Mother of dragons: Xnumx phrases that categorically cannot speak mother in law
'30.03.2021'
Source: Eva.ru
As you know, a mother-in-law is the mother of an ideal son who was terribly unlucky with his wife. Well, at least a lot of mother-in-law thinks so! How to communicate with such a person? First of all, you need to control your words, because a random remark can lead you with the mother-in-law on the warpath. Here is a list of phrases that will definitely infuriate a strict lady.
Not everyone in life will be lucky to meet a man of dreams and an ideal mother-in-law in one set. It often happens that the husband’s mother at some point becomes a hidden (and sometimes open) opponent. And often the reason is careless words, from which the flames of conflict flare up, writes Eva.ru. So what can cause anger his moms:
1. Do not meddle in our family
Nobody likes to listen to mother-in-law's advice on how to live, how to feed her husband and what to wear for children. As a rule, you won’t get a good word from her: either your borsch is not the same, then your children are ill-bred, then you spend a lot of money on nonsense. Annoying, of course. But the most wrong reaction is protest. It is worth saying to you: “It’s not your business” - and you will apologize for this all your life or suffer reminders of how unkind you are. The best tactic is friendly ignore!
To all the negative remarks of the mother-in-law, answer: “Oh, but it seems to me not bad” or “Do you think so?” Thanks for the advice, I'll think about it! ” So you will avoid quarrels, and your nerves will not suffer, and you will not offend your husband’s mother. Also try to create the appearance of active participation of the mother-in-law in your life: for this, entrust her with something that you yourself can’t do. For example, baking or spinning for the winter. Or maybe she enjoys doing homework with her grandchildren? Why not.
2. You raised a terrible son
Nothing could be worse than this phrase! Having said that, you are laying an atomic bomb under your relations! After these words, neither apology, nor the birth of five grandchildren, nor a gift in view of trips to Turkey will help you - this woman will hate you. After all, any mother loves her child and does not agree that it has grown imperfect ... What if you really want to blame her for all the sins of her husband? It’s better not to blame, but to make her your ally. Do not scold the husband directly, but come to the mother-in-law for support - present his misconduct in such a light that she herself will agree: it’s time for the son to teach the mind! The truth is: wise wives influence husbands through their mothers! And they don’t ask her husband to influence her mother.
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3. All the good you owe me
Suppose you saved your husband from something terrible like a stupid first wife, a debt hole or obesity by putting on a keto diet. Suppose you still saved your mother-in-law from poverty and loneliness by moving it from a separate apartment to yourself. However, do not hope that she evaluates all the events from your bell tower - most likely, she has her own for this. So, who owes whom and what is a philosophical question.
What to do if you really want your contribution to be appreciated?
- 1 Tip: go on vacation for one week at 2 at least. Let them live without you and understand what role you play in their daily comfort.
- 2 Tip: to go out into the open field and shout to heaven everything that you think about this woman, her son and other relatives, because of which you generally started reading this article.
- 3 Tip: go to the salon, buy something tasty and ready for dinner, come home in a good mood and watch all together a romantic comedy about love. Sometimes spending time together, when everyone smiles and no one bothers anyone with cooking and cleaning, greatly discharges the situation.
Sometimes it’s better not to solve problems, but simply push them. And the problem with the mother-in-law is just one of those.
