Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky gave advice to ideal mothers
'20.04.2021'
Source: Leadtior
The popular psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky shared his professional experience and named the main rules of the ideal mother, giving valuable advice to Russian (and not only) women.
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“Moms often come to me and ask how to help a child in 16 years make a choice - which profession to choose, which university to enter. Unfortunately, you are late. ”
“Learning to make a choice is necessary from birth, as soon as the child can answer. Every day ask: "What will you be for breakfast: fried eggs or an omelet?". This skill of making choices then it helps children to choose a profession and even a life partner, ”one of the secrets of Mikhail Labkovsky revealed.
According to the psychologist, it’s important for a child of 6 to give out certain amount pocket money. “A child can spend everything on candy or save money to buy a machine later, but he will learn how to spend money! This is very important, ”explains the expert.
Do not force children clean up! The only sure way to teach them to physical labor is a game. When they are 3 or 4 years, let them wash the dishes or the floor, if it is in the form of a game, then in 10 will not cause a protest.
Mikhail Labkovsky warns: do not stand while feeding a child include cartoons. According to him, in this case “food intake turns into a throwing into the furnace”, and the baby should enjoy food, “and not mechanically chew”.
“Put a plate on the table and remove in 15 minutes. I didn’t eat it - and okay, I will eat my next meal, ”advises the psychologist.
The expert is also sure that you shouldn’t force yourself to spend time with children when you don’t want it, because babies feel everything.
Do not turn on the "yazhmemat"! It is better to spend with the child 20 minutes a day, but with pleasure. And devote the rest of the time to yourself and your development. After all, the coolest thing you can give your children is an example!
In addition, Labkovsky warns: it is absolutely impossible to beat children.
“This is not a method of education, this is your aggression. The child does not understand why they are beating him, he just feels fearful like an animal - and that’s it! ”
"If you do not want to train children like animals, don't touch them! Physical violence is a direct path to neurosis ... You cannot cope with aggression - go to a psychologist. ”
The main advice that Mikhail Labkovsky gives moms is to love your child.
“Children who are perelyubili, does not exist! It is impossible to over-love the child! ”
Hug your children often and say you love them. Only love can give your baby confidence and a happy adulthood.
