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"This is a real horror": obstetrician-gynecologist from the United States explained why she will not give birth

'15.06.2017'

Source: SELF

American obstetrician-gynecologist Lea Torres spoke sharply about pregnancy and childbirth. The doctor said she would never give birth, and explained why. On the portal SELF published a frank letter Torres, which caused a heated discussion on the network.

Lea Torres led and continues to lead pregnancies of many women, but she herself has a firm point of view: she will not get pregnant and give birth, since pregnancy can be a threat to health.

Here is the full text of Dr. Torres’s letter:

“Pregnancy is a terrible experience. At least that's what some pregnant women tell me. Most of them are my patients. I am an obstetrician-gynecologist specializing in reproductive health, so I am well aware of why pregnancy is a real horror. Fortunately, I didn't have to go through this. And I will never get pregnant and give birth!

The fact that many people want to endure nausea every morning, suffer from hemorrhoids and many other ills, strikes me to the depths of my soul.

I sincerely can not understand how people go to this, so I asked one of my patients to write a few words about pregnancy. She thanked me for taking care of her all these months, and agreed to write a couple of lines. I cite the passage:

“If it were not for my strongest desire to have children, I would never have decided on this. I do not blame anyone who decides never to have children, because being pregnant is terrible ... Nausea is always with me. This is my third pregnancy, now I'm on 37 week, and I'm still sick. And tears. You cry every day for no reason. When you are tired of tears, you become angry with yourself and enter into a quarrel with your husband. Just. To have another reason to cry. It happens that you have nothing to breathe. It becomes difficult to move around the house. Everything hurts, and you just want to stop existing, because it's all so hard.

I will say this: giving birth is the best moment, thanks to which all this pain stops. And I'm not exaggerating. You feel great not because you are spreading out of love for the baby, but because you finally separated from each other. The child took a part of your life from you, but it has become much easier for you. I love my children more than anything. And for this reason, I am going through the whole hell for the third time. Children have made my life full, but now I will never pretend that pregnancy is the most magical and beautiful period of life. This is not true".

It sounds completely not beautiful and not magical. In addition, pregnancy can be a health hazard. The body of the woman for 9 months rebuilt. The risk of developing diabetes, hypertension, heart failure increases. Pregnant women often complain of convulsions. A curious study was conducted in the UK in the 2010 year. It showed that the risk of dying during pregnancy is higher than during general anesthesia, scuba diving, airplane flights or hang gliding, canoeing. Moreover, the risk of death during pregnancy and childbirth is 10 times the risk of death from abortion.

Condemnation of women who have decided not to give birth to children, as well as a ban on abortion - all this can be compared with the ban on refusal to scuba dive. Doctors refuse to terminate the pregnancy because of their personal convictions. But why do they put the life of a week-long embryo above the life of a woman who is simply not ready to give birth?

In society, pregnancy and childbirth are perceived as a duty of a woman. Everyone is aware of the risks involved. But why do we not honor women like heroines? Everyone just shrugs and sighs: "Well, she decided to give birth." Many feel inferior and inferior without children. And the society is glad to reproach the unborn woman.

Not wanting to give birth is normal. It's normal not to want to experience all the hardships, nausea, dizziness, fatigue, irritability. But we still condemn women who go for an abortion or decide that children are not for them. Personally, I understand perfectly well that bearing children is very difficult. And the further, the more I am convinced of this. But without this it is impossible to have offspring. And I ... I just don't want to participate in this personally. (But this does not prevent me from being a loving doctor) ”.

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