Opinion: why is it okay to take money from a man
'14.03.2021'
Source: Sasha Taeva, "Smart"
With the development of society, and especially with the advent of feminism, women have become much more independent - if desired, each of us can achieve a good position and not deny ourselves anything. But life situations are different, and therefore do not be afraid to ask your man about money.
Is this normal?
The main thing in the relationship of two people - equality. If you are sure that your man can help you financially in the same way as you do to him, then no one forbids doing this by mutual consent. In this situation, the main thing to distinguish such concepts as "take the money" and "sit on the neck." If both people are equally eager to be successful people, then there is nothing wrong with taking money from your partner. It is better to discuss such details at the very beginning of the relationship in order to understand whether you have similar views on finances.
Moreover, a man to pay for his woman should not be ashamed or unpleasant - this is one of the manifestations of caring for a loved one. You can take care in different ways, and when a woman has any financial difficulties, a man wants to help her, this is completely normal.
Call of Duty
Also, do not feel that you owe someone something, if your man has agreed to pay you something / buy something or just give money. This is an act of goodwill, and you do not need to think that it is worth somehow “deserve” or “repay”.
You can always return the money to him later, or do something for him in return when he needs help.
Healthy relationships are built on the principle of mutual assistance and mutual respect. If your partner openly hints or demands something in return for material things, or, having the opportunity, does not help you at all, knowing that you have a very difficult position - you are probably in an abusive relationship.
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Why are we embarrassed?
And yet, even if we know that this is normal, it’s still embarrassing to take money from a young man. This feeling is quite understandable psychologically - when we ask for something from someone, it means that we cannot get it ourselves, and this makes us weak.
But this does not mean at all that we really cannot stand up for ourselves or pay for ourselves - it only means that you may not be used to a person yet, and at first it is always embarrassing. Even if it is subconsciously, we still do not want to look more helpless than our partner, especially in the 21 century!
But when a couple gets used to each other, usually finances cease to be owned by someone and partners absolutely calmly (with certain agreements, of course) can pay for each other and not worry about money, because they are practically one whole - and this is completely normal.
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