What are the favorite characters and idols dangerous for a child
'18.03.2018'
Source: Rambler
Are you worried that your child has an idol? Is it harmful to the child's psyche and should parents intervene, said psychologist Larisa Surkova.
In the first years of a child’s life, parents are the absolute authority for him. But over time, other people also fall into the number of highly respected ones: fictional characters, pop culture stars, and even bloggers, writes Rambler.
In this case, the choice of idols often becomes a surprise for moms and dads. What is it about this boy dressed in red and blue leotard? What can attract this girl, badly singing on camera? And, for God's sake, what kind of beasts of an indefinite breed running around the screen, and why does the child try so hard to imitate them? Everything would be much simpler and clearer if the sons, like their fathers, dreamed of becoming astronauts, and their daughters, like mothers, dreamed of the princess's life! However, times are changing, and children's idols are changing along with them - the musketeers and modest young ladies long ago gave up their positions to other idols.
Every kid has a hero, and most often it is a fictional character or a real person from a popular culture. Adoration of idols is an essential stage of personal development and an important part of growing up.
It is idols that help children define their life ideals, differentiate between "good" and "evil", become just another role model - in short, this is another way to understand the world around. At the same time, heroes for children are the key to finding friends and being on the same wavelength with classmates, children from the creative circle, and even brothers and sisters. For them, idols become a topic for discussion and a reason to accept or not accept a “newcomer” to the company. And for parents it is a good indicator of what moods prevail in the micro community of their daughters and sons. And therefore it is important to understand the characters, which are equal to your children.
Whatever the main character of the baby, the main thing is that he is a source of good and non-toxic ideas.
Study the idol and try to understand what he teaches the child, what ideals and values he promotes, against whom he fights. But even if the answers seemed disappointing to you, do not immediately rush to persuade the child and tell him that there is someone better. Nothing will come of it anyway.
Discuss with your baby his idol and try to find out and understand what is so attractive about him. And if negative aspects turned out to be attractive, then this is a reason to reconsider the methods of education, and not to swear because of the “wrong” role model.
One of the main idol generators for children is movies, TV shows and cartoons. Here are superheroes, and rebellious teenagers, and young wizards, and most often they are for good.
Children like to identify with ordinary boys and girls who do unusual things.
So, the hero of the animated series "Ben 10" on the children's TV channel cartoon network Unremarkable at first glance 10-year-old guy who during the summer holidays manages to save the world several times! Ben, like many superheroes, has his own "childish" problems and worries - this is the "human" side of his ego, thanks to which children can easily compare themselves with him.
On the other hand, such characters have their own superpowers, which they use to the benefit of the world. And it helps the children to believe in themselves and their strengths, motivates them to become better.
In other words, superheroes tell children the same thing that musketeers and knights once told their parents.
But the characters from the movies and cartoons have new competitors that are rapidly gaining credibility - bloggers. These are the same children and teenagers who tell millions of subscribers about their lives, share their impressions of films, learn how to do crafts with their own hands (fashionably calling this DIY), tell them how to play video games.
Moms and dads would be nice to talk with the child about their favorite bloggers, ask who is who. And then spend your "intelligence." Often the content of these guys is inspiring and interesting, they hold photo contests or handicrafts, talk about the books they have read and help them understand difficult children's issues.
For children it is very important that parents take their idols.
You do not need to pretend that you are a fan of them, or to watch each vlog or each series with the child. You can even criticize them, but the arguments should be constructive: what kind of act of a superhero you thought was wrong and why? What advice would you give him?
So you will help the child begin to develop critical thinking and stop considering his hero rightly right.
