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The main disappointment of an immigrant after moving to the USA: personal experience and conclusions

'22.09.2020'

Source: "Queen in the USA" on Yandex.Zen

Author of the channel "Queen in the USA" on Yandex.Zen shared her experience about what disappointed her in the US and why that feeling is unlikely to change. Further - from the first person.

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I'll start with the spoiler: I had no expectations about the States. No expectations - no frustration. It would seem so? Yes, but no.

Three years ago, I finished all my business at home, quit my toxic job, and embarked on a six-month trip to America. I wanted to try on this country, taste it, take a closer look, decide whether I like it, whether I want to live here for a long time or not.

In parallel, a story developed in my personal life, which, in fact, determined my decision. As a result, the answers to all of the above questions about whether this country is suitable for me remained, as it were, out of work.

I would not stay

Meanwhile, I always knew that if we set aside the main reason for my emigration, then my six-month trip to the United States would remain a trip. I very quickly realized that (happily ever after) I didn't want to live in the States. I would return home before the end of 2017. But after all, it is still here.

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The entire first year of his life in America was like a series of disappointments. Yes, even if nothing is expected from the country, this is possible. Perhaps it happened because I could not correctly assess the degree of discomfort that emigration brings. The degree of loneliness without loved ones. The degree of attachment to home: places, people, language, food, a million nuances.

Sentimental memories

It's funny to say, but I could cry from the memory of a coffee shop on the corner of Tverskaya. I bought coffee there every morning when I worked at TASS. My favorite was with halva. There is no such thing in America.

The Californian dryness and smooth surface were extremely depressing. Dull, dusty colors and meager grass underfoot - and now I am acutely longing for the village forbs.

The majestic Pacific Ocean seemed to me a pitiful likeness of the Black Sea.

The American love for barn-type buildings curled my sense of beauty into a tube. I remembered Moscow churches, European castles - everything that bears the imprint of time is part of history. “The functional component is far from the only one,” I wanted to “open America” to the Americans.

There were a million details that filled life and did not correspond to my ideas about how good and right. And they ate the wrong way, and they did their laundry, and the opening hours of the establishments are adjusted for the larks, and in the medical system they will break the devil's leg. And so on, and so on, and so on.

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So so conclusion

I would like to say now that I have grown wiser, I have removed my samovar for a trick and I have accepted America along with all its giblets. I would like to, but I cannot. I just figured out everything, learned a lot of new things, got used to it and adjusted my life for myself.

It is customary for emigrants to say: "You will never be your own there." So is this really a problem, I think. America will never be ours! This is really a problem. And this is my main disappointment.

Original column published on the blog. "Queen in the USA" on Yandex.Zen

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