Opinion: how foreign men differ from Russians
'13.01.2021'
Source: People talk
Why do Russian girls so often give up all attempts to establish a relationship with a Russian man and go to conquer the world? Be warned in advance, sometimes foreigners are not as positive as they seem. And everything is known in comparison, writes Zoya Molchanova for Peopletalk... How do they differ from “ours”?
Reaction to rejection
Failed to continue the evening at his home? He won't be upset at all! One German once told me (we had known each other for three hours): "I like you so much, how about sex?" Yes, in that form. Not only did I not send him to famous places, I was also embarrassed - he said it sincerely and simply. I refused. And he also managed to hug me and say: "No problem." Russian men usually do not say that, and if they do, then they want to hit them, and if they are refused ... then they also want to hit them.
Jealousy
If a Russian man is jealous of all childhood friends and colleagues, then the foreigner will first take a closer look at them - he will test the waters. And he will even try to establish contact with the applicant for your attention. Thus, he thinks over the strategy, makes sure whether his assumptions are correct. By the way, unlike a Russian, a foreigner will not speak through clenched teeth “everything is fine”, but throw a tantrum at home. Of course, there will be hysteria, but with the effect of surprise, because in the moment of rabies he behaves politely and with dignity. Wonders. So you don't know what to be happy about here: the surprise effect is not always useful.
Straightness
First, most foreigners get down to business right away. He wants to kiss you or invite you to his place after the first date - easily. They need to understand how you feel about them. If you are in a close relationship with a foreigner, he will always tell you frankly what he likes or not. And, of course, demand the same from you. There will be no doubts, excuses and “we'll talk about it later”. But Russians often accept your position, and you will be silent about everything together, hoping that someone will still learn to read minds.
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Pedantry
It is unlikely that a foreigner (especially a European) will throw socks around the apartment and spray the mirror with toothpaste. But keep in mind that if you do this (and also leave the hairdryer on, the hair on the comb or scattered cosmetics), then he will not be delighted. In general, most foreigners are boring in this regard: they should have everything according to the shelves and according to the plan.
Limitation
Unfortunately, if you are going to complain about life, tell deep stories from your childhood or philosophize, do not expect every foreigner to support you. Of course, he will steadfastly listen to you, but he is unlikely to share the same revelations. This is not a Russian soul that suffers constantly. And most foreigners are limited in terms of the breadth of interests. They are good at what they do and are not particularly interested in other areas. So it’s more about Russians to “shake off” everything in the world.
Economy
“Drink vodka, lie on the ground” - not about foreigners. These are Russian men who are ready to sit without money for a month and get dirty in debt, and then spend their salaries in one day. But a foreigner, before buying a new cool TV, first travels half of the city and will spend the night on websites with appliances, waiting for discounts, just to find cheaper ones (even if the price difference is ridiculous). In general, they really like to get discount and savings cards, go to sales and shop in hypermarkets.
Segregation of duties
It's completely normal for a foreign man to wash after himself, iron his shirt, or cook dinner for you. And he is unlikely to demand from you borscht and polished floors. But, returning to pedantry, he, of course, wants you to keep order in the house and not hesitate to wipe the dust on the TV again.
Attention
You are unlikely to receive flowers from a foreigner (in Europe, for example, it is customary to give flowers only for funerals), although you often cannot wait from a Russian ... But they know how to look after them as if they fell in love for the first time in their lives - you will receive a sea of compliments, attention, worries (especially when it comes to feeding you or giving you a ride somewhere) and some small but pleasant gifts. In general, they know how to charm you. And, most importantly, they will not demand anything in return.
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Selfishness
If a Russian shirt-guy is ready to give up all his business and rush through the whole city at your first call, then a foreigner will not even lead an eyebrow. He has his own schedule and his own plans, which he always adheres to (even if he is madly in love). He needs to organize a meeting with relatives, go to the gym and to some master class, and after that he will be happy to meet with you. And foreigners also don't like it when they are late for a meeting (although they themselves also like to stay late).
How our girls live with foreigners
Catherine
married to an Austrian
The main difference between Austrian men and Russians, in my opinion, lies in the distribution of social roles between men and women, or rather, in its absence. For Europeans, gender equality is very important: both in the family and in the whole society. Phrases like "this is a woman's business" or "I'm a man" are completely excluded from the lexicon. Men do not hesitate to wash dishes, clean houses, cook, sit on maternity leave with children, etc. But there is, of course, another side of the coin: rarely does a man offer to lift a suitcase in the subway or give him a coat. Perhaps the representatives of the "old school", that is, elderly uncles.
Austrian men are not famous for their sophisticated courtship, like Italians or Spaniards, and here, too, equality has contributed. It's okay for a girl to pay for herself on a date.
In companies, everyone shows themselves in different ways, depending on their temperament. My husband is very sociable and always quickly joins even an unfamiliar team. At the same time, he is distinguished from Russian men by his friendly manners when meeting him: being very open, he does not confine himself to shaking hands, but can even embrace a new acquaintance, patting him on the shoulder.
Natalia
married to a dane
Danish men are in the country in the same position as Russian women in Russia - there are fewer of them, plus - feminism is flourishing! Therefore, it is men who look after themselves more here and take care of themselves. A not-so-well-groomed plump girl in flip-flops and stretched sweatshirts will be popular with the nice-looking men in the bar.
The Danes easily start relationships with women older than themselves (recently one handsome 28 years old, a friend of my husband, married a small, round woman under 40 with two children and there are a lot of such stories). They take care of children on an equal basis with women, cook, wash, clean. Oh yes, even Danish men have no idea what cellulite is - to the delight of local women!
Original column published in column Zoya Molchanova for People talk
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