What lack of an American husband can his Russian wife not accept?
'21.11.2018'
Source: Zen.Yandex
American Stephen - one of my friends. He lives in Russia for a long time and is married to Russian Victoria. The couple has two children. Despite the difference in mentalities, which is obvious even after ten years, Vika and Stefan live together harmoniously and well. However, there is something with which Victoria, even after years, is very hard to put up with.
The quality, which she can not accept, Victoria calls a flaw that she noticed not only in Stefan, but also in other Americans, says a blogger Zen.Yandex.
She talks about it quite funny. But since Victoria has known about such a feature of her husband for many years, she tries not to be offended, although it does not always work out. And that's what it's about.
We all know how Americans love the so-called small talks. This is talking about nothing. In America, they are very, very popular. Americans start these conversations with sellers in shops, with passersby, with anyone. And this, according to Victoria, is not so bad. Americans are friendly, they have smiles on their faces, they like to talk superficially, to be attentive.
However, if you think that in the family they say otherwise, you are mistaken. For Victoria, it was a real discovery that at home Americans also made conversations about nothing. Americans can talk for hours about the weather, nature, talk about clothes or, eventually, discuss some news. This is a nice, meaningless conversation.
All would be fine, but according to Victoria, and her American husband is simply not capable of a serious heart-to-heart talk.
Vika admits that she used to pour out her soul to her husband, asked him for advice on this or that matter. She could 10-15 minutes to describe to him any situation or to tell what she feels. Stefan sat and looked at her, without saying anything in return. Sometimes he nodded, and Victoria was sure that her husband was listening very carefully. And then came the climax. Victoria, having finished speaking, finally asked her beloved man what he thought about this.
And she was overtaken by his sparkling phrase. The phrase that first introduced Vika into a stupor. The husband always said (very gently): “Honey, say it again, please”.
What?! Repeat 15 minutes again? What exactly to repeat? At first, Vika clarified, then she understood that her husband asks to repeat everything from the beginning, only preferably shorter. That he joined the conversation only after she asked him to give her assessment of her story. And before that, he just listened and smiled so sweetly.
The impression was that he was listening attentively, but the Americans were used to talking about nothing, and they had to be taught to have a long and serious conversation. "Do it again" - a phrase that Stefan said too often in the first year, and Vika was very angry.
Now Stefan tries to listen to Vika, especially if she first says that she needs his advice, and then begins to tell. But he is still often distracted and only pretends to listen. True, Victoria already understands that it is not worth taking offense at him. Either it is her husband like that, or it is in the American mentality - to talk about everything and nothing at the same time.
Have you seen this in your families or in the families of American friends?
