'How to convince that change is bad, if adultery is so good': a man about the causes of female infidelity
'15.02.2019'
Source: Tut.by
Columnist Alexander Zantovich on tut.by talks about the nature of women's treason (of course, hoping that something will definitely not happen to you!) and remembers all sorts of jokes like this:
“Why did you buy me the same underpants?” People will think that I am not changing my underpants.
- What people?
The famous American comedian, Louis CK, says something like this: “How can I convince children that drugs are bad if they are so damn good!” Of course, this is a joke. While I was not showered with rotten eggs. This is a joke! As a socially responsible author, I don’t support drugs at all. This is a dangerous evil. Even this article is not about drugs. Never!
This is an article about treason. And I remembered the aforementioned genius of the standup in connection with the fact that the attitude to treason is about the same. Everyone knows that change is bad. But how can you convince anyone of this if betrayals are so good!
Especially if you ask a man. Yes, men love to talk about it! In the company of friends, in a bath, on fishing, at work, in a smoking-room even. To brag about your victories is courageously, this is heroism, this is an achievement! Yes, he is so-so for work, and a lousy friend, but about women, he is a master! As they say, respect him and respect (which, in essence, is the same thing).
Men treat treason easily. According to surveys, 60% of men are cheated on their wives. Who is Razik, who is two, and a quarter is ringed - constantly. Look carefully at the men at the bus stop. Every fourth - mistress! We are not monogamous, men say. It is in our nature! What can you do, call! Every man has the right "left".
Many even expect this from you, or something. I remember that we came with a friend on a business trip to Gomel. So there is a meeting party (two ladies, for a minute), they themselves advised us to establishments where you can meet someone. Sent - they all broke off the chain, as everyone knows!
I will say more, even many wives are reconciled with this peculiarity of the male, not that of physiology, or that of psyche. They know that husbands walk, but somehow they live ... They say, yes, yes, a dog, but what can you take from him, he's a man.
By no means supporting these rogues (remember social responsibility), I can understand public opinion. The point here is not only and not so much in the remnants of house-building and male chauvinism. The point is the nature of male amorous exploits. Male treason is usually easy and physiological. It is such a light entertainment. How to drink a beer. Well it was. It is pleasant to recall, to boast too, and at home - beloved wife, children, chops. And there it is good, and here.
In women, I tell you, everything is different.
No, it is true that alcohol acts on girls in the same way as it does on all other people. It disables the analytical parts of the brain and activates the instincts that tell you to dance, sing, have fun and multiply. Therefore, drunk almost does not count. But a wife who slept with someone at a corporate party is, in fact, a rarity. Still, the period when your woman returns home at four in the morning, just because there is nowhere else to go in this city at four in the morning, quickly ends. Women are much earlier mature and rational than we are.
Therefore, female betrayal, it does not happen at nineteen - this is serious. Well, the holiday novels are not serious yet. Yes. And everything else - just like that!
Why is this happening?
Women change from boredom. The marriage is mature, the husband got used to you, throws socks around the apartment, anywhere, does not give flowers, instead of “kitty”, “paw”, “sun” - proletarian “prepare to devour”. He wore something on his hands, otherwise he wants to wash his shirts, complains of dust in the corners and does not want to listen to how your day went and what your girlfriend said. Kinder, kyuhe, Kirche. And so you want to feel beautiful, feel desirable, feel like a woman. And then the neighbor Nicholas ... Interesting such, in general, a man looks at me like that ... looks so excited ...
Or it happens that nothing new happens in bed for a long time. He lies down next to him, stroking you and immediately falling asleep, and the hand is still, it interferes with breathing. Here they are - the joys of married life five years later. You look at the ceiling and think that something went wrong with this prince ...
And even if the marital debt is sometimes even red in the payment, not all ladies are satisfied. In other words, women change because a man is not good in bed. It does not do something that is in the dreams. Not trying. No candles, no petals, wax does not pour on itself, does not give leather linen. And you want something like that ...
Or trite little. The peak of sexuality in women is forty. For men - on a business trip. She languidly to him like that, “let's come again,” and he - “you have lost your mind, lustful you are mine, tomorrow you will have to go to work!”.
Even women change because the husband is not around. There is no gender, I think. People are just like that. If you see something, then it is. If you don’t see something, it’s not there. It’s like radiation, air and the fact that the Earth is round. Such, forgive, solipsism. The joke about a woman who wanders from the airport to the station, and from the station to the port, is very vital. Ce la vie.
Women change for career purposes. Well, partly it is correct. Men use the fact that they are courageous to occupy leadership positions. Decisiveness, growth, a commanding voice, aggression - a ready leader, isn’t it? There was a case when in Moscow they appointed a guy about twenty-five years old as chairman of a small bank. When the bank owner was asked why, he thought for a long time and could only formulate such an answer: “Well, he looks like the chairman of the board!”. So why would women, whom nature endowed with annoying charm, not use their pheromones?
And, sometimes, women change out of revenge. And this is probably my favorite motive. Think about it! Out of revenge! Because the husband cheated. Or he was just rude, or went hunting for the whole weekend with his moron friends.
How much passion in this! This is Carmen, this is pride, this is cunning, and sophisticated! Yes, men also do this sometimes. But estimate the ratio: 10% women and 1% men. What is it, huh?
And it actually works. This revenge is terrible, and this is why.
To sum up, a woman changes because her man bored her. Not that. That's all wrong! I didn’t like it. Not good Not suitable as a family breadwinner, father of children, protection, support. Some kind of soft-bodied, sluggish, sweaty, baldness peeps out, a fat one ... Everything that used to delight her is beginning to annoy. And often, instead of leaving him, leaving him, she will simply find herself a new elect on the side. Chosen one, understand? Not just a creature with developed primary sexual characteristics. A new man, with whom he subconsciously plans to build a nest.
Therefore, women's treason is so strikingly different from men's treason. This is not a fleeting affair, not an accident, not clouding. This is a conscious decision, a carefully thought out step, an intentional action.
That is why, as if feeling all the seriousness of the issue, men are so offended at female treason. Male treason in the eyes of the people makes a man a little better, a woman, it seems, with nothing. Is that love her evil.
But in the case of a walking wife - and on it is the stamp of a libertine, and the man is a stupid cuckold. Someone will even say that he watched her badly, he would have been into the hedgehogs, to take an ax and drive around the hut ... I had nothing to do with such stereotypes!
Of course, men rage.
Therefore, women do not usually boast of treason. This, in my opinion, explains these statistical paradoxes. Count yourself. Unfaithful husbands - 60%, wives - according to various sources, not either 25%, not 40%. At the same time 9 from 10 villains walk with married. How so? Yes, very simple. Women are silent about their little adventures. Even when are polls. Even girlfriends do not tell. Girlfriends love to gossip.
And if told, that's all. She decided everything for herself.
Understand correctly. I for treason, thank God, not an expert. I just wondered recently why everything is so strict.
Why can not, like in the movies, sleep with a man easily, like a cigarette to ask. Why is it possible to drink coffee with someone, a beer - please, go to the bath - easily. And in bed - no, no!
And I thought of asking this question to my woman. She explained to me in detail why this is serious for the weaker sex.
And then she looked at me so carefully and asked if I was trying to bargain for my right to anything. And she began to carve the carrot impressively with a blunt kitchen knife.
