The Washington Post: why the escape of Harry and Megan is not a fairy tale about saving the prince
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Source: The Washington Post
Do not rush to applaud the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, who declared independence. The last ups and downs in the Royal House of Windsor are the continuation of a very sad story about the family crisis, writes Inosmi with reference to The Washington Post. It is naive to consider the escape of Harry and Megan a fairy tale in which the duchess saves the prince.
The first and understandable motivation is to applaud the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, who have declared independence from the racist British press, stifling the rituals of "senior members of the royal family" and the inconstancy of English weather. But do not fool yourself: the last ups and downs in the Royal House of Windsor are the continuation of a very sad story about a family crisis. And it seems even sadder because it contrasts so much with the ideals that the royal family should embody.
This statement was a terrific step, given that, as they say, Prince Harry ignored the clear instructions of his grandmother-queen not to announce that he and his wife Megan, the Duchess of Sussex, want to "abandon" the royal life. And yet this is not the most dramatic split in family history.
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Queen Elizabeth II herself was on the throne due to a similar conflict: her father became king when her uncle renounced the throne in order to marry a divorced woman and go into exile. Then three of the four children of the queen divorced, and one with a terrible scandal. The sensation from the Dukes of Sussex is nothing compared to the confessional collaboration of Princess Diana with reporters Andrew Morton and Martin Bashir, whom she went to try to convey her pain first to Prince Charles and new relatives, and then to the British public.
Perhaps these constant breakdowns in the royal family can be understood. The British royal house has many privileges, but the pressure on its members is very great. Looking at them from the outside, we can admire the luxury of the interiors and imagine what we would do with 20 million pounds a year (26 million dollars. - Ed.) But they’re not sure that many would be able to name the real fee for giving up the right to self, for performing an endless series of incredibly boring ceremonies, the need to always dress correctly (for women) and receive daily grueling streams of criticism from the press (concerns both sexes, but women usually have worse).
Can you imagine your mother telling you that nobody really cares about you personally? This is exactly what Queen Elizabeth II told Prince Charles in the series Crown, which is shown on Netflix. Although this is a work of art, it relies heavily on real facts. What kind of payment would you ask if you knew that you would have to, like Diana, struggle for years for the family to recognize your bulimia and other mental problems? The idea that Meghan Markle, having married one of the members of the royal family, could turn the Windsor into a heterogeneous and equal group was always a dream rather than a real opportunity. The white dress and tiara only masked the futility of this idea.
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It would be superficial to name Harry's decision to break with all the attributes of royal life, which he finds depressing, a victory that his mother would be proud of. But, as Tina Brown noted in her Chronicles of Diana, Diana herself gave the victory a definition that was not always worth relying on.
“She believed that a deafening public scream could solve the problem once and for all,” Brown wrote of Diana’s decision to start working with Morton to write a confessional book. “She always believed that one violent action could fix everything at once.”
So far, Harry has a happier story than his mother. He lays down the powers of the eldest member of the royal family, and his marriage is safe and sound. It seems that he and his wife have some plans for the coming days, at least they have created a new site where they answer frequently asked questions. And yet, the departure of the youngest son of Diana from the royal family became an eerie reminder of how she herself was expelled.
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When Diana announced that she agreed to divorce the Prince of Wales, Buckingham Palace only coldly said that "it will take time." This time, perhaps, in an official statement there was a hint of condescension: "We understand the desire [of the Dukes of Sussex] to go the other way, but this is a complex issue that takes time to resolve."
This should be a warning to anyone who stubbornly considers the escape of Harry and Megan a modern tale in which the duchess saves the prince and takes him with him to Canada, where they will live happily ever after. But when you leave for sunset, it means that you have to leave your beloved brother, father and grandmother. And it’s stupid to forget the essence of the whole story, turning a blind eye to the fact that any drama means pain.
