Male view: how women learn to enjoy life
'31.05.2019'
Happiness, success, achievement, joy, sadness, confusion, dissatisfaction, euphoria ... It's all the notes of our life. They constitute the very symphony that we, as composers, write and perform, and those around us will have to listen to all this. Sometimes there are pleasant, melodic, rhythmic, pleasing souls and ears sounds. But it happens that a continuous cacophony falls on us, although the performer does not hear this.
And all because you can't make a necklace out of bricks, and you can't make a festive bouquet out of shot ducks. Let me explain. In order for our bouquet to form, look cute and delight everyone, it must first of all please us. And what can please us? Happiness, success, achievement. And the trick is that numerous obstacles await us on this thorny path. Some of them are not prepared by us: fleeting time, illness, lack of a teacher, talent. But there are those that we poked ourselves into our heels, which made the path long and painful, and many achievements were simply unrealizable.
What is this? Lack of self-discipline. Failure to understand that a thousand small steps are easier than a hundred large ones. And it is this ability, in spite of nothing, to make small efforts every day, without days off and holidays, that distinguishes those who went from those who reached, it does not matter who - where and why they were going.
If this idea is followed, then over time, small but regular attempts will become a habit - and one seemingly nondescript brick a day, suddenly, over time, suddenly turns into a huge brick wall, impenetrable for bullets and protecting from the wind. Those who have achieved goals (no matter which one and how quickly) differ from the others in the ability to do something every day, not necessarily pleasant, but necessarily leading somewhere forward, to perfection. By regularly exercising our body and brain, we improve their qualities, impart new skills to them, and improve ourselves. Any, even the most difficult, task can be cut into small puzzle pieces, each for one bite.
And they need to be bitten every single day. At the same time, it is important to distract from the environment and the opinions expressed by them. Those around us wish us well and therefore will diligently stop us from sudden jumps (from their point of view) and strange (according to their own understanding) undertakings. We can love them and even respect them, but we don't have to listen to them. And that's why. When someone advises us not to do something, he thereby says that being in our place, he would not do it. Clear. Reasonable. But he is in his place, and we are in ours. Therefore, his advice is probably inexpensive. And you don't have to follow it. But you can listen. Go know, maybe there is some kind of rational grain.
Our main enemy in the path of any achievement is the word tomorrow. Wait until tomorrow, I'll do it tomorrow, today is not the end of the world, the morning is wiser than the evening, you need to sleep with this idea, a new day - new strength, impressions .... etc. Tomorrow doesn't exist. And yesterday, by the way, too. There is only today and now. Everything that is being done is being done today and it would be good to invest in it the mind, the heart, the diligence, and the attention. In what is in front of your nose, under your hands, and not in dreams, plans, projects of tomorrow. All our successes are outside the comfort zone that intelligent beings strive for. And upon reaching it (zone), we begin to age, deteriorate, moldy and sour.
No one wants to do what is difficult, inconvenient, contrary to the logic, meaning and opinions of others. But it is there that the champion is born in this odd call, in an uncomfortable conversation, in an attempt to overpower the imperishable one more time, although it has not happened a hundred times before. And when it seems that everything went wrong, not there, across the plan, you need to relax, breathe deeply, stop and say to yourself: "Each closed door means somewhere suddenly opened." And even if it is not yet visible, everything will fall into place. It has always been, is and will be.
It is very useful to dismiss yourself from the drama theater of daily revelations that take us away from the road and the important things that come into life with it. These are people getting on our nerves (if we let them). These are advisers, anti-advisers, robbers of our time for their own sake. It is best not to argue with them, not to prove anything, but to walk by, quickly end the conversation, or even remain silent. The main enemy, he is our friend, is time. Life is short, appreciate it and do not waste precious seconds on freaks, dumbheads and energy vampires. They probably make up two-thirds of the population.
What matters is how we see ourselves and the ability to focus on the finish line.
Everything else, ridicule, screams, discontent, refusals, rollback from the conquered frontiers - all the little things, as long as we are happy with what is, do not get upset in vain about what is not (and therefore is not needed) and understand what how and for everyone, we only care about what we do. We do ourselves, we do for ourselves and only for ourselves. Because, without making yourself, you will not help others either. This is the main meaning, the purpose of each and our main task. Yesterday, today and always.
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