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What is important to know about parenting in the USA: the opinion of an American mother

'22.01.2021'

Source: Yaadex.Zen

The issue of parenting in the United States is taken seriously and carefully. How Americans prepare for the birth of children and how their lives change afterwards, says the author of the blog "Smapse News: Education and Science" at Yandex Zen.

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Conscious Maternity

In the United States, parenting is considered the most important step in a person's life. Everyone approaches the question carefully. In America, there is no such pressure on young couples that they need to have children faster, because "the clock is ticking" or the annoying "and we have already raised two at your age" sounds. Young people are not treated as restless people who live without the main meaning of life - without children. Nobody says it's time to settle down and start living like an adult, and not do nonsense.

What Americans are (ideally) trying to do before thinking about having a baby:

  • Get a complete education
  • To find a good job
  • Succeed in your career
  • Find permanent accommodation
  • Check and strengthen the relationship with your partner
  • Paint over the first gray hair
  • Start using anti-wrinkle cream.

So it's time to have offspring between 30 and 40 years old. And no one will tell you that you belatedly decided to become a mother, your age is not the same, and will not write you down as “old-born”.

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Choosing between decree and work

The United States does not have a policy regarding pregnant women and mothers that Russia has. That is, at 7 months, the expectant mother cannot quit her job and go on maternity leave to enjoy a cozy home environment while awaiting the birth of a child.

As practice shows, after giving birth, on average, after six weeks, you should go to work and continue your work. Nevertheless, no one forbids completely leaving the family and abandoning a career.

It is important to note, however, that not every family in the United States can withstand the scrutiny of financial constraints. Few people will be able to lead a comfortable life if only one of the partners is working. Moreover, American society is much more loyal to mothers who combine work and raising a small child than to those who decide to put their whole lives at the feet of a baby.

"What will people say?"

The USA is one of the most tolerant countries in regards to childhood age crises. If a child is going through a crisis, shows his character, throws tantrums, no one will come to you with their comments and advice on how to properly overcome the peculiarities of a difficult age. Moreover, all people themselves went through such a test and know that parents do not have superpowers to instantly bring a child into a calm state.

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Imagine a situation: if a child falls into a puddle and starts screaming heart-rendingly, not wanting to get out of there, passers-by will smile at you with sympathy, recalling their parenting experience.

Moreover, no “kind” aunt will scare a child by taking him for re-education now, if he does not stop disturbing the public peace. No evil aunt will share her exclusively true opinion that children now know nothing about good breeding, and their worthless parents cannot teach their children anything.

Of course, the feelings that parents have for their child depend on the inner world of the parents themselves and on the situation in the family. However, the environment strongly affects the vulnerable world of young parents and either helps them cope with difficulties, or the happy moments of parenting, even wallowing in a puddle, devalue.

Original column published on channel “Smapse News: Education and Science” on Yandex Zen

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