Practical advice on dating online
'22.08.2017'
Source: Marina Sokolovskaya
Unbearable to marry? How to correctly - and most importantly - effectively look for your soul mate in the stormy sea of online dating, Maria Sokolovskaya knows, happy wife and mother of many children.
Surprisingly, but a fact - many are not just afraid to meet online, but still consider it something special, special, not for everyone. In my family, all women met their husbands on dating sites. I summarized our experience. True, it’s only about Americans. In Russia, I have never met on websites, but I think that some points will coincide with Russian reality.
1. Write the truth. Don't hide children, excess weight and age. No, if you just like online communication to the point of stupidity, then put a photo at least of the Queen of England - that's how I do)) But if you came to the site for a husband, friend, partner, etc., do not hide it. How many times have I heard complaints from a man: she put photographs ten years ago, she put only a face and never a body, she didn’t say that she already had children and she didn’t want others, she hid that she was smoking like a locomotive ...
Why is a dating site good? There you can quickly cut off those you don't need at all. So I didn’t want to have children anymore, I didn’t want to meet a smoker, I didn’t want a religious man and preferred that he lived next to me. Agree, when you meet a man, for example, in a bar, it is difficult to understand from the first time - according to the most general indicators, is he suitable for you or not? And on the site you are always welcome! Provided, of course, that the man did not lie) But this is a separate point.
Decent men want the truth too. Yes, someone does not care how much you weigh, but someone is important - has every right. Someone does not want children, but someone, on the contrary, wants her to already have, because he himself has two. Etc. So what's the point in lying? Tell about yourself - and you will get those who are looking for just such.
2. Yes, the sites are full of men who do not need a serious relationship, they pretend and lie. But you, too, are not eighteen-year-old provincials, are you? For me, a beacon that a man wants a serious relationship was the information in the “about myself” section, but with one important footnote - if in this section I saw three kilometers of words and sentences, then I knew right away that this comrade was not on my way ... This is exclusively my opinion, I am not saying that everyone who reports about themselves to the maximum is not like that. I say that these are usually not my people. Because I myself wrote something like this in my information about myself - I wash my hands before eating, I sleep quietly. But she did! In general, be careful here.
3. Still, as sad as it is to clarify, it is necessary to be careful with Russian-speaking men on American sites. Yes, no offense. But many people hide that they live in the country illegally. If we are talking about a girl from Russia who is looking for an American for herself, then it is clear that the speech is already on the verge of a situation - she comes to him, this is more than serious, and he is illegal in the country, that is, she has to catch him with him there is nothing…
4. Those who live in America will confirm, the rest as information I inform - no, girls usually do not pay for a drink on the first date. And on the second, and others. No, of course, there may be such ladies who insist on this. But in principle, they don't pay - American men are generous.
5. Yes, sometimes you have to go to such dates as to work. One of my relatives went to 44 in a row. She almost despaired, went to 45, confusing the name and circumstances - she thought she was going on a date with one and came to another. Everything, as in the song - he went to Odessa, and went to Kherson. The 45th turned out to be a prize, they got married and live happily for themselves (tfu, tfu, tfu).
6. And vice versa - do not be afraid if a man from the very first date seemed to you that way. So it was with me. I met Eddie on the website www.pof.com and I have never met anyone else from that site. Just went out, I saw him near the car and my heart caught in the area of the left heel. He didn’t have such a feeling))) At first he didn’t understand HOW he was lucky, and even avoided his happiness (just kidding).
7. If idiots chronically write to you and on dates they are also exclusively them, then something needs to be changed in the conservatory ... No, looking for a husband on the site is, in principle, not very easy, they are really full of outcasts, pickupers, those who are not intellectually a fountain ... But there are also plenty of beautiful men. Wonderful, smart, witty, kind, etc. It's just that if you're picking the wrong dates for a date, it's probably your problem. You have to sit down and think - and what qualities do you primarily focus on when choosing a man for a martini glass?
8. Never go on dates without money, even if it is the third one with the same man. There must be money, if anything, to pay the bill and take a taxi.
9. Don't forget to be careful. You can easily make a date during the day, during a break at work, or on a weekend in the morning - there are no rules here, you don't have to go somewhere at night looking.
10. And the most important thing is that if you realized that you weren’t, you immediately understood from the first date - no, not mine ... don’t wait, just say right away - sorry, I don’t think we are coming up to each other. Don't rivet a person's brain, if only because karma is a bitch 
Good luck to all ))
