Why do mothers think that everyone should
'06.12.2018'
Source: Rambler
The Internet is replete with stories about cheeky young ladies with babies, attracting attention to themselves and demanding various benefits and indulgences, justifying all this with the catchphrase phrase “I'm the Mother,” and saying “He's a child” about his darling.
These words in a merged form have already become a household name and hashtags that mark episodes of such maternal "eccentricities", writes Rambler. But doctors and psychologists often speak out in defense of such women, although not justifying their behavior completely, but partially explaining it.
Today, as a concept, although not entirely medical, but more psychological, Yazhemateri syndrome is highlighted.
Look for roots in pregnancy
To understand where the yazheteri syndrome comes from and how long it can last, you should know the physiology of pregnancy and subsequent labor.
A pregnant woman is a special woman, because her brain and all systems are controlled by "pregnant" hormones. They affect not only the appearance and organs, changing the body according to the needs of the growing fetus, but also the brain activity, behavior and mood.
It is because of this that pregnant women are often detached, absent-minded, tearful and capricious, with their overruns in the form of demands from an unhappy husband in the middle of February of fresh watermelon and chocolate-coated herring.
But that's not all: by the middle of pregnancy a special area is formed in the brain - the dominant of pregnancy, which gradually subordinates all the behavior of a woman to her own tum. A woman begins to "nest", equipping for the future baby nursery, buying little things, and all her interests are mainly focused on the crumbs.
This is normal, taking care of the offspring is a key female role in evolution, but sometimes this care and the child itself become practically a “religious cult”, and after giving birth this does not go away, but only sharpens.
Therefore, with the birth of a child, the interests of a woman are fixated on the little one, all the other worries and problems come to the fore, and the first germs of a typical mother begin to emerge. If a woman has not passed the symptoms of this syndrome, then after childbirth, even if the child has grown up, and then she already finishes school, an overly caring mommy, who cannot unhook her “baby” from her own skirt, frankly bewilders, if it is delicate.
Such women, we repeat, justify their behavior regarding the child and the surrounding society with the proud phrase “I’m a mother!”, And they are firmly convinced that, having given birth to a baby, they have the right to demand respect and reverence, praise and close attention from everyone, they should ! Hormones, not having “settled down”, partially regulate such behavior, but often the syndrome is fueled by social networks and the specifics of education of mommy herself (and often - the lack of this education).
Typical Symptoms
First of all, Yazhema piously believes in her ideality, infallibility and in the fact that everyone around her must, must and immediately begin to fulfill all her whims. Standing in line, even if it is a children's clinic and around the same mothers with children - oh no, yazhemat! And she unceremoniously goes right through to the doctor’s office if no one stops her.
Brazenly and unceremoniously, defiantly behave in any places - public transport, shops, schools or any other places.
Their baby immediately everyone should give way. And the place should not be any, but only what her child wants, and preferably two. She is so comfortable, and the thought dominates in her head that everyone simply must and must always and everywhere concede to her!
She does not care about the comfort of others, defiantly changing the soiled diapers to a child in the middle of a restaurant, hoisting her child on a bar counter or a table. And to the reasonable comments of others, he answers sharply and boorishly! She is also breastfeeding in the midst of institutions, completely without hiding her nudity and not caring for herself to hide behind or find a secluded nook. At the attempts of modest remarks, she responds with a challenge: this is a natural process, and this is not breast, but baby food!
Attitudes toward others: challenge and insolence
Yazheteri's anger can be brought on by making a remark to her child, throwing a piece of candy paper past an urn, ramming you with a cart in a store or dangling your feet in a transport and smearing people. It's your fault, and the point!
Another number of undoubted anti-virtues of such mummies - tactlessness in a mixture with an increased level of aggressiveness. Besides the fact that she is ready to tear with her teeth anyone who looks askance at her child, she imposes her maternal opinion on others. It is normal for her to ask questions to other women and give her “valuable” advice on the type of:
- why still not bore, sick, or what?
- when you give birth to the second, the baby needs a brother!
- Why do you need a dog, give birth to a baby!
- Be sure to breastfeed up to two years, as you give birth!
Moreover, she gives out such advice and questions to practically unfamiliar women, considering herself the most experienced and certified expert in maternity.
If time does not escape, after a series of such phrases it is possible to run into the lecture “The true purpose of the female body is a reservoir for the royal heir”. And she will not ask if you are interested and need such information.
Analyzing the behavior of such moms here, reflect on why and for whom they give birth to their children? Sometimes it may feel that they gave birth to a baby not to raise and give a decent education, but to get the status of "mother", put a tick - "I gave birth", and also boast of social networks with photos, show all friends who do not have children, "what a fine fellow I am!" In this case, the very children of such mothers think in the least. This is sad…
