How to write a message to which he will answer
'02.05.2017'
Communication technologies have evolved so and so numerous that it has become commonplace to contact a person anytime and anywhere. But now almost an hour has passed, and you are sitting, looking at the phone screen, and you do not know what to write to your beloved, so that he will answer for sure. In fact, everything is easy. But in order that after your message he thinks only about you, you need to deal with some questions.
What is the purpose of the message?
Well, why are you writing right now? Just to chat? This is not a goal. You need to clearly understand what kind of response you want to receive in response. Understanding this will help you choose the right message tone. And yes, the goal must be specifically formulated and free from vagueness. “I want to marry my beautiful prince and live with him a long, happy life in a fabulous house and die in a jiffy” ... That's all about nothing. This desire, moreover, is also devoid of specifics, but not the goal. Let's try to formulate a list of clear goals that we most often think of may arise:
- You want to meet him;
- You want him to be jealous;
- He is stingy with the expression of emotions, and you want to shake him;
- You urgently needed to fall in love with him;
- You want to create intrigue;
- He is passive, and you want to make him act;
- A hint of sex.
It is very possible that even just one of the points is more than enough for you to write him a message, to which he will respond. But we want to consolidate the results and deeper involvement. Therefore, we will go a little further.
Never hear, never answer right away!
Now, he wrote first. Never type a reply as soon as you see its message. Wait 20 minutes. Or better half an hour. Naturally, this will be a certain test for you, but believe me - it works great. A man may not be sitting with a phone in his hands, looking at the screen and waiting for an answer. But the fact that he will wait for an answer is certain. While waiting, he will warm himself up enough.
Write short and to the point
In men, the brain is somewhat different, highlighting the essence of the message, so the shorter your message is, the better. No need to write a story with heartbreaking adjectives and descriptions of emotions. In addition, even if he can read a long message entirely, he will immediately realize that you are very interested in him. Even the fact that you write to him can be enough for him. And do not forget: the longer the text, the more likely it is to make a mistake or write something extra. Do you need it?
Another point: if the correspondence has begun, your replies should be shorter than his messages. Even if they are very short. That is, in response to his rich “how are you?”, Your answer should not look like this: “Thank you very much, good! And how are you?". A good answer is “ok”. Do you know why? Because when you write like this, the man begins to think that you are condescending to him. He immediately, subconsciously, begins to seek you.
Do not use standard smilies and emoji
Until you are a couple, do not allow anything superfluous in the lyrics. The more succinct the better. Even punctuation marks are not worth playing with. Exclamation marks, especially several in a row, are prohibited. Then, when you have a relationship, all the emoticons and emojis will be at your disposal. In the meantime, let there be more space for his thinking.
Tie any sense to his person
Your message should make him think of you. And it's good if it also intrigues. It's simple: the text of the message should "cling" to him personally, and not be about anything. For example, the phrase “I just learned something that you won’t believe ...” is incorrect, because you never know what made an impression on you. But if you write “This morning I learned something and immediately thought about you” - you will hit the mark. He will be intrigued by what exactly you can associate his person with.
Use affirmative form
Try to avoid ambiguity and uncertainty. Try to write everything in an affirmative form, as if presenting it with a fact, but without going too far. When you send a message with the text: “Tonight, the whole company is meeting at the bar“ Drunken cuttlefish ”. Come - let's have dinner! ”- this will tell the man about the level of confidence that he did not even know about. And if he likes you, he can only say “yes”. And in case circumstances do not allow him to be at dinner, he will feel obliged to reschedule the meeting for another time. But the organization of the meeting now lies with him. An elegant move!
Using these simple techniques and rules, you can not only avoid mistakes when communicating with a man, but also support and even increase the degree of his interest in you. At the same time, you do not even have to do anything. It remains only to pick up a smartphone.
