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'Orthodox harem': how a Russian lives with three wives and 13 children

'22.11.2018'

Source: TVNZ

The Red Army soldier Sukhov from the "White Sun of the Desert" promised the "comrades women" from Abdullah's harem each a separate spouse. But our contemporary Ivan Sukhov is ready to challenge the assertion of his famous film surname that polygamy is a relic of the accursed past. He organized his personal Sultan seraglio near Vladimir, in the town of Alexandrov. Here, in a four-room mortgage apartment, he lived with all three of his wives and 13 children. And by the age of 50, he planned to give his patronymic name to fifty kids.

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In the registry office, however, as expected by law, only one official wife is recorded, writes TVNZ... And the children are not all from Ivan, although they bear his last name. But Sukhov himself believes that these are all formalities. Like, before God and people - we are one strong and friendly family.

50 children to 50 years

Ivan honestly admits that he decided to become a polygamist after a trip to the Caucasus. I thought: Muslims are possible, and we, Orthodox Russians, are the worse? He announced that he plans to make 50 children by 50 years, which means his wife’s heirs should give birth to him several times a year. And everything seemed to go according to plan.

On one living space, three maternity maids peacefully got along, a dozen children aged from several months to 14 years and one proud head of the family, constantly raising the birth rate in the Russian outback.

And then a scandal broke out: the younger wife Julia ran away, taking with her three children. And then on television, he accused Ivan Sukhov of imposing home-building orders: he was beaten, humiliated, forbidden to leave the house, threatened with murder. Why is the experimental “Orthodox harem” falling apart and is there such a future for such families? "Komsomolskaya Pravda" talked with all the participants in a non-standard cell of society.

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“Vanya, why do you need this?”

- Sergey, Anna, Vasilisa, Galya, Varya, Dima, Vova, Solomon, Samson, Moses, Andrey and Lazar, - Ivan Sukhov diligently lists the names of the children, as if recalling the multiplication table. - How much did it turn out? Count! 12? Means, forgot someone. Ah, Kirill, for sure! Cyril is the thirteenth.

With his legalized faithful Natalia, the man has been living together for 11 for years, although she is not his first. By the 23 years, he had two divorces. And, by his own admission, many mistresses.

- We have such a tradition in Russia: every man has a permanent mistress, or even two or three.

- Yah? So straight for everyone? I shake my head.

- Almost everyone. If it's a man, - Ivan stubbornly. - Now, of course, there are those thin, with glasses, who do not even have a wife, let alone a mistress. But they are in the minority. As well as those who do not need women at all.

My interlocutor says that one day he got tired of living in a lie, for two families. And I decided to combine them into one big one.

Said: Meet the girls. This is Natasha, she is a nurse. And this is Anya, she is an investigator in the police. Love you both. We will live together. Amazingly, the girls agreed.

- I was surprised, of course, greatly, - says Natasha-nurse. - Why do you need this, Vanya, I asked. I can do everything around the house, I have time for everything. I was indignant for a month and a half, and then I saw the advantages. The husband is at home all the time, with us. Does not disappear at night, travels less often on business trips. And I accepted this situation.

Anya investigator moved to Alexandrov (a population of just over 50 thousand people) from Moscow.

- I do not pay attention to condemnation among colleagues. Moreover, I'm on a long maternity leave. Let everyone do their own life. I knew that Vanya had more than one. So what?

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“I earn a little”

Comrade Sukhov answers evasively to questions about the profession and earnings. Occupation: CEO of the company. Business: provision of services for the repair of household appliances and interior decoration. He says that before the company had branches throughout Russia, and now he has only the 20 people left in submission.

- I earn little, - Ivan suddenly pricks. - How many, I will not say, but not enough for a man.

- How do you keep your women then? And children?

- Where did you get these dense ideas about women? What are they livestock to keep? In our country, according to the Constitution, women and men have equal rights and obligations, - the polygamist scolds me severely, and I do not understand whether he is joking or serious.

- All my wives work, earn. The state hardly helps: 12 thousand rubles a month for all children. But we have enough, thank God.

God Ivan constantly remembers and considers himself a true Orthodox. He says that in his youth he graduated from Sunday school and tried to enroll in a seminary. But the Bible emphasizes the Old Testament, where there are examples of polygamy. Hence the Old Testament names of the younger children: Solomon, Moses, Samson.

Dictatorship of patriarchy

Last summer, Ivan brought another girl, Yulya, and her three children to his four-room harem. Like Anya’s “middle” wife, Ivan met Yulia on a dating site. He offered to move in with him, designed paternity over all three of her children.

- He spoke beautifully, powdered his brains, - the girl now sighs. - But it turned out that he was lying from the very beginning.

In family life with one man and several women, Julia became disillusioned after about a month.

