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Personal experience: how to manage billions of dollars in capital raising 9 children

'14.05.2021'

Source: Time

Helena Morrissey is a well-known financial consultant, managing director of a multi-billion dollar investment company, a 55-year-old lady commander (analogue of a knight's rank for men) of the Order of the British Empire, a doctor at Cambridge University, and a mother of nine children. How she copes with a successful career, manages huge capital and combines work with motherhood, one of the most influential women in the city of London told the publication Time. Next - from the first person.

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If someone told me, a teenager, that I would have 9 children and a serious job in finance, I would laugh nervously. When we try to maneuver between work and family life, it is normal to experience moments of pressure or exhaustion, a lot of these feelings are in ourselves, and the first step to managing what is happening is to see it.

We cannot be in two places at once: all that can really be done is to try to fully focus on who we are with and on what we are doing at each moment. Here are six important things I've learned over the years about work-family balance.

1. Create your own definition of success.

Take the time to consciously understand what really matters to you - to no one else. Write down these priorities. Ask yourself, honestly and no matter what, what really makes you feel happy and fulfilled - now and in the future. Are you living up to these goals and priorities? If not, then it's time to make some adjustments.

2. Ask for help when you need it.

None of us have answers to all of our questions, so asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength and confidence. In my experience, people love to be approached! This includes practical help as well as advice. If you are experiencing difficulties, tell someone about them (ideally your partner, but if this is not possible, try to find a friend or neighbor). Help others where you can, it is incredibly empowering and allows you to pass the good on.

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3. Find a mentor

Right now, you may not be faced with a vital choice at all, and yet it is always important to have advisors and allies in both good and bad times. There have been several wise mentors in my career, whom I turn to over and over again, but I am also looking for others - those with whom I have certain points of contact. The late Lady Commander Helen Alexander, one of the women champions in British business, spent an invaluable day with me, knowing just how little time she had (she died a few months later). Helen gave me some pretty harsh and very valuable advice when I was thinking about different career options after leaving my long-term employer. This day turned out to be a turning point for me, and I will never forget her generosity.

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4. Learn to listen

I am often in a rush, and my biggest regrets are when I fail to notice that someone really wanted to talk to me. School performances and sports games are important, but if you have to skip one of them due to serious tasks at work, rest assured that you will be fine. But the missed moments for important conversations are completely different. Through numerous mistakes, I learned to ask first. When one of my children is unusually quiet or seems tense, I just ask, "Maybe you want to talk?" Then I drop everything and listen.

5. Do not torment yourself!

If you are doing your best, make a conscious effort not to self-flagellate. The mother of adult twins, then one of the most influential and experienced female bankers in America, gave me great advice. She said she learned not to waste her life thinking about how things might have turned out if she had behaved differently and made different decisions while the children were young. She realized that everyone, including her children, was happier when their mother did her best in her life, enjoying even a few hours at home, instead of daydreaming about adding hours to the day.

6. Remember: what you do can inspire your children

My eldest daughter Florence is a musician and now the mother of a five month old boy. A journalist from a national newspaper once asked how she grew up next to me - her mother. And the daughter said, “When women give themselves to children, it's amazing, but a woman's ability to maneuver between work and family can also inspire children. My mom showed that anyone can handle it. ”

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