How does the work of American women affect their children?
'10.03.2018'
Source: New York Post
New York psychotherapist Erika Komizar is convinced that working mothers harm the psyche and development of their young children.
The expert told New York Post that she sees an "epidemic level" of mental problems in young children in America, and links this to the social "devaluation of motherhood."
“Our society tells women, 'Go back to work, do what you want, they'll be fine.' But they're not okay, ”emphasizes Erica.
Komizar has released the book Being Here: Why Priority Motherhood Matters in the First Three Years, which explains in detail the importance of the mother's presence in the child's life at this time. The therapist complains that babies are literally overwhelmed with stress hormones when their mothers are absent. The tension goes away when mom returns.
But not all communication is the same. Comisar says that most working moms spend just 90 minutes with their children before putting them to bed. The expert believes that many children do not sleep all night, because they crave more attention from the mother.
“Put all the distractions aside: your computers, iPads, your phones. Do not take them until the child is asleep, ”recommends Erica.
In addition, the specialist suggests that mothers allow their babies to go to bed later because 90 minutes a day is too little to provide the child with emotional protection and relieve them of stress. The therapist believes that kindergarten is the “least favorite option” for toddlers because it exposes them to fear and stress.
Komizar stressed that her comments are not important in order to demonize mothers who are forced to work. She hopes that all American women will eventually be able to spend at least a year on paid parental leave. Erika says that at the level of society, it is important to consider maternal work as valuable work. “There is no more important and valuable work,” the expert is convinced.
