Opinion: why young children develop depression
'09.11.2020'
It turned out that there is such a phenomenon as childhood depression. We're talking about the age of five to seven years. It would seem, what a depression? You just recently hatched. Live - rejoice ...
No problems with your wife or husband, no responsibility for what is done or not done, no suffocating bank loan ... The world around blooms and smells and you are interested in everything, for now, at least. Where does depression come from, it would seem? ..
However, I think there are reasons. At this age, no matter how “green” it may seem to us, some children begin to comprehend what is happening. And they are not able to understand and fit in the head situations (which are more and more every day), in which in fairy tales one thing, in cartoons - another, teach them the third at home, and when adults think that children are sleeping and do not hear, then they often behave contrary to the first, second and even third. And here's your fourth.
A kind of discord gradually begins to shatter the baby's still fragile psyche. After all, he needs to choose a line of behavior for himself, but how can he decide if three or four mutually exclusive options are stuck in his head. And then he also goes to school, where they give out option number five. And then, at breaks, and in the after-school time, in communication with friends, the sixth, and the seventh, and the eighth pops up ... And it is not surprising that this can make your head spin.
No, not all children have this expressed in depression. Many pass by successfully. Either they do not register different versions, but pass them by, just knowing that there are options ... and, perhaps, they choose different each time. Or they absorb one line of behavior, and simply do not pay attention to others, according to the system “you don’t like the smell - move away” ... That is, it does not hurt them. We can watch comedies and tragedies, we can both cry and laugh, and they, these various types of behavior, reactions to the surrounding reality, do not conflict with each other. Maybe they can adapt too.
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But there is also a completely different theory. It may seem to many even more incredible than the previous one. Although there is no confirmation of any of them, as well as a clear explanation for the presence of depression in children, who, it seems, have nowhere to come from. So. Supporters of another theory (among them there are many Kabbalists) say that since a soul that has gone through many lives sits in the body of the seven-year plan, sometimes the memory of the past "seeps" into this one. Against which, however, there is a mechanism that should prevent such memories.
But ... there is a failure and the child, for a reason incomprehensible to anyone and to himself, begins to ask questions to which neither he nor his parents, who are not prepared for such a turn of events, do not know the answers. The child wants to know what is the meaning of life, people in general, and him in particular. Where does so much suffering on earth come from, and why cannot it be eradicated? Well, in the same spirit, the kid “kills” his parents and peers with ponderous questions, which the majority either never thought about, or, in any case, do not know how to answer them to the child so that he understands.
And a child, faced with a “wall”, not understanding what to do with it: jump over it, undermine or blow up, sits “near the wall” and cries bitterly from sadness, misunderstanding, a sense of hopelessness and meaninglessness of being, in which the simplest questions do not have answer. And even adults, whom he considered to be gods, are also powerless.
And this is only the beginning of his life. And what will happen next? What good awaits him if he cannot be helped to sort out such “simple things” right now? It is not clear how to treat these children. If adults are depressed, they are put to sleep. No, not completely, but partially, with the help of medicines. They are taken away slightly from the world, which “tires” them and causes an unfavorable reaction of the organism, into the “next room” ... Everything seems to be the same there, but not so clearly, loudly, distinctly. They lightly envelop with cotton wool both hearing, sight and smell, in the hope that the body will gradually self-regulate. This happens, but not always, as we all know about. But it is dangerous to “lull” children. There the psyche is still "raw". You can break such firewood with medicines, it will not seem a little.
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Although children's hyperactivity today is also suppressed by strong means, trying ... trying ... To be honest, I do not know what they are trying to do with such children. Although, in any case, this is a completely different story.
Here you go. I touched on the topic. And you, my friends, share your stories and “recipes” if you know them. I'm sure everyone will be interested.
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