“All life is there - rules and punishments,” the woman recalls. - Children from morning to evening are allowed only to read and write. No cartoons or toys. If you don’t want to practice, you will be peeling, washing with cold water, putting you in a corner all day. He beat me with a belt for fights. He also pounds for a grade at school, forbids walking ... Everyone is afraid of him to the point of trembling in the knees, although he only threatens his wives and puts a lot of moral pressure on him.

On television, Yulia spoke about her civil husband twice. First about how good Ivan is, and the second time - what a tyrant he is.

- The first time he just dictated to me what I should say. But I went to television with the thought that I wanted to leave him and tell the whole truth.

After her escape, Julia wrote a statement to the police and asked her to bring her recent “betrothed” to account for the beatings and torture of children.

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Looking for a third wife

- Julia's act is a blow for me, - says Ivan. - Everything was so good! She was six months pregnant. Begged me to have a child with her. Maybe she got another one? No, I don't think so. It's just that television turned her head. The girl hyipanut (a new word means - to get a share of fame and attention. - Ed.) Decided.

Sukhov allows his remaining wives to speak up for escape.

- Well settled, - says the "elder" Natalia. - Vanya adopted her three children, and now she has filed for alimony. He wants to receive 27 thousand a month from him. Plus children from the state. You don't have to work.

- Nothing! A holy place is never empty, ”the“ average ”Anya gets excited. - We have already found a third wife to replace her. I wanted to annoy our husband, but only advertised him all over the country. After that transfer, the women themselves write to him, there is no end.

In the sincerity of the reproaches of the former concubine Julia does not believe. Believes they are intimidated.

- They have their own opinion, but they are afraid to even say it, - explains the fugitive. - He shuts them up right away. It should be just the way Ivan thinks.

- Julia, do you really demand alimony from Ivan, knowing that he is not the father of your children?

- And what does this have to do with it? - the girl was effaced. - This is beside the point. Who is the father of my children and what happened to him, I will not tell. Let's talk only about Ivan's behavior.

Ivan's wife Julia. Photos: social networks

“Deny the criminal case”

The police check at the request of Yulia ended with a refusal to initiate a criminal case. The juvenile affairs inspector Viktoria Gavrilova talked with Ivan's two remaining wives and neighbors of the unusual family and found no cause for concern. Children are polite, tidy, there are no screams in the apartment. “No signs of crime were found in the actions of IA Sukhov,” says the conclusion of the rejected material.

But maybe, if not the police, then at least the guardianship against? We appeal to the head of the guardianship and trusteeship department of the city of Alexandrov, Tatyana Makartseva.

- And we went to this family more than once, - Tatyana Anatolyevna worried. - We conducted tests with doctors, psychologists. But the threats to the children were not revealed. The father in our presence behaved adequately, the children have food, the apartment is cleaned. We took them under control and will now visit at least once a month.

“From a purely human point of view, I think that a normal person does not treat such cohabitation very well. There are some foundations in our society. In my opinion, there is no need to advertise such a family. But there are no grounds for the removal of the children. ”

But Ivan Sukhov himself believes that his experience should be replicated to the masses. And plans to campaign for the legalization of polygamy in the country. For what he started a blog and went to Tatarstan - to shoot there on video a family where a man and several women live under one roof. He still believes that this family model is the future.

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COMMENTARY OF THE PRIEST

"Polygamy is a mortal sin"

“Of course, examples of polygamy are known in history,” says Archpriest Alexander Ilyashenko. - They are described in the Bible. But we don't live in biblical times! Yes, once men were warriors and hunters, they often died in their prime. Then, to replenish the population, society took such a measure. But as soon as life stabilized, the peoples came to monogamy.

From the point of view of the Russian Orthodox Church, cohabitation with several women is a grave mortal sin. This is a crime against these women, before society and even before myself. The Church categorically does not accept polygamy.

DIRECT SPEECH

"Mother did not love"

Any psychotherapist will say that the roots of many adult problems lie in childhood. Ivan Sukhov does not hide the fact that he grew up in a problem family:

“I didn't know my real father. He left my mother when I was only a year old. And the man whom I considered my own father turned out to be the second husband of my mother. I found out about this only after my stepfather died. I do not communicate with my mother. She does not support me and has never supported me. My stepbrother was her favorite child. "Affectionate calf" - so she said about him. And she didn't love me, she was too stubborn. My brother respects me, but does not support me. He says: you'd better get a mistress like everyone else. And I don't want like everyone else.

EXPERT OPINION

"It corrupts children"

“The cohabitation of a father with several women in the same house, of course, leads to the corruption of children,” says Tatiana Shishova, a psychologist and member of the board of the Russian Children's Fund. - This does not correspond to the moral laws of our society, at least the Orthodox part of it. Some of these children, when they grow up, will copy their father's behavior. Others, on the contrary, will hide a grudge against him for their treatment of their mother for life. This is a deep moral conflict for a child. There is a concept of “improper parenting” in the Criminal Code, but laws do not always work when it comes to immoral behavior. As far as I know, such cohabitation is characteristic of sects. It is imperative to check the mental state of this man.

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