Opinion: why you shouldn't be jealous of women who are provided and fed by men
'07.01.2021'
Source: Yandex Zen
Many representatives of the beautiful half of humanity believe that a man's gift reflects the value of a woman in his eyes. But this is not at all the case, the author of the blog "Morena Morana" on Yandex Zen.
Since the New Year is not only Olivier and fir needles scattered throughout the apartment, but also gifts, many have revived. On the forums every now and then the topic of men's gifts pops up: how should you look and what should you imagine in order to receive them? Which women are worthy of fur coats, cars and diamonds, and which ones are only good enough to fry cutlets? An eternal theme.
And do you know what I noticed? That many women make the same mistake.
They are sure that the size and value of the gift is directly related to the personal qualities of the woman herself. For example, that beauties are given gifts only because they are beauties, and everyone wants to please them. And some gorgeous singer receives from her beloved a conditional million of scarlet roses precisely because she is gorgeous.
On the subject: 5 dating sites where Americans are looking for a mate: personal experience
That is, they are sure that there are some special women whom men are always happy to serve. Cover all their needs. To put mountains of jewels at their beautiful feet. It is tasty to feed them, to solve all their everyday problems ... It is clear that everyone wants to be a queen, served by faithful pages. That is why, at one time, various courses were so popular, which told how to become a woman in a million, and never do anything myself again. And women who thought about how to provide for their needs on their own, without the help of men, were frankly laughed at.
Now about what, in fact, the mistake.
The fact is that any gift made by a man reflects, first of all, not the needs of the woman, but the needs of the man himself. Those of them who give a woman a fur coat can put a lot of meanings into this act - from noble "so that the beloved does not freeze" and to selfish "so that she does not leave me for the young and handsome", "so that everyone understands that I am a wonderful man, I even bought a fur coat for a woman. Or, perhaps, it is just pleasant for a man to feel like the owner of a valuable trophy that others envy.
Further more. Looking at luxurious models, mediocre singers, promoted to the stage by generous husbands, many believe that such gifts are evidence of the obvious superiority of these girls over the stronger sex. And they imagine status men, like tamed wolves, who obediently carry prey in their teeth.
On the subject: Destructive habits in relationships that seem good to many
But in fact, we are talking about the fact that status men are simply competing with each other with luxurious accessories, which are played by their girlfriends. They pay not for the career of some girl, but for their opportunity to show friends and colleagues that they have funds for such a status entertainment ...
I recently read on the news about a terrible incident. A very generous man could not survive the news of his separation from his wife and committed murder. And when they began to figure out what and how, it became clear that the man, in fact, was sure that he was buying himself the loyalty and love of this woman. The woman was sure that generous gifts were just payment for the opportunity to be with her and kiss the sand on which she walked. Everyone imagined an unspoken agreement. Only the content of this agreement was different for everyone.
In most cases, expensive gifts are given to a woman not because she is so gorgeous, and not because she has found access to some kind of secret knowledge that allows her to break open men's hearts and wallets without a master key. Men give expensive gifts because it helps to satisfy some of their deep personal needs, for example, superiority over other men, self-affirmation, and high social status. Love is by no means always the motive of their actions (although there is nothing better than a gift from a loving and beloved man).
The “trophy wives”, the girlfriends of the kings of life, despite all their showiness, are just staff serving successful men, and this does not cause envy. I have a white envy of women who managed to become queens themselves. This is a completely different matter.
The original column was published on the Morena Morana blog at Yandex Zen
ForumDaily Woman is not responsible for the content of blogs, does not advertise any of these sites and may not share the point of view of the author. If you want to become the author of a column, write to us - [email protected].
