Mistakes that you do not make with the second child
'13.05.2019'
Source: Womanhit
Young mothers, who only had a firstborn, want to become the best parents in the world, but by the time the second baby arrives, they understand how wrong they were. We tell why the second time will be easier.
The first child is always a test for young parents: it is not clear how to care, and the feeling of insecurity does not leave, even if you are helped by relatives, writes WomanHit.ru. With the second child is already much easier (provided that the difference between children for at least a year). The young mother has already gone through "fire and water", and therefore cares about the new family member, already the second, are not so psychologically crushed.
We decided to collect the main mistakes of young mothers that they make with the first child, and certainly they will not repeat with the second one. Let's start.
If you buy things, only new ones
As a rule, a woman even during pregnancy begins to actively “build a nest”: she sets up a nursery, buys children's things, and necessarily new ones. It turns out that by the time of birth, the child already has five or six sets of things from the best children's store - well, really, do not take the second from experienced mothers!
In most cases, the urge to buy only the best and new to the child is characteristic of the mother with the firstborn. During the second pregnancy, the woman begins to clearly realize that much of the previously acquired it simply was not useful, and some of the things can be taken from a girlfriend with a baby.
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Constant condemnation of other parents
Identical people simply do not exist, nevertheless, mothers “recruits” treat other parents with contempt, who complain about the lack of time due to the hyperactive child. Inexperienced parents immediately award this mommy with the title of “The Worst Parent of the Year”, therefore her child is ill-mannered. However, as soon as you have a second child, who will not be as calm as your firstborn, you realize that you were extremely wrong.
I would never ...
Maximumism is inherent not only to teenagers, but also to young parents with a single baby. Remember how you were a parent for the first time, for sure your relatives constantly heard similar phrases from you: I would never give a child so much sweets, I would never prohibit watching TV, I would never swear and stuff like that. Familiar? Sure yes.
Treat your child as exceptional
Due to inexperience, my mother thinks that if her baby went a few weeks before Vasya in the yard, everything speaks about the peculiarities of her child. But you do not need to run to the site to other moms and try to become the center of attention, drawing attention to the event that is important only for you. Remember that as soon as you have more than one child, you will understand that each of them has their own path of development, and your second or third child can go later than everyone else in the yard, but this will not talk about any deviations - because all children are different.
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To live without parting with Google
Modern technologies make the life of young mothers much easier: now you no longer need to run to the pharmacy to find out about the availability of a medicine - you can google it. The same applies to things - you just order them at home. However, many parents literally merge with the search engine, it seems to them that this is the place where they will find answers to all their questions. However, you will soon realize that the Internet is not the best place to find serious answers to questions, especially when it comes to your baby's health.
In any case, no one is born the ideal parent: our moms and dads started with something too, and you will also gain experience, so it will be much easier for you to cope with each subsequent child.
