Relax: 10 Things Young Parents Needlessly Worry About
'14.08.2020'
Source: Nen.ru
Children grow up, and parents realize that most of their efforts to find and carefully select the “best” could easily be replaced with an extra couple of hours of sleep or blissful idleness. Nen.ru.
When a child appears in the family, parents try to surround him with love, care and all the “best” - from diapers to educational toys. And they often go overboard.
Today's Parent magazine author Kristen Thompson has compiled a list of ten nonsensical things she was needlessly worried about when her children were young. We hope this list will help young parents save their time, money and energy.
Homemade homemade organic food
I, like everyone else, are extremely positive about nutritious homemade food. But I've also learned to measure my own efforts and prioritize. This is because the cute, sweet babies who cheerfully chewed on the puree of organic carrots, now eat nothing other than what is dyed brown or has been industrially processed. They come back from school drunk with sugar because someone had a birthday, which means ten thousand cupcakes. So my children had a good first year of their lives, but now we are making the confectionery dressing a separate food group.
Clothes from children's boutiques that cost more than your own
It. About. Me. I was the same woman who buys bamboo baby T-shirts from local raw materials for $ 45 each. This is how seriously I took children's fashion. How everything has changed now. Now I throw dozens of leggings in the supermarket in my basket (or just buy a full garbage bag of second-hand clothes at a garage sale) because my kids will rip all of their pants anyway. Or, in the case of my six-year-old, fifty percent of all clothing will be irrevocably lost at school.
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Screen time limit
Ah, screen time and the eternal debate about which is more important: no screens until two years and a time limit after or the sanity of the parents? I was very selective about what and in what quantities my first daughter watched. But when the second daughter was born, everything went down the drain. I turned on cartoons to keep my older daughter busy while I feed the younger one or cook dinner, which requires both hands, which means that the baby has been watching TV since birth.
She will forever remain a sedentary lazy!
I know that such thoughts come to you when other children from your environment are already crawling on their bellies or start walking at nine months, and yours is just sitting blissfully on the rug. But some children skip the crawling phase and go straight to walking. I also know children who started walking much later than their first birthday, and now these children are able to overtake me while walking in the park. And although sometimes the late achievement of various stages of development may indicate the presence of some problems, in most cases this is not the case, and your doctor would definitely tell you if you had something to worry about. Moreover, once your children start moving, they will never stop again.
Potty training
Sleep is the hottest topic of discussion in parenting groups on Facebook, followed by potty training. Once a child is two years old, many parents go crazy about potty training and that if you start too early can hurt your child, and if you start too late… it can hurt him too.
In fact, there is no one “right” time to start teaching, nor a strategy that is universal for all children. In addition, it is not at all a fact that a 15-month-old baby who got rid of diapers will be able to go to Harvard simply because he learned to poop in a pot before he learned the alphabet. So don't worry if your kindergartner still has accidents! He will definitely learn, like everyone else.
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Introduction of complementary foods
Childhood achievements are cool! They allow us to follow the development of the child and make the parents' life a little more fun. But do not rush your child on the way to these achievements, and the introduction of complementary foods is a great example of this. Pediatricians recommend introducing complementary foods no earlier than six months, and when this age comes, parents begin to struggle with the choice of which product to start with.
Rice porrige? Meat? Fruits? If you start with fruit, your child will never want to eat anything savory. Then the meat? But he may choke. Then ... mashed potatoes? Pedagogical complementary foods? Relax, you can try both methods. It is not necessary to strictly adhere to one food philosophy as if they were two opposing camps. It doesn't matter how you start introducing complementary foods if your child eventually turns into a monster obsessed with chicken nuggets and cupcakes, as happened with my children.
Educational activities
Let's be honest - all these activities are needed more by parents than children. A baby who constantly sticks to a running fan without any problems does not need to choir with a tiny maracas, which he cannot yet hold in his hands.
Most toddlers I know hate kids soccer or kids ballet because the classes are too structured - they'd love to just jump, play and kick the ball freely.
And if I enrolled my first daughter in all conceivable and inconceivable circles at the age of two, then the youngest attended her first lesson when she was four. Now they both ski, skate and swim at about the same level. So go ahead, sign up for gymnastics classes for those who haven't started walking yet. Or save money by spending it on babysitting and dating your partner.
Fight against microbes
The baby turns into a huge ball of germs as soon as it starts putting everything in its mouth. And when he goes to kindergarten or school, he officially enters a phase called the "Decade of Endless Diseases." You will learn to distinguish the stages of the disease by the shade of green in his snot. Disgusting? Yes. It's also true. I understand that it is very uncomfortable when you have a constantly ill child at home, but contact with germs can even be beneficial for children, because it helps to strengthen their immune system. So put disinfectants aside, stock up on handkerchiefs, and get ready to take sick (Approx. Ed.: the article was written before the coronavirus pandemic).
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Height and weight of the child
Parents love to endlessly worry about which cell of the percentile table their children fall into, and compare these indicators as if they were the results of the USE. I got one small child and one big one. I raised them the same, fed them the same, and in the end it didn't matter. The place your child occupies on the percentile chart usually has nothing to do with who you are as a parent, or how your child will be when they grow up. Large children are no worse than miniature children - and vice versa. It doesn't mean anything at all! Just make sure your child's performance increases over time and leave this question alone.
Finding the best toys
I had a list of carefully selected, beautiful and expensive toys for children that I sent out to relatives on the eve of birthdays and Christmas. I imagined how my girls endlessly (and also quietly and without fights) play with useful educational toys. The reality turned out to be a little different.
All toys that are over six hours old have inevitably been declared "boring" and "I'm sick of it," so why bother at all? My children with great pleasure circled around me as companions while I was preparing dinner (folding clean linen, cleaning the apartment, etc.), than playing with toys that received many awards and prizes. This is why second-hand toys were invented ... and Netflix.
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