'Slavic paradise': how I tried to become the second wife in a polygamous family
'09.05.2019'
Source: Billboard Daily
Author “Posters Daily»Milana Logunova decided to try to find her happiness in the“ Slavic paradise ”. Milana posted a questionnaire in the patriarchal tyndan, went on Skype interviews and went through the forest to meet in person for the future polygamist. She opened the wonderful world of strong males, obedient wives and reptiloids.
Chapter one. Who are these people
FORM
"Hello!
My name is Lana Mironova, I’m 21 for a year, and I’m looking for a man or a full-fledged couple for serious polygamous relationships. I myself graduate from the university, get a specialty in the field of copywriting, so I can work remotely and devote myself to the household and children.
I believe that family is the most important thing in life. I am also cheerful, cheerful and I love nature very much. By virtue of a young age I will obey my man in everything. Am I ready to move to another city? Maybe".
I re-read my ad several times, wondering if I’m doing everything right. Previously, I created a fake account so that the potential husband did not understand that I was a journalist. I press the "Send" button. Publication for the group in "VKontakte" proposed.
It seems that at last I admitted to myself that marriage was far from the worst scenario. And all because I recently found out: very soon every person will have to make a choice - feminism or polygamy, but the latter is clearly the winner. What the hell? At first I thought so too.
"We will revive our Slavic paradise"
Polygamy is an essential attribute of the radical patriarchy, which by default relies only on males. “Polygamy is happiness for a loving woman,” says one of the posts of the Polygamy in Russia group. Patriarchate ”(4660 subscribers), this is one of about twenty public issues on a similar topic. Its participants set themselves the goal of returning the holiness of the masculine - such a disadvantaged "crown of evolution." A photo of Putin surrounded by twelve girls of Slavic appearance is posted in the community cap. The activists of the movement are counting on the support of the authorities, because they oppose LGBT people, vegans, the opposition, independent women and everything else that destroys morality. “Join the winners right away,” I read the call in the community of Russian polygamist, “we will revive our Slavic paradise.”
I liked the passage about the Slavic paradise, and I decided to study the topic. Many times I heard from teachers, friends and relatives that screaming about the rights of women is already uncivilized - they say that we are already equal, what else is needed? Perhaps I would continue to agree if I had not learned that the point in the question had not yet been set.
“What kind of feminist bit you?”, - people asked me on thematic forums. “Feminists” in this environment are women who undermine traditional notions of morality, criticizing, for example, the slogans of the patriarchal club. Such slogans are placed on the picture-postcards, which repost solidarity publics. Any reproach - and you are a feminist, your name is tainted. There are such phrases:
"One wife in the family grows selfish."
"If several women love one man, then rejecting someone, because there are several of them, is a great sin."
"A woman who agrees to polygamy has no problem finding a decent man."
“Polygamy is not for all men. Only for the best. ”
Activists and their wise thoughts
In the community of polygamists there are opinion leaders, as well as a detailed theory. Georgy Sidorov is responsible for lectures and entire volumes of books: he has a wide range of topics - from neo-Stalinism and “psychophysics of the Russian people” to esotericism and family issues. But most of all he remembered me by saying that even three women are few in the modern “energy creator” - at least seven are needed (the video with this lecture gained more than 80 thousand views in YouTube). It is he who inculcates in public the idea that feminism will destroy us, and explains why. Practical advice is given by Ivan Sukhov (in his public in the 653 subscriber's VKontakte): some time ago he appeared in Andrei Malakhov's show “Live broadcast”, where he said that his goal with three wives was to give birth and raise 50 children. While the sons are thirteen, but the spouses are full of strength.
The patriarchy is being built at the national level by Yuri Morozov, who created the “Kolkhoz Frost”. His semblance of a rehabilitation center with a program to “improve” men, as indicated on the official website, already exists in three cities: those who want to join the patriarchal fraternity must pay for lectures on entrepreneurship and polygamy, which goes hand in hand with material success the male. Yuri offers to come to the farm for at least a month. I can’t say what is really happening in the “Kolkhoz Frost” (and it’s happening right now), women are not allowed to come near it. I agreed with Yuri about the interview, but eventually he told me that he had lost interest in our conversation. Then I decided to move on to a more important problem: how to find a decent spouse?
