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Well, when is the wedding? Phrases that it is better not to tell a friend with a long engagement
'02.05.2017'
Several years ago, The Knot magazine conducted a survey among its readers, as a result of which it was found that the average time from engagement to engagement was 14,5 months. However, for some couples this time may be significantly longer. What and how should you say to these couples so as not to cause negative emotions? In this article, we have collected phrases that will definitely be inappropriate.
1. Have you already set your wedding date?
In principle, this question can be asked. Once or twice. And if you are in a fairly close relationship with a couple. However, if you ask the same thing every week or two, you will begin to cause, to put it mildly, bewilderment. Yes, and start thinking about you all ... bad. Everything is simple: when it will be clear, she herself will be the first to shout about it at all intersections.
2. Well, when will we go to choose a dress?
This question, unlike the previous one, cannot be asked at all. That is not impossible at all. It is clear that many would like to participate in such a serious and responsible event. But! If you have not yet been informed about the date of the wedding, then such a question will only upset your girlfriend.
3. A minute, how much time are you going?
If you are so reckless and courageous that you dare to ask this question, keep in mind one thing - to avoid a quarrel, you can ask it already at the wedding itself, which everyone has been looking forward to for so many years. And if you decide to ask this question, even with genuine participation in your eyes, in an ordinary conversation, then do not expect anything good in return.
4. And Sveta with Benjamin have already set a wedding date!
Well, of course she is happy for them! There is no doubt. But how can this valuable information bring the date for her own wedding, which she is waiting for? That's it, no way. But an extra reason to mourn, you gave a friend.
5. Do you even want to get married?
It would be very strange to live for many years together, leading a common household, and not want. There are problems that many people simply do not want to advertise. It may well be financial, career problems or circumstances. In addition, it is now commonplace that couples do not see much sense in formally legalizing their relationship. At least, until it comes to the children. But you never know what the circumstances may be. But it’s not at all necessary that people are willing to discuss them.
6. Why do you need a solemn wedding?
And then! You must understand and accept the fact that people, most likely, if they are delaying with the date of the wedding, is not at all because they do not know that everything can be arranged without formal registration. As stated above, there may be some circumstances that do not give a clear date. And it is possible that THEIR day has not come yet, in which they will want to tie their destinies?
