'Everything at its own expense': why Russian women are disappointed in American husbands
'10.04.2021'
Source: Zen.Yandex
When I'm bored, I sit on women's forums dedicated to Russian-American marriage. Often women discuss how their family life went wrong. Some complain that they did not manage to get a green card, others admit that they are completely disappointed in their “cold” husbands.
I will say right away: many of my friends have married Americans and are happy, writes Amerussian girl for Yandex Zen. And I will immediately note that these girls' brains work at a local frequency. They can be called Russians only ethnically - the mentality has long absorbed new patterns of behavior and norms.
Not everyone who lives in the United States integrates into the local culture. Many Russians (as well as representatives of other countries) do not study English, are not interested in the history of the country, do not know its peculiarities and do not communicate with the locals. Nobody condemns anyone for this - America, despite its unity (from the many one), lives in national isolated communities.
And when girls brought up in a patriarchal society get involved in relations with Americans, very often it ends not in a happy end, but in disaster. I will try to explain why.
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Our women put suffocating care and attention into the concept of love. Many people strive for some kind of support (although, of course, this is not quite the correct word). The goal of the "right" women is to shift the responsibility for their lives onto men's shoulders and live like a stone wall ... And not pay for anything.
They require a lot of attention, they often want to receive flowers. Career and education, as a rule, are put on the back burner and live in family categories.
Speaking about the man of their dreams, they often say the phrase: "The man said, the man did."
One friend of mine even boasted that, being in a relationship, she did not pay for herself in restaurants for a year. And that the boyfriend even chose the gym for her. That is, a complete lack of responsibility is a reason for pride.
It’s probably true that it’s very exciting to live in a relationship like Christ’s bosom, but it doesn’t work with the Americans.
It will be extremely difficult for patriarchal women to build happy relationships with American men.
The fact is that they are completely different. Men and women are brought up in the spirit of equality, personal freedom.
Americans practically do not give bouquets of flowers, considering this occupation as something obsolete, they give the space that they expect in return. They are more flexible - they do not make decisions without their lovers (they have no right to do so), before marriage they almost always share the bill, or a woman invests at least a little financially too.
Americans grow up late and marry after 35. At a young age, they are more concentrated on a career.
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Most importantly, they discourage women from lacking work, professional interests, or an exciting hobby. For them, this is rather some kind of savagery than the norm. Thanks, feminism!
The principle “dad works and mom is beautiful” will not work in a relationship with an American. It is because of such a different approach to life that international marriages break up.
There are two options: either you need to learn to understand others, like to marry your own and not complain in the forums that you have not been paid tickets. Equality!
