'Sometimes I wanted to throw Barack out the window': Michelle Obama spoke frankly about her marriage
'13.09.2020'
Source: Газета.ру
Former US First Lady Michelle Obama shared in her podcast what made her marriage to Barack Obama strong for 28 years. According to her, sometimes she wanted to “throw Barack out the window,” but she never gave up. Previously, she admitted that one day she helped the couple to maintain a relationship with a family psychotherapist, writes "Gazeta.ru".
Former US First Lady Michelle Obama spoke about the secret of her strong marriage to Barack Obama. On the eve of the 28th wedding anniversary, which the couple will celebrate in October, she admitted that the main thing is not to give up, even if it seems that the marriage is bursting at the seams.
Michelle Obama discussed the topic of family preservation in her podcast with TV presenter Conan O'Brien, who has been married for 18 years - she turned out to be burning for both interlocutors.
“There were times when I wanted to throw Barack out the window,” admitted the wife of the ex-president of the United States. “And I'm talking about this because, you know, you have to be prepared for such feelings to be very strong. But this does not mean that you should give up everything. And such periods can last for a long time. They can drag on for years. "
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According to Michelle Obama, today young people too quickly decide that their relationship has failed.
“Young couples, barely faced with difficulties, already decide to give up, because it seems to them that the relationship did not work out,” she complained. “However, listen, if this destroys marriage, then Barack and I have developed and not developed relationships throughout the years that we have been married, but we have a very strong marriage.”
The former first lady added that if she had given up, faced with problems in the family, she "would have missed all the beautiful things that were there too."
The mother of two adult daughters (Malia is now 22 years old, and Sasha is 19) paid special attention to the principles according to which, in her opinion, one should choose a partner for life. According to her, you need to approach this as the selection of players for your basketball team - so that all family members are strong.
“You don’t want to have weak links, you don’t want it to be someone who could be dominated,” Michelle Obama explained.
In addition, when you are building a family, it is important not to rush, the former first lady of the United States is sure, and to observe your chosen one in various situations.
“There is no magic way to do this,” she said. - Besides the main thing - to find someone, be honest with yourself about how much you want to be with this person, meet seriously, plan to make commitments, keep dating, see where it can go and then let it happen. You can't enter a long-term relationship on Tinder. "
Michelle Obama told the public back in 2018 in her book “Becoming” that not everything was cloudless in her marriage to Barack Obama. Then people learned that the wife of the ex-president had several miscarriages, which is why she had to resort to in vitro fertilization to conceive daughters. However, becoming the parents of two girls, the couple faced new problems - they had to learn to combine the legal career of Michelle Obama, the political ambitions of her husband and caring for two little girls.
“He was completely different, and completely different from me,” recalls Michelle Obama in the documentary Becoming, which was released on Netflix. “And he challenged me in various ways. I knew that he was going at me like a tsunami, and if I don't get my bearings, he will sweep me away. I didn't want to be an attachment to his dreams. And it made me work, think and make decisions - including leaving my legal career. "
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In her book, Michelle Obama admitted that there was a moment in their marriage when they had to go for a pair counseling session with a psychotherapist.
In the film, she explained that it was difficult to "mix two lives together." Working with a psychotherapist helped Barack Obama's wife not to forget about herself, about her own sense of happiness.
“One thing that I put up with helped me, and I think it helped our marriage. I realized that my happiness does not depend on how happy he makes me, ”the former US first lady shared her experience.
