Personal experience: how to get rid of stress, anxiety and depression in 30 days
'04.07.2019'
I complained to someone that he had constant depressions, panic attacks, and other problems of this kind. He told that he had already tried a lot of options for dealing with such phenomena, following the advice of psychologists, psychiatrists and other specialists. But while the results were not very. I asked him in detail about how he lives and what he does all the day, I made an unexpected offer.
“I have a secret remedy in store,” I said in a conspiratorial tone. - Secret in the sense that I do not offer it to anyone, but I advise you to try it. There is only one condition: I will propose the direction of movement, and you must try to follow it and not violate the conditions of the experiment. "
We have agreed on a one-month pilot. Since nothing helped, he decided to try, especially since the risk was zero, although certain inconveniences were still present. But the idea itself seemed to him too intriguing, and he himself turned out to be a great lover of the new, unexpected, unpredictable - and often, in this regard, inexplicable. So I wrote him a prescription.
On 30 days, the subject should have disconnected from the world as much as possible. No internet (not a single minute). E-mail is for work only. He sent a message to all his friends and acquaintances that the month would be unavailable, as he was preparing a responsible report at work or something like that.
You can not imagine how hard it was for him! Naturally, he forgot and went somewhere to feed on the latest news. As an honest person, he informed me about it and set the clock to zero, starting a new 30 countdown of days.
He was forbidden to talk about politics, religion, any human relationships and everything that revolves around them (quarrels, squabbles, adultery, divorce, problems of raising children and so on). I recommended whenever possible not to communicate with people on any topic at all. Drop a month out of the circle. But he could read any books, watch any movie, but not dive into the life flowing around.
30 days turned into 47, as several times had to start from the beginning. But by the end of the first part of the experiment, he gladly informed me that over the past two weeks he had not had a single attack, and with depression seemed to become easier (perhaps this is a coincidence ...).
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And then we went to the second part of the experience. He was allowed to communicate with people an hour a day or surf the Internet, but very selectively. I still did not recommend any news, reading them, listening to the radio or watching on TV, as well as discussing them with anyone. It was allowed to communicate with the people on any unimportant, non-strategic topics such as: harm to red meat, investments in flights to Mars, news in the automotive industry, the advantages of a new cell phone and the latest fashion for hats ...
He had to choose what to talk about himself and try not to participate in conversations on forbidden topics suggested by others. It was easier with the Internet: it itself is in no hurry to "slip" something you don't want (and if it does, it cannot force you to read it - at least not yet). The people still strive to involve you in the discussion of all sorts of rubbish (in terms of the effect on mental health).
The fight against the desire to dive into the familiar world of news, horror, murder, nightmares, colliding trains, sinking submarines, violence, forgery, deception, ultimatums from one country to another, and so on, was life and death. He is used to functioning, swimming in these slops (for someone making up the whole meaning of life) for the last 20 plus years, and then he had to turn everything over and “walk on his head” himself.
To the credit of my friend, I can say that he passed the test. And somewhere in the months of 6, I almost completely got rid of fears, panic, depressive moods and other accompanying rubbish (according to his statements). He even physically changed. Missing tummy, improved complexion, sleep, digestion. A gym appeared on the list of daytime activities. A small wardrobe appeared in the house, and there were books in it. Enrolled in a yoga class ...
In a word: he recovered. And then I decided once again to analyze in detail why this happened. Probably, the world itself, in which we live and which requires our constant inclusion in it, leads us into a state of nervousness, uncertainty, anxiety, fear. Someone gets on with it, suffers, does not understand the danger of cluttering his consciousness imposed by someone (accidentally or intentionally) with information, and someone gets stuck, fixes on what is happening, takes it to heart, worries with those who something happens. And these other people's problems become partly his own. It turns out that he must somehow act in this regard. Not knowing how to defend / abstract, a person carries his own weight, flavored with other people's burdens, which only gets heavier every day until it breaks.
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So I thought: what if we took and disconnected from everything negative that pours out on us in kilotons (a crazy idea, of course) and tried to create a kind of microcosm for ourselves, in which you can hide from evil winds and the harmful effects of people around us? Only those who do not hang “dogs” and other “cats” on us, who bring exclusively positive into our reality, can be with us in it. We ourselves, if necessary, can find the negative. If needed.
What would happen if we try to conduct such an experiment for six months, and then return to what we’ve left? Will we like the world that we have left for a while, or will it cause disgust and dislike? I know my answer to this question.
I think it would be wise for everyone to try. Who knows, and suddenly here, on this new island, you will seem more comfortable and prettier so that you don’t even want to come back?
If you decide on an experiment of this kind, tell us what happened. If you know another method or an interesting case on a similar topic, describe it too. Surely everyone will be interested. I don't pretend to be a healer from everyone and everything, but this time it worked out. Perhaps by accident. Maybe I have nothing to do with it at all, the stars just formed like that. But we, both participants, are very happy about this accident. And we are very glad about what happened. Therefore, we decided to share our joy with others. Isn't sharing with others a higher mission?
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