How to say goodbye to the past and give up impossible promises
'26.02.2020'
Until recently, everyone said that one year ends and another begins. At the same time, everyone is saying goodbye to the departing and greeting the new, coming. And I thought, after all, this is not true. No one says goodbye to the year. By and large, by and large, no. It is just a measure of time, a set of months and days, and nothing more. Everyone says goodbye to himself. Personally with myself and with no one else.
We say goodbye to those who are no more and will never be. Never!!! Under no circumstances. Neither by mind, nor by heart, nor by blood composition (it changes all the time), nor by mood. Never again will the situation turn out exactly as it was. And we won’t be able to react the same way, even if we want to. I don’t hurt the offender’s teeth, as I didn’t. But it was necessary. Scared. Now I have put another brick of fear in a huge bag that has accumulated over my life. And he would have crashed, and perhaps would have killed the scoundrel. They probably would have been jailed. Although, if there was enough money, perhaps a good lawyer would prove that I was in a state of passion, I didn’t realize what they were doing at that moment. In prison, however, you can bend yourself — it all depends on who gets there and how you put yourself. But it is possible to acquire invaluable connections and then, having left, use them. But maybe he wouldn’t kill, but only crippled - and then he would have to pay for treatment, it is not clear how much. Or maybe he would give back and cripple me - and then he would pay for my treatment. And he would have nailed me, and he himself, perhaps, would have sat down ... But then I did not hit. It's a pity…
And someone could not make declarations of love, hesitated. I thought: where am I, and where is she? He only laughs. Yes, and parents will not allow. And our religions are different. I do not go into it, they will peck everything. Yes, and she will not want to or be afraid of mine ... So she left without saying anything. Fool. Coward. Loser.
We say goodbye to what did not work out. Any new attempt will be new, the old will no longer be. And the result will be new, although it may seem similar to the old one (if it were), but it will certainly be different. The day will be different, mood and result. If again “no”, it will be one closer to “yes”, which sooner or later catches up with us.
And then “no” would be two closer to “yes,” and now here it would be one. Because they are different. We say goodbye (not goodbye) to all the meetings, partings that are behind. All films watched, books read, opportunities lost, friends with whom they parted (sometimes in vain, sometimes not). Failed acquaintances will also remain there in the past. And we will never know whether they would be good, useful, would they help our growth, would they be dragged to the bottom? .. Although, if they did not take place, they might not have been needed, who knows? Using this border, we move from one year to another, draw up a plan for the next, where we give ourselves promises - and then we monitor whether we have fulfilled them or not.
Promise us. We won’t do much. Although - some promises will be fulfilled. People promise themselves to lose weight (and someone, on the contrary, get better), grow wiser, grow stupid, get married, get a divorce, start raising a child seriously, stop raising seriously and let the child grow and look for their own way, and not stumble on the eternal, like a stockade parental guidance wherever he moves. Someone promises to move away from mom and try to live alone. Still, forty-six already. But it’s scary. What if it doesn’t work out? And plus, of course, mom will be very upset. And how is she, alone? Excited, poor thing. Everyone wants to get married. But somehow I’m all - no. More precisely, I would have long been - yes, but she does not like my girls. And that's all. One at a time and collectively.
Before the new year, some promise to start reading, find a spiritual teacher, take tennis lessons, play guitar, start swimming, go to yoga, attend lectures to improve themselves in all aspects, or at least in one. And in general, start loving yourself and regularly celebrate, because no one else should do this and, most likely, will not.
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We promise ourselves something: as we were, as we will no longer be. Yes, it’s sad, even tragic. But at the same time we say: "Hello, hello to you, a new person, the same as you had not been yesterday, the day before yesterday, never been at all." Because each of us is updated every day, and not just every year. We change every minute. Many are for the better. The rest - as it turns out.
And I would not wait a whole year to take advantage of the last days of the departing and the first days of the coming to make some cardinal decisions. I would do it every day, well, at least once a week, imagining that this is the year. I would understand that every decision I made in life led me today, at that moment, when such thoughts came to me. If I am satisfied with myself that day, then all decisions were correct, but if I’m not very satisfied and I want to fix something, I can. But exclusively in today, not in yesterday and not in tomorrow. And on the other hand, I will never know whether the decisions made over so many days, years, decades were correct. I, it seems, will never know what would happen if I acted differently. Where would I be, what, by whom, with whom? Would I be better or worse? Such a clumsy thing. Like it or not, a fork in the road is cunning with you. However, like every chosen road.
Therefore, I think that everything is fine, since each of us who can think about it is alive and completely, or at least partially healthy. Partially healthy is still better than completely unhealthy. You can always find something to upset and rejoice about.
Therefore, let's say goodbye to what was and what was not, that's all: equally stale products and their shelf life has expired. Let’s, if we don’t throw them in the trash, then at least put them in a separate container, let them lie there for the time being.
And we will direct the main efforts for today, more precisely even for now.
We are here, and we can never be anywhere else. At this moment, we have the strength, power and the ability to do something, improve, change, commit, write, sing, say, hit, evade, run away, join, or even just think, but only now and here, at this very moment .
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Let's celebrate a minute. To each. Priceless, beloved, dear and unique. And that’s it. The rest will happen anyway. With or without us. With a triumph of triumph or bitter disappointment. Let's play our part. Learn words, rehearse twitches and jumps. And let everyone play their own. Someone will get better, someone else worse. This is not our misfortune and not our merit.
Hurrah!! Everything fell into place. And now, finally, on the right shelves lies, with the appropriate signs. Yesterday he rustled and rang. Yes, and God be with him. We are going further. Life goes on. And thanks to her for that. Huge Just inhuman thanks. And a deep bow. And one more.
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