Time to dream: why it is useful and how it helps to change your life for the better
'03.01.2021'
Source: AdMe.ru
Dreams are a way to plunge into a world where you are happy. Some people think that doing this is stupid, others just live on it. Scientists have concluded that the ability to dream is one of the main characteristics of a successful and happy person. AdMe.ru tells why dreams are one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to change your life for the better.
1. You will be able to understand what you want from life
The problem of finding yourself and your place in life is sometimes delayed indefinitely. To avoid situations like this, try the Childhood Exercises and 20 Favorite Activities from Dreaming Doesn't Harmful by life coach Barbara Sher and psychology expert Annie Gottlieb.
The first exercise will help you figure out what you did most of the time as a child. Write on paper all the hobbies and activities that fascinated you, by year of life. And then analyze what business has accompanied you throughout the entire conscious path. This will be the very red thread that is worth thinking about.
The 20 Favorite Activities exercise will help you analyze what you did, what you do, or why you stopped doing it. Write on a piece of paper at least 20 favorite activities, and if you do not have such an amount, do not despair and note any little thing: I like itching when itching, for example. Then ask some related questions about these hobbies. When was the last time I did this? Is it worth the money or is it free? Alone or with someone? Was it planned or spontaneous? Are there health risks? Is it something fast or slow? Now identify patterns. They will prompt your real interests and give the right vector in determining the cause of your life.
2. Learn to set specific goals and achieve them
Each dream consists of a number of goals that must be set correctly. And any goal has characteristics such as specificity, measurability, time frame, attainability and significance. Therefore, do not forget to check it in all respects and, if it is something large-scale, break it down into subgoals and tasks.
3. Get to know yourself better
Sometimes we are faced with the fact that we cannot understand what we really want. One of the reasons is that we do not know ourselves well, and this affects not only our choice of filling in a bun, but also further decisions and actions in life.
The Perfect Day exercise will help you create a picture of your future and define the main traits of your personality, identify the problems that you face in real life on the way to achieving your dreams. All you need to do is imagine what your ideal day would look like from the moment you wake up to sleep at night. Having presented this, make a table and write down the answers to some questions in it:
- What exactly is needed on this day for your happiness?
- What is optional but desirable?
- That there is just self-indulgence without which you can do?
- What will change if you leave only the essentials?
- Which of the ingredients of a perfect day do you already have and which are missing?
Compare reality and fantasy. Ask final questions:
- What needs to be done to get what you want?
- What difficulties will you have to face?
Face it and take action today.
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4. Make weaknesses your advantage
Learn to praise yourself and look at yourself from the outside, and the exercise "Let there be praise" will help you with this. Ask your friends or family to describe you. But not in one word ("cute", "beautiful"), but at least in a few sentences. Take this information not as flattery, but as facts. So you will see that your weaknesses are only in your head and, perhaps, you are too demanding of yourself and self-critical.
5. Forget what fear of change is and start to enjoy it
Change is always difficult. But to come to them, you can do exercises to work out your fear. For example, you were afraid for a long time to get a new job, but you really wanted to. Take a piece of paper and write down what happens if you go there, and what happens if you don't. Thus, you will not only work through your fear, but also calculate the risks, protect yourself from possible failures.
6. You will not be intimidated by burnout in the workplace.
Dreams not only help you achieve specific goals, but also keep you afloat. Scientists have proven that when a person fantasizes, it is easier for him to cope with stress and find effective solutions to complex problems. This process not only positively affects the mental state of a person and his ability to think, but in general has a positive effect on the entire body.
7. Make friends with your family and find support in it
Sometimes there are various obstacles on the way to a dream. One of them may be the resistance of your own family. Although this fact can be a powerful motivator to prove to them that your path is correct, in the pursuit of this illusory evidence, you can forget where you really wanted and what is really important. Therefore, the best solution will be not resistance on their part, but support. Talk to your parents about this, discuss their view of your life, and state your vision. This will help you understand their priorities, their fears about the future, and you can also show how serious it is for you.
8. Learn to value and support yourself on your own
Some were rewarded as children by their parents for good grades or behavior. And now you have to do the same on your own, and the exercise "Reward yourself" will help in this. Its essence is to reward yourself for small victories, be it morning exercises or a few pounds dropped. Treat yourself to a new purse for taking the time to fulfill your dream for a week now. Yes, these are small steps, but they are something worth going further for, and rewards will provide an incentive to complete more difficult tasks.
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9. Learn to organize yourself and your time
Time management is not a legend, but a reality that will help you build desires, dreams and goals into your life. The Planning Wall exercise will be your conscience and a guiding star. Schedule your goals for the year, month, and week. And do not forget about the "rest" column, because it is so useful in order to reach the victorious end.
10. Make your dream come true and finally become the happiest person in the world
When you come to the conclusion that what you want has finally come true, do not be surprised. Now this knowledge can be passed on to children, relatives and move on to the realization of the next dream. We hope you don't have one. Don't be afraid to set high goals and think big. Aiming at the moon, even if you miss, you will remain among the stars.
