Why don't you keep your New Year promises
'08.01.2020'
Source: Life hacker
You don’t get closer to goals if you make one of these mistakes, notes Lifehacker.
For many, the winter holidays are an occasion to take stock of the year, as well as to outline the main goals for the next. We take a new expensive notebook (this is important!), A beautiful pen, think about it and ... Again, we display approximately the same words that were written a year ago: "lose weight", "change jobs", "go in for sports", "quit smoking" and more by the list. Why it happens?
1. This is not your goal.
“The true value of a person is measured in those things to which he aspires.” - Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor.
If from year to year you set the same goal, but you can’t get off the ground, it’s quite possible that you don’t really need it. The goal may be imposed by the environment or by advertising. It will be difficult for you to go to the tropical islands if you like fishing in a nearby pond the most, or to get a promotion at a job that you hate.
So before making a list, make sure that this is what you want with all your heart. The goal should be in line with your interests and affections.
2. The goal is wrong
Most likely, your list of eternal goals contains items like “become healthier”, “earn more money”, or even “become more energetic”. All these dreams are doomed to failure in advance, because they do not meet several simple conditions:
- the goal should be specific;
- have a clear condition for achieving and measuring progress;
- can be decomposed into several simpler tasks.
Your list should not contain the abstract “become healthier”, but the specific “run 1 kilometers in a year”. This goal will then find its expression in the monthly and weekly plans.
3. You do not have a plan to achieve the goal
“No business will seem impossible if you break it down into small parts.” - Henry Ford, American industrialist, inventor.
You can set arbitrarily ambitious goals, but without a concrete plan, they will remain unfulfilled. Each goal should become the basis for a plan of small and specific events with a clear link to dates and circumstances. This plan may be faulty, but it must be.
On the subject: Promise and fulfill: 8 New Year goals that are easy to achieve.
4. You do not follow the progress
Do not drop your plan immediately after the holidays. Let it be always at hand. Better yet, set a reminder on the calendar and come back to it every month. Create a system of accounting and control of the achieved indicators, whether it is the lost kilograms, kilometers traveled, money earned or pages written. Reward yourself for progress.
5. You do not adjust plans
Only ideal movie people never make a mistake. You can set yourself a goal beyond your strength or outline the wrong way to achieve it. Life can make a sharp turn that you simply could not foresee. Do not be afraid to admit it and make adjustments.
For example, you want to lose weight and have developed a thorough plan for running training. But if it was already found out in the process that running is not yours, or it’s too hard, or is contraindicated for your body, then get your way in another way. But in no case do not abandon the goal!
6. You do not believe yourself
Belief in yourself and your abilities is one of the main secrets of success. Set the same goal in front of two people, and one who believes will find ways to achieve it, and one who does not believe will seek excuses and excuses.
Look again at the list of your future achievements. Do you really believe that you can do this? Well then, good luck!
