The article has been automatically translated into English by Google Translate from Russian and has not been edited.

Divorce, barren flower, old maid: how women are told that it is a shame to be unmarried

'01.04.2021'

Source: Obozrevatel

The man who invented marriage was definitely a man. So they are arranged, that their possessive and territorial instincts are stronger than those of the female half of humanity.

Photo: Shutterstock

For example, everyone knows that the more patriarchal the society, the stronger the institution of the family. But the closer to the victory of feminists, the more women fight for their right to sleep where, with whom and how much they want, blogger Marcelo Moreno writes for Obozrevatel... The more freedom women have, the more they tend to choose different hot and strong stallions, no matter how much men would like to think otherwise. All the notorious male polygamy begins when a legal wife is waiting for a man at home, who will not go anywhere. And when, secretly from this wife, you can sneak away to a beautiful, well-dressed prostitute in stockings.

But as soon as a man falls in love, he wants to completely own the object of his desire, otherwise he goes crazy. For example, women quite easily coexist in harems and even manage to create small coalitions within this community. If several men fall in love with one woman, then we know from history that this always ends in a duel, suicide, or some other trick. In harems, men do not reproduce, and do not even survive. For centuries, the male goal has been to find, kidnap, and capture some women. And stake them out. And the price of such desires was wars, murders and other human tragedies.

On the subject: One, all alone ... Why the famous Russian 'bachelorettes' do not marry

The blade of such a world order was double-edged. A woman, being defenseless in the existing social system, was in dire need of a man: a getter, an invader, a protector. Thus, the need for marriage between a man and a woman was mutual. Feminism, the sexual revolution, and the decline in the importance of manual labor freed women. Suddenly, the state took over the role of the protector, and the earner was the woman herself who went to work. As they said in my childhood, the role of a man as an invader is kept “on the nose”. Some women are still embarrassed to initiate dating themselves. But even here they are already stepping on the heels of men with their courses of seduction.

The men had practically no tools left to keep women “under the locker” - neither judicial, nor financial, nor moral. And the ancient firmware remained. Man is nothing more than a representative of the order of primates. And all male primates react very painfully to the sexual freedom of their females. Men still need marriage, no matter how they swagger trying to prove otherwise. This is simple biology. But they have less and less tools to keep a woman in it.

How to keep a woman who can earn her own bread? Which does not need your protection? Who is able to raise the child herself?

The ideal answer to this question would be this: you need to become her loyal and devoted friend, treat her with warmth and respect, try to give pleasure in bed and guarantee her exclusivity in your life. Then, perhaps, the woman will respond in kind.

On the subject: The main thing - do not get married: the secrets of success Catherine Deneuve

The cleverest of men have already restructured and have taken this simple piece of advice for themselves. They understand that loyalty in the modern world can be obtained only in exchange for loyalty, respect - in exchange for respect, and love and good sex - only by giving the same to the wife in full.

However, the main group of comrades desperately resists the natural course of development of relations. These are those who believe that loyalty can be obtained by intimidating a woman with fists, love - by bringing home something that resembles a salary, and sex - by threatening to run away to a provocatively dressed prostitute. Instead of making a woman want to be close to them, such men believe that a woman should jump to the ceiling for joy if they paid attention to her. But how to do this without offering the woman anything in return?

The collective public mind quickly came up with a way out: to devalue all unmarried women. So that those who are not members should strive, and those who do are feared.

"Divorced", "wasteland", "old maid". Why do you think these derogatory names are invented? For a while it worked out of inertia. Now it’s almost gone. The world has turned upside down, and now there are many more women who do not want to get married simply because it is time. They postpone marriage until they get on their feet, or decisively break the ties of marriage if the partner ceases to suit them.

Therefore, men are aggressive and scared, no matter how they try to disown their natural firmware. But the idea that it is necessary to look for new models of interaction sounds too weak in their heads. Alas.

Follow success stories, tips, and more by subscribing to Woman.ForumDaily on Facebook, and don't miss the main thing in our mailing list

WP2Social Auto Publish Powered By: XYZScripts.com