Why do Americans send relatives to nursing homes: the opinion of an immigrant
'22.12.2020'
Source: Dumb America on Yandex Zen
Author of the channel "Stupid America" on Yandex.Zen talks about how the United States treats older relatives living in institutions rather than in families.
“My grandfather has been living in a nursing home for the past two years,” says an American friend of mine named Jen.
“Dad at that time was already living in Florida, his brother in Arizona, and grandfather himself in Kentucky. Even if we transported him, there would be no one to look after.
I was still little then, my dad worked a lot at the bank. But most importantly, the grandfather himself did not want this….
- I'm already old. Why should I be a burden to someone, feel uncomfortable? And so I am surrounded by peers, there is someone to chat with about sores, - he loved to joke.
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Grandpa played a lot of poker. He immediately became the soul of the company, many friends appeared. I think it was psychologically easier for him there… ”, - Jen shares.
Indeed, nursing homes in the United States sometimes resemble a resort: a huge area with lawns and trees, friendly staff and cozy rooms. Activities for retirees are organized, from movie clubs to Halloween celebrations.
But is it so good to live in this picture on your own, even with peers?
In America, the nursing home is the norm rather than the exception to the rule. And often their own choice. Like staying in your house, but hiring a nurse.
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Perhaps it's all about early separation with children: at the age of 17-18, they already rent a separate apartment or move to a hostel.
And most importantly, living with a 25-year-old “child” is not normal for an American family. Apparently, this also works in the opposite direction: do not move to the children or transport them to your place at 75-80.
Original column published on the blog. "Stupid America" on Yandex.Zen
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