You can find a polygamous husband, for example, in the “Second Wife” dating group, where men’s profiles alternate with reposts of wise thoughts composed by movement leaders (most often Yuri Morozov and his students). Together they could be collected in the book of wisdom. For example, there are such statements:
“If a woman wants to help a man keep a family in abundance and to go to work for this is an insult to the man’s mind and strength.”
“A modern independent woman will serve only bosses and clients. And never sink to such meanness as the service of a husband and children. "
“If you bring up a boy or a girl with the installation“ All women are fools, ”a more or less adequate person will grow up. And if with the installation "All women - princesses" - inadequate. It seems obvious. Then why do many mothers go the second way? Want to make their children miserable? ”
"A woman wants to be on equal footing with a man?" So she wants to be a man. ”
“Do not be born beautiful, but be born obedient. And you will be happy. Popular wisdom.
I would not want to debunk the myths about the patriarchal foundations, but also speak out in their defense - too. The leaders of the club believe that a woman in a polygamous family is better - and they give their arguments (many children, increased demographics, help in everyday life, and so on). Another question begins to boil on the lips: what kind of women sit in these groups, put likes and read profiles without anger? They enter families or take a completely foreign lady into the house. Maybe this is hypnosis? Or the innate "talent" to be the "second sex"? I did not find the answer and decided to publish a questionnaire in order to understand this world from the inside.
Chapter Two Job interviews
"Zolotykh will not and will not"
I am sitting at a table in a removable room in front of my laptop. When it is nine o'clock in the evening, I call skype with a man whose name is Svyatogor (the names of all the heroes of the material have been changed. - Ed.). After the publication of the questionnaire, Svyatogor wrote to me one of the first, although the correspondence did not work because the messages came to me in imitation of Old Slavonic: “My Yadviga also studied and lived in St. Petersburg. Father (father-in-law) withdraw Peter. We ourselves lived [ibid.] And fled away from this concentration camp. If you wish, you can introduce yourself to our family. There will not be a lot of gold, but respect, love and development will surely promise you the most! ”
This was not surprising. Already looking through the photos, I roughly understood who I was dealing with: Svyatogor looked like a sage from the Slavic manuals. I love unusual men, so I chose him first to call. The link cannot be established in 15 minutes already.
Finally, I hear a voice: “Forgive me, the connection is bad,” Svyatogor apologizes. - Now I sit in the garden, looking at the stars. Very nice, although the wolves of the two goats pulled up yesterday. "
Holy Day under 50, he lives with his wife and three children in the forest. All of them are Old Believers. A man works as a stove, driving around the nearby villages. Education gives children himself. Of his favorite pets - his horse. In his spare time, he prefers to read spiritual prose with his wife. While the head of the family lists their merits, I consider his woman in social networks. Jadwiga looks presentable: with a scythe and ruddy cheeks, she is not even thirty. In the summer photographs collects flowers, in the winter - brushwood. Higher education is.
- Yadviga not against the second wife? - I'm interested.
- Very happy! She is lonely. For the year can leave the house only once.
Ten years ago, Jadwig worked in an office where she was confronted with depression. It was decided to wrest the problem from the root - to go "to live on the ground." I can understand: there are less and less mental resources, and deadlines are burning and burning. Now weekdays Jadvigi - is livestock, cooking in stoves and gardens. She also likes to sew dresses for the whole family, without a typewriter. And if the second wife helps, life will seem quite honey. I answer Svyatora that I really envy. I am invited by an assistant. I conclude the conversation.
"Either we diverge, or we get another woman"
Ten minutes later, I am writing to a new companion that I am ready to meet. This time they offer me to turn on the video link - “show yourself, look at the goods”. On the screen I see a family portrait: a bearded man, a pregnant woman and six more light blond children from three to seventeen years old. Each of them appreciates me. I seek asylum, but it is not.
“We are so glad you found it!” ”Cries the head of the family.
“Have you talked to anyone else?” - I ask.
- No, talked. One girl came to us, but then her parents called and covered me so that she didn’t grow together.
