How to dream to work
'07.01.2019'
Some people think so much about their dreams: write in the diary, draw in imagination ... As a result, there is no energy left to sell. Why it happens? How not to “dream”? Where is the border to which you need to go and turn in the direction of actions? How can you understand for yourself that this is your true desire, and not stereotypes imposed by society? And what is common between those who “did not doom” and those who “peremettal”? We talked about this with the stand-up psychologist Anna Kalanterna.
WHAT ARE YOU TYPE OR WHY DREAM AND PLAN?
In the New Year period and before the birthday everyone likes to sum up and plan. For most, this is a kind of enjoyable activity that gives only pleasure, but does not give a magic “kick”. How to explain this behavior of people from the point of view of psychology? Is there any benefit from the “hour of dreams”? For example, there is such a well-known approach to restoring self-esteem: write your strengths.
If we draw an analogy: summing up, a person raises his self-esteem ... Then the question arises: how should we sum up the results so that it plays exclusively in your favor?
“People are divided into several types,” explains stand-up psychologist Anna Kalanternaya. - Some like to hope that next year will definitely be better, and this one was difficult. Others live with the flow: for them, the years flicker with events, but globally are no different from each other. And still others, who know how to find good in everything, whatever. Guess who will be better next year? "
But how to squeeze everything you want to realize in 365 days, find out what to learn? How to write down your desires?
“These dreams and plans for the next year give a good fuse in order to be among the third, - says Anna Kalanternaya. “Perhaps not everything will come true, but it’s important to want to reach for something, otherwise, if you don’t know where you are going, you will come anywhere. By the way, this is the place that often turns out to be uncomfortable ”.
WHY VISUALIZATION DOES NOT WORK.
Some people think so much about their dream: they paint in a diary, they paint in imagination ... As a result, there is no energy left to realize. Why it happens? How not to “dream”?
“It’s definitely impossible to dream,” says Kalanternaya. - Here's another trick. There is so much information from all the irons that it is enough to visualize and everything will happen. But this is a cruel deception!
It is imperative to dream and visualize, otherwise the road is not visible, but if there are fears limiting beliefs and other cockroaches, then at least dream about it - you will sit where you sat. The subconscious mind will keep in all possible ways to justify and strengthen all these negative moments ”.
HOW TO START ACTING
Where is the border to which you need to reach in your fantasies and turn in the direction of actions?
“You know, there is such a wonderful phrase, very important for comprehension:“ The most terrible word that mankind has invented is “tomorrow”, ”the expert shares. - But the trick is that it never comes! This is fantasy! Tomorrow doesn't exist! There is only here and now. That's why when? Now is the best time to do it. ”
MY DREAM: ARE YOU THIS?
You are familiar with this situation: you want something for two years and have not done anything yet to translate it into reality? Probably, you just do not really want it, simply, “not yours”.
How can you understand that this is your real dream, and not stereotypes imposed by society?
“People very often live other people's lives,” the coach confirms. -
Someone once said: “A successful person should have something there and three children to boot ...”. There are several exercises to understand.
One of the most effective is to imagine what will happen to you if the dream does not come true under any circumstances? What will you do then? If you easily come up with an alternative solution to the issue - here it is - your real desire. If you don't buy an apartment, then you will go to India to photograph everything that comes to hand, you will post photos on Instagram and describe everything that you see - great! You can already pack your backpack. Soon you will become a multi-thousand Instagram blogger. Why not?"
“NOT DOMESTIC” AND “REMOVE”: WHAT IS GENERAL?
It is possible to conditionally divide all people into those who "did not dream" and those who "dreamed". And in fact, and in another case, there is one thing in common - the lack of a result.
“Those who have not dreamed will definitely not get a result,” says psychologist Anna Kalanternaya. - These are people sleeping in deep sleep in reality. Their life flows separately from them. In my opinion, there are no “dreamers”. There are those who never realized that his hands were tied only by his limiting beliefs. As soon as the framework is expanded, there will be an explosive result. ”
About the expert. Anna Calanterna - Founder of the International Training Studio, business trainer, coach, stand-up psychologist with over twenty years of experience.
