Saws, whines, says a lot: the most common complaints of married men to women
'26.04.2021'
Source: Delfi.lv
In marriage, all couples have light and dark periods. It is clear that no one is perfect, and from time to time the spouses may accumulate claims against each other. Family psychotherapists told Womens Health Mag magazine what behavior women are not comfortable with men.
She constantly "nags" me
This is one of the most common complaints of married men, writes Delphi. What a woman considers a necessary reminder, a man perceives as criticism. Women often make men feel undervalued and think that they are not doing well enough. The man perceives it as an attack and resists, and when it does not help, he is alienated.
As family psychotherapists advise, if you do not want unnecessary quarrels and disagreements, then instead of throwing it to your husband again, “Why should I take out the trash? Maybe at least sometimes you will do it? " say, “I have so many things to do at home, and I know it’s all small things to you, but I’d be glad if you could take out the trash every Tuesday and Friday. I would appreciate your help. "
It is important for people to be appreciated, otherwise they lose the desire to do something. For the husband to help you, you need to express the request in the right words
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We make love too rarely
Physical closeness in marriage is very important, but for men it is often more important than for women. For couples who have been married for a long time, this side of the relationship gradually fades into the background. For various reasons, sex is becoming less and less.
Of course, one solution for all does not exist, but planning can help - for example, sex once a week, if it suits both.
But sex should not become a burden to anyone. If it does not bring pleasure to one partner, then the second will be less pleasant.
A man feels emotional closeness to a woman more if they have regular sex. And women are more likely to have sex if they have an emotional closeness to a man. This is one of the reasons why the attitude of men and women to intimacy is different.
She talks too much
Men think that all women talk too much. Men can not concentrate for a long time and pay attention to one topic, and because of this, women often have the impression that their husbands do not listen to them.
In addition, women often think faster than men, and they may feel that their husbands do not immediately answer their questions because they do not want, but in fact men just need more time to think about the answer.
To improve mutual communication, the therapist recommends asking all questions to the man at the beginning of the conversation, as well as maintaining pauses between them, which will help your husband to "process" what he hears.
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The most important thing in the family is the child
With the advent of the child in the family, the relationship between husband and wife is changing rapidly. For example, the frequency of sex is reduced. The fact that the wife pays more attention to the child and gives him all her love, the man does not like, he begins to feel forgotten and unnecessary.
Although taking care of a child takes a lot of time, try to find it for your husband too. A kiss before bedtime, a hug and other tokens will show him that he is important to you too.
Even when the child is still small, leave him at least once a month under the supervision of his grandmother and enjoy each other’s company, this will improve your satisfaction with the partnership.
She's endlessly complaining
At the sessions with a psychotherapist, men also often pay attention to the fact that their wives are always dissatisfied with something and complain of everything. Meanwhile, this behavior is not peculiar to men, because they believe that complaints make them vulnerable and show their weaknesses, but they do not want to be weak.
Try not to take everything in a negative way, notice more good things, and there will be nothing to complain about.