Kohl and Masha for twenty years in a civil marriage. Not painted, because "nine grams of ink does not solve anything." Once they were classmates, entered the Moscow State University, but in the first year they were carried away by esotericism and fled to the village. They are also against medical care and public education, so they treat and raise children on their own. On the question of how much money they live, Kohl replies that "a person needs very little." They bake bread to order, are engaged in folk art, and in the summer the whole family work in the gardens and hunt. Kolya and Masha also understand the childhood as countercultural, so diapers or toys are prohibited. From the age of four in the family, it is customary to “be in business”, which Kolya is proud of, because children pay for themselves. I agree and praise their pragmatism. I say “them” because we play the game: only Kolya says, but he always uses the plural.
I pour myself some tea, take a cookie and listen further. Two years ago, Nick began to consciously change Masha - he wanted freedom. But he does not regret it, because their relationship has become “more practical,” that is, better. Having considered the situation together, they came to the conclusion (Masha is still silent) that the wife gets tired of her spouse, and he is not enough for him.
Then Kohl offered Masha a choice: either we disagree, or we get another woman. They both made the second option.
- How do you know that your second wife won't bother you? - I ask Nicholas, moving on to you.
- I am not tired of my first wife! - insulted the man. - Just problems arise at all. This is a system thing, but only now it has reached us - what, whence and why. We 20 years later are still fun together - you have no idea how!
“And thank the gods,” I add mentally. Nikolai goes on to explain that polygamy is about morality, but the clock shows eleven at night. Parents go to lay the kids. And I report that self-restraint is not mine.
"Rag is not good for us as husbands"
My biology teacher said that earthlings still lack immunity to insane ideas. Letters from potential husbands come almost non-stop. Dozens of men are looking for a second wife, but the irony is that most of them are single. Many people do not need just a woman, but a harem is needed, which would appease his master, so much so that from a bachelor life - right into the Slavic paradise. It began to seem to me that there are only two types of polygamists: those who already somehow go to live in the old Russian style, and those who are alone and struggle with the midlife crisis with the help of chauvinistic idealism (of course, without a penny). I get discouraged by drifting through this freak tinder.
“Well, have you already showered messages?” A girl named Olya writes to me. "Yes. How do you know? I did not think that there would be so many boys, ”I answer her. “It's obvious,” explains Olya. “Your profile in the group is the only one for women, all the rest are for men.”
I leaf through the entire wall of the group to the end: the stranger was right. “This is a bad form for a girl,” Olga explains to me. In this get-together, women write to men themselves. It comes to me that it would be really easier to pick out husbands among the group members without relying on the good fortune of fate. In the photo, Olya is wrapped in an Indian shawl, and, judging by the records on the wall, she loves to travel around Asia. We decide to call her. She is also looking for a wife.
Ole is 30 years old, and for a year now she has been in search of a polygamous family. One has not yet been taken, so Olya decided to cheat and get a partner to compose a “gift set”. I complain about her disfavour of fate: why did not any normal city guy write to me? The girl explains that there are quite a lot of such people in the club, but they need to be hunted. She asks how well I know men, and I declare that I did quite well: I read in fiction, I have repeatedly seen it visually, sometimes I even entered into verbal communication - in principle, I understand. She takes my irony seriously.
“Then tell me what you think ...”, Olga recommends. - I would like to tell my husband that I do not want a connection before marriage. But suddenly it turns out that he has a small dick. What then?
I am embarrassed and change the subject:
- It seems to me that domestic issues are more important. Will we sleep in the same bed or take turns? It is necessary to bring up children only the ones or we will change? And will we have some personal time with my husband or will we do everything right and right?
- I haven’t thought about it yet ... Let the husband decide - not a rag.
- You're right! Rag us in husbands is not good.
I ask Olya why she wants to enter into a polygamous marriage. She is embarrassed, but tells. Her father was an alcoholic who disappeared from home and beat his mother "under the blue" a couple of times. But then Olya met a girl who was brought up in a polygamous family: three mothers and thirteen children. The family has revealed to her the secret that polygamy in Russia has always been and will be. Many of our men at least once in their lives had a mistress, because this is not particularly condemned. But those who live under the same roof with the girls do it in secret. And it's better to live with your husband and girlfriend than with a man who is degrading.
“Smoking, alcohol, doing nothing, domestic violence - not everyone gets strong men who are interested in the continuation of the race,” Olya explains. I wish her happiness, and she wishes me a strong family. Finally, she shares with me the contact of a man from St. Petersburg named Sergei. “I have a premonition that this is your destiny, Lana,” Olga says mysteriously. I decide not to respond to requests for profiles.
