Dislike Syndrome: 5 Signs of People Who Have Lacked Parenting
'15.10.2020'
Source: BelNews
The worst thing for a child is to grow up in a family where he is not loved or respected at all. This always leaves a mark in the future, and if a person cannot take control of his own life, he will begin to show the following 5 signs, they write BelNews.
Distrust of the outside world
In childhood, a child who is not loved often hears scandals, screams and tantrums. He is accustomed to a similar alignment of events and does not even understand that in this life it could be somehow different. The child absorbs all the negative, therefore, when he grows up, there can be no talk of trust in the world around him.
For example, if a child did not trust his own parents and was afraid of communicating with them, how could he treat others differently? Distrust of the rest will go with the person for the rest of his life. If he is lucky, he will begin to trust others, but fear will remain in any case.
Infantilism
Many unloved children, when they move into adulthood, begin to look everywhere for warmth and care. Girls suffer more often, because in childhood they lacked love and warmth. Therefore, they immediately try to find a man for themselves who will protect them and give them love. As practice shows, many deliberately choose older partners, seeing them as a father, who was so lacking in childhood.
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However, infantilism also has a key drawback - very few are willing to tolerate this quality. Infantilism makes it difficult to think soberly and make the right decisions. Plus, a person immediately forms an excessive emotional attachment, because of which he constantly makes concessions and even sacrifices his own interests.
Can't control his own emotions
Emotions cannot be controlled by many people who grew up in a family where they were not at all loved. This is due to the fact that in childhood they used to hide their emotions without showing pain and disappointment. And this is not surprising, because the parents never accepted complaints and did not even think to help when their child was ill.
At a more mature age, a person begins to hide his own emotions. He understands that there is no point in showing them or asking for help. At the same time, he will feel unhappy, because many desires and preferences will have to be silent.
Heightened vulnerability
Children who have not received enough warmth and love from their parents are afraid of rejection in adulthood. For example, when a girl finds a man for herself, at first he seems caring and ideal. Over time, everyday quarrels begin to arise, and vulnerability immediately manifests itself.
A child who has not received warmth always has an attention deficit. Excessive vulnerability can manifest itself in the following qualities:
- Silence.
- Indecision.
- Closure.
- Mistrust.
Such a person will not take the initiative or try to impose his own opinion on others. He has fear and prejudices that he cannot get rid of.
Having problems with your own children
How should a person educate their child if no one was involved in it in childhood? And here there are two options:
- complete detachment from education;
- excessive custody.
Both options are not suitable for parenting. After all, a person simply does not understand what and how he needs to do right. In adulthood, you have to get to know the world through trial and error.
What to do?
If you suspect that your problems originate in childhood, then do not hesitate to seek help from a psychologist. Yes, it can take longer than we would like to deal with the consequences of childhood trauma. But taking care of yourself is worth it. Each of us deserves harmonious relationships and the ability to make decisions, free from the burden of psychological problems.
