of a washing machine, shower, hairdryer, his condoms and a view of the blooming fence.
However, the American also calls, so as not to get confused, all her men “honey” and also tries to cheat on him for everything, up to “if you want sex, take me to Las Vegas, but here my head hurts from this case”.
American avarice knows no bounds. The three of us are sitting in a restaurant. The husband, the owner of twelve million and a decent house with a swimming pool in a prestigious area, says: "I'm crying." Naturally, I choose something quite tasty and not cheap, for almost $ 30. The wife, a sleek and thoroughbred Russian, is trying to order something similar. My husband, not embarrassed by me, tells her, "Honey, we can't afford this," and orders himself a five-dollar sandwich. The wife is forced to order something dull for herself. And together we celebrate the receipt of his next inheritance in the amount of six million dollars. And we clink glasses - I'm an excellent collection, the wife of a millionaire - a lousy and outbred Chablis, a millionaire - a glass of water.
A powerless wife is every American's dream
With mother's milk, Americans absorb two ideas: marriage is a partnership, a partner must be constantly beaten so that he does not beat you. In addition, an American, having bought a foreign wife for himself, will do everything possible so that she is completely dependent on him for as long as possible and does not know anything about her rights, the rules, customs and laws in force in the country. He will not hit a finger to help her learn English, a car, get a job, acquire a residence status: it is unprofitable for him, and he does not care about the rest. And, of course, according to his American habit, he will lie for an infinitely long time and boast about his income, real estate and other riches of his soul and wallet. One American groom based his matchmaking strategy on his possession of property. How he painted his house, how he painted it!
The property turned out to be ... a boat. “Try someone to say that this is not property! - he declared to the bitter bewilderment of his Russian wife and immediately added: - I perceive this boat as a home, because I have been living in it for five years already.
Sometimes the house really turns out to be a house, and the American groom turns out to be the owner of the house, but you have to be a fool, counting on this untold wealth: either the house will soon become the property of the previous wife, or it has long been bequeathed (to family members, church, society of fans of blowing bubbles) - it doesn't matter to whom, it is important that it is not for the Russian wife, who should be happy that she uses the phone and the toilet practically free of charge, and for everyone else for a very modest fee.
American law against Russian wife
Sexual slavery, called marriage with an American, begins at the conclusion of a prenuptial agreement, where many pages describe what and how much the bride is not entitled to either at the conclusion of marriage, or after this ceremony, or after a divorce, which is almost inevitable after several difficult years of marriage - teeth to the wall and clenching his fists.
Even excellent knowledge of the language does not help. Those who do not have English are simply in a desperate situation. American laws protect the interests of American citizens (and this is correct and natural, although for Russians, who are accustomed to the fact that Russian laws are directed against them, and unusual), but this means that the laws are directed against all non-Americans, including unlucky brides and wives from Russia.
You have to be a very loving American to oppose these laws in favor of your wife or bride, but the concept of “loving”, from our point of view, is in no way applicable to Americans - for them sacrifice is simply alien, just as much as Tchaikovsky's music is alien to the deaf from birth. We are walking around a beautiful toy town inhabited almost entirely by rich Buratina. Each house - from three million and more. I am the first compatriot at almost a year's distance of marriage of an unfortunate Siberian beauty. “And this is my prison,” she points to a huge, green house. "I rarely go out of there, because there is nowhere to go."
I tried to object, but immediately bite my tongue: she can't drive a car, and she doesn't have a car, to the nearest entertainment place - more than two miles in the pitch darkness of an evening prestigious district, she also has no money for entertainment, and English practically none. Finally, I find some option for a thirty-five-year-old woman full of life and ordinary life desires: "And with my husband in his car?" - "He is already 64, he is very tired and goes to bed early in the evening in his half." Later it turns out that he gets tired exclusively of idleness, since he does not work anywhere, but lives by renting out three houses in an even more expensive place. "Why did you marry him?" - "If I knew!" - "Why did he marry you?" - “I myself do not understand why. We never slept together, and I don't even know how much of a man he is. But he drinks Viagra. ”
No friends, no lovers ...
She cannot have a lover - if her husband finds out, he will automatically dissolve the marriage and throw her out of the country within 24 hours. Not a single lawyer will undertake to protect her, penniless, she is scared to make friends - this can be regarded as an attempt at adultery. You have to wait for a green card for several years: either hang yourself or be patient. The impatient hang themselves ... I know dozens and hundreds of similar marriages - and not a single one of them is happy or even successful! Although, probably, there are. It is clear that with this text I beat off the last crust of bread from numerous businesses for the selection and sale of Russian (Ukrainian, Belarusian, Kazakh, etc.) brides, but only a crust, because oil and caviar cannot be taken away from them - a hot commodity!
They call this whole slave trade "social tourism" and, having skimmed the foam and cream on both sides (each pair earns from five to twenty thousand - not rubles, of course), they do not worry at all about further events. And the events unfold according to a knurled scenario. Having received a green card or citizenship, the Russian wife begins to intensively destroy the hated marriage: arrange scandals and fights in the house, fill the house with dubious personalities, walk right and left, encroach on the holy of holies - finance.
Tops and roots
Divorce usually goes to the husband, if he does not reckless with the lawyer. The former Russian ex-wife begins to receive some crumbs after the divorce. It is impossible to live on this, and a gloomy choice arises: either to look for a job (usually much lower and worse than the one that was in Russia), or a new husband. Because there is no return to Russia, there is no shame. Russian wives and brides in America are a massive phenomenon. Despite all the slingshots and obstacles, the flow of brides practically does not dry out - just go to the website of the American Embassy in Moscow a couple of times and skim through the schedule of interview calls. Russian grooms and husbands of American women are much more exotic and rare. But there is such a thing. Then it turns out that our men are more patient and stubborn.
Here it rarely comes to divorce, even after obtaining the status of a citizen, although the language and adaptation to men are, in principle, harder. Apparently, this is a purely male habit of sitting in prisons and zones for a long time, a cultural norm that has ingrained even in the genes to shake endless periods.
Of course, in an American marriage, our peasant can easily get drunk, but this is a blissful state - isn't it our eternal dream? And America is, as it were, created for those who want to drink: the minimum wage in California, for example, is $ 7 an hour, and a gallon of vodka costs only $ 9. Where in Russia can an ordinary person earn 25 liters of vodka per day?
The reasons why people of any gender try to leave their unpretentious homeland are rather monotonous: dissatisfaction with work or lack of it, lack of clarity of at least some prospects, the Doppler effect of discord within themselves, sweet drooling of American films, magazines and advertisements. We must clearly understand the simple and obvious (but only here, in America) - the cover life is just as similar to reality as the Vremya program is to our time. We deeply regret the brain drain, but for some reason we do not care at all about the egg leak, where there are potentially more of these brains, perhaps, and the brains themselves are even brighter.