Chapter three Bride girl
"Not homeostroy, but welcome to the future"
We rush past the country forest. I am sitting in the front passenger seat of a car driven by Sergey. He is a pensioner, but he has a small business and a house in Finland. Despite the fears that I see this man for the first time and do not know what to expect from him, right now I am going with him to my bride - a couple who are looking for a second wife.
This story began when I wrote to Sergei on the advice of Oli, and he invited me on a date, inviting me to choose a place. Usually I call unfamiliar men to the cheapest bakery in the area — it’s embarrassing when strangers pay me more than a hundred rubles. We met, Sergey took us coffee.
Sergey has been married for five years: the spouse does not need anything, and she does not need to be a victim of work. But, as you know, Russian women are not looking for simple ways of life: his wife gave Sergey an ultimatum that either they live without children, or she leaves. It offended him - the star of the patriarchal stage. And in order not to lower life into the toilet, he came up with the perfect way out. Polygamy is where children are expected and loved. Not one, so exactly the other.
- Why do you women think that only you decide whether to give birth or not? - Sergey answered my liberal attack. - I can bet that if a man wanted an abortion, you would also say that the right to choose is only for the lady.
“But you cannot force her to have children, or to take a second wife.” This is a housebuilding.
- Not homeostroy, but welcome to the future. Just not all have understood it. I have friends - a married couple, where a woman took this idea positively. Want to meet them? They are also looking for a girlfriend.
"I do not climb into the affairs of parents"
So we were here, in the suburbs of St. Petersburg, a couple of days after the meeting. We stop at the supermarket and go inside to select the hotels: I am responsible for the biscuits, the gentleman for the grapes. "In these household trifles, I absolutely no," - Sergey is justified at the checkout.
We go to the next high-rise building. I'm nervous. At the entrance to the apartment we are met by a young man of my age. “I'll call my parents now,” the guy says. Dmitry and Nadezhda come out, both of them are under fifty. Hope, smiling blonde in an apron, greets and immediately runs back to the kitchen - you need to follow the lunch. She seems to me to be one of those luscious women from whom care spills over the edge. Dmitry also looks like its complete opposite - a sporty alpha male with a beard, who has put on the tight-fitting T-shirt that he could only find in the wardrobe. We exchange courtesies, Sergey and Dmitry make their way deep into the house, I go behind. I stop and ask the son of Dmitry and Hope:
“Do you know why I'm here?”
- Yes of course.
- And what, all this does not confuse you?
- Well, you know ... I do not climb into the affairs of parents. I hope they won't get into mine either.
The guy disappears in one of the rooms, and they are already waiting for me at the table.
“Feminism may be logical, but it is powerless against big love”
Have you thought about what will happen to you after thirty years of marriage? "Yes, I love you, I love you," - I said this phrase for the fifth month of the relationship. It seems that she repeated the cherished word twice, and the doubts behind it were like that of the badge who was responsible at the blackboard. Another thing is the happy face of Nadi, who gives me additives to meatballs with rice. Her devotion to her husband will dream me for a long time.
Nadia and Dima live in a three-room apartment with an elderly mother Nadia and a twenty-year-old son. They also have a daughter, who is thirty years old, and grandchildren. The house looks very cozy, with carpets and lace curtains - pompous in the Soviet way. To the question where I will be located, if we like each other, they answer that everything will somehow work out on its own. You can build a house, in the end - to dig up.
Fate rewards only those who pass the endurance test. I eat my rice with a cucumber and do not want any checks - I still have a session not closed.
- It is necessary to improve not the abstract world, but the place around you! - says Nagy. - A woman is always a horizon, and a man is a vertical. Our natural mission is to take care of others.
“Do you really believe that?”
- Yes! And I am happy because my family is happy. I want her to be even more. I feel sorry for the time of a woman invested in an activity whose value is zero. And life is a practical lady; she won't give a second chance. You will spend the best years in the office, what will happen to you later?
