How to listen to the talker and speak out the most
'22.04.2019'
Let's tell something. No, it is, of course, true that everyone has one mouth and two ears. Surely, it meant that we would need to listen more than talk. But sometimes I want to say so!
You have never noticed that even quiet and silent people, if they are given such an opportunity, (sometimes even having drunk a little for courage) by talking, can pitch such a thing! And all because in us information for issuing accumulates in the same way as sweat, and, excuse me, urine, and other substances. Well, with bodily secretions, everything, more or less, is understandable, since the body itself signals the only possible way of getting rid of surplus.
But how to speak out - we did not study in any lessons. And this is just as important, moreover, simply necessary. Why? Each person needs to be seen, heard, understood, appreciated, praised, recognized, rewarded, cited as an example to others ...
And do not trust anyone who will say that it is completely useless to him. He is cunning, consciously or not, but cunning. Lying, that is! And, and all, and myself. Or ... maybe he just knows nothing about it ... And he lives headlong in ... sand ... like an ostrich ...
And what do we, my friends, order to do with this phenomenon?
To begin with, one must agree with this postulate. I understand that those who disagree with him will immediately have objections. I will not argue, but we are simply not on the way with them. Back to consonants. Give yourself permission to speak out. Alone, in a voice, in front of a mirror - you can, but only for the beginning, for warm-up-training. But then you still need to find an "ear" or even better a lot of ears. This is a completely different effect when there are living subjects to receive information. If there are none, or they exist, but they run away from you, or they shut up the "fountain of eloquence" or interrupt, that is, do not allow to burst out ... then urgently change the situation, friends, environment. Move to another area, city, even country. You can laugh about it as much as you like, but nothing will change. Do not underestimate the importance of this way to get rid of the accumulated accumulation.
We all have something to say, and not just one question. Although, even if one by one, you still need to find like-minded people, those who are ready to listen to you. Of course, it would be nice to acquire not only opinion, but also knowledge on this issue, so that you can feel somehow, but still, an expert. Hope that you will be able to interest one or many of your opinions, if it is not supported by knowledge and / or experience, a sign of excessive self-confidence and can lead to disappointment.
But if you prepare yourself, the pleasure of being listened to, perhaps even applauding, asking for more - is quite comparable to many well-known pleasures, such as food, sex, vacation travel, sleep, etc.
So where are we going?
We came to the conclusion that everyone has something to say. But, often those who are near, they don’t want to talk about it with him or cannot. They are not interested in this topic or argue all the time until they are hoarse, defending their own, completely different from the oratorical, point of view. And we also came to the conclusion that this human need cannot be allowed to flow by chance. From this only harm will be. Maybe not immediately, but gradually the unspent stock, having accumulated, will begin to harm you. And it is certain.
Each of us is good at something. He skates coolly, plays chess, understands politics, masterfully sings ditches in foreign languages, runs fearlessly over hot coals, dives into a hole in winter or plays a circular saw.
I suppose that someone reading now will say that I, they say, have no talents at all. And if you are offered a million for each of them, remember, maybe?
Was there talent at school? Most likely. Perhaps you were getting to the ceiling faster than anyone else, or you solved the problems in algebra better than others, wrote essays so that the teacher read them out loud, they always scored a football penalty, intuitively knew how to get away from the girl ...
Remember, remember. There are no mediocre people in nature. Everyone something, issued. The problem is that it is not always obvious, especially in adulthood. Therefore, I recommend to return to the memory where it flashed, manifested. If necessary, even in childhood.
Find what you love or loved: draw, craft, dance, run, history, geography, synchrophasotron device ... Take the time to figure it out well and then - go ahead, look for other runners, painters, synchrophasotrons. By the way, they are looking for you. They, too, probably have no one to talk to about their favorite topic. Don't put it off until tomorrow. Get started today. This is important, necessary and ... necessary.
And forget about the two ears. Just remember that the mouth and the ability to tell us was not given by chance. This was done with a very specific purpose: to please yourself and others by sharing, telling, entertaining, captivating, educating, inspiring, purposeful ...
That's it. What do you think?
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