Then Dima enters the conversation. He explains that Penelope was waiting for Odysseus, and women are by nature true. However, men become stronger the more women want help from them. And all this monogamy is nothing more than self-deception of a person who has enough time to indulge in it. And it’s enough until you retire and society says to you: “It’s time to live for yourself.” Just how is it - for yourself? And then a builder will wake up in you, who will say that this is not all. And if you do not leave the family, then it is better to finish building it. So interprets his fate Dima.
- But do you really not jealous of her husband? - I ask a question to Nadia.
“We lived in the Soviet era, Lana, we are people of different tempering,” Nadya replies. - When Dima and I were still poor and married without the help of our parents, we gave our word that we would not abandon each other, no matter what happened. It doesn't matter how your desires have changed. The main thing is your duty to the family, which you must fulfill.
Chained together - as Vyacheslav Butusov sings. This chain is called a gender role. Do what you have to - and come what may. "Everything for the family - nothing for yourself."
All this time, Sergei quietly sitting beside me. He does not fit into the argument, but watches my reaction. Probably waiting for my conversion to a new faith. Already on the threshold, putting on his jacket, right under Dima and Nadha, he asked me:
- Did the meeting somehow influence you?
I lowered my eyes. I wanted to answer honestly.
- I think yes. I realized that I was too selfish and weak for polygamy.
“Someday you will fall in love, Lana, and this will change your world.” Feminism may be logical, but it is powerless against big love! - so answered me Nadia.
Finale
We pass Ligovsky Prospect, I really want to jump into bed and fall asleep, but I still have an hour to go along Nevsky. On the way back, we hardly speak with Sergey. I reflect on the fact that there is nothing surprising in the popularity of the idea of polygamy: the philosophy of the golden mean seems unattractive to the Russian person, but to the extremes it pulls like a locomotive. And even the conservative world requires change. I ask the satellite:
- Sergey, why do you want to become a polygamist? Well, for yourself?
Sergey is silent for a minute and replies:
“I was married twice, and my first wife was a witch.” We have been married for twenty years, we have an adult child, but from time to time she harassed me with her mental breakdowns, and in a comfortable existence more and more became selfish. She said that she felt like in a cage, although I gave her everything ... And I think it was because of her that my mother died. She always argued with her to the handle.
- Why not divorce?
- She did not allow. She loved me very much, but I still met other women because they revived me to life as if I was a phoenix. I have always been very grateful to such girls. I arranged them for a favorite job or helped me find a decent life partner. But now I am very sorry that at that time I did not know about polygamy. This would give me the opportunity to live openly in two or three families. Don't lie to anyone. Now I want to fix it.
“Why don't you think that full equality would solve the problem of egoism?”
- I am sure about that. My ancestors were white magicians, and I know that I also have the ability. I need women with feminine energy to unleash them even more. The last ten years I have devoted the study of ancient texts and esoterics. They also have a lot about polygamy.
Slowly moving in traffic on Nevsky Prospect, Sergei begins to initiate me into the mysteries of the ancient esoteric teachings. A few years ago, he traveled to the ancient shrines (little-known), and then spent a couple of months in a coma. After that, enlightenment came to him. Sergey says that it is necessary for a strong husband-god to have six wives - this is a sacred number, which was also mentioned by the Indian brahmans (in fact they were Slavs). Sergey knows for certain that the Slavs are descended from white gods - newcomers, who threw their DNA data onto the ground. This white race is called H1R1. They differ from the original inhabitants of the land, blacks. But the Asian inhabitants (only this is a secret) are a genetic experiment, biorobots, whose goal is to cross with other races. Asians have created reptilians - this is how Sergei calls alien life. The fact is that according to cosmic laws, the inhabitants of one planet cannot attack another in the struggle for resources. That is why the reptiloids use more cunning moves, pitting the earthlings against each other, so that we kill ourselves. Some of them live underground. According to Sergey, only Slavs can win in this war in a thousand years, and for this it is necessary to take the path of polygamy, to develop quantitatively and qualitatively. We have to take this planet ourselves, because only H1R1 knows how to cope with reptilians.
And I almost thought that common sense was hidden in the idea of polygamy.
Sergey drops me off at my house. In parting, he says that the choice is only for me. I'm a little sad. I want everything to be like in childhood - straightforward and without a doubt. But this life does not happen. What if all the same the institution of marriage is also the machinations of reptiloids. And nine grams of ink really doesn't solve problems?
