Naturalness and determination: how to start a boyfriend if you need more 20
'08.05.2017'
When you are over 20 and already have a fairly serious experience in a relationship, the rules for the appearance of personal life also change. You are no longer a naive girl who looks at the whole world with childish, wide-eyed eyes, you are already a woman! And here the main thing is not to lose yourself in a new relationship and not to indulge your own and other people's complexes.
1. Despite the still fashionable advice in the media that it is better for a woman to pretend to be stupid so as not to upset a man, you can and should immediately and without a twinge of conscience show that you are smart. If a man decides to be upset about this, quit. Immediately. You should not let him assert himself at your expense - this is the road to nowhere.
2. You don’t have to look at all 100%.
There's nothing wrong with running out to the store or the gym without a few coats of makeup and high heels. And do not worry about the fact that at the moment you can meet your destiny. Because if he is destiny, he will see you even without makeup. And if he passed by and did not look at you, then let him go by.
3. Whether hair is on the body or not - your choice
If the question arose in such a way that he strongly recommends shaving his legs or he will not meet with you, then why do you need this person? After all, this may not be the only fad. And then he will begin to narrow the frame to the point that you will have to be beautiful before bedtime.
4. Funny - laugh.
But only if the jokes are funny. You should not make an unnatural effort on yourself, trying to laugh naturally, in response to stupidity or a completely non-funny joke. If this is done, he will continue to consider himself a humorist and pour these terrible jokes right and left. Neither those around you, nor you will survive for a long time. It’s better to be a silent snob than an unfunny and stupid clown.
5. Smile as much as you want.
Even if a smile suits you as hell, it's important to reserve the right to smile when you feel like it. There is a direct analogy with laughter. There is no need to pull a smile out of yourself when you don't feel like it. Nobody likes pretense, and you yourself will soon get tired of it - hello, irritation.
6. The ability to cook is not a duty!
We do not live in the XNUMXth century, when gender roles were clearly defined and described. The XXI century is on the street! Now those who want it can cook. If you wish, learn. He wants to eat deliciously, but you don't know how - the restaurant will help you! Even if you ignore the above, you need to cook food with love, and not out of duty. In general, you should strive to do everything with love!
7. Wear the clothes you want to wear.
Do you know why? Polls show that men are often completely oblivious to what exactly you are wearing: a T-shirt and jeans with sneakers - great! Dress and sandals - super! Burlap coat - great! The important thing here is exactly how you feel in these clothes. The main thing is that you like it and feel comfortable.
8. Love “male” movies?
Do you take these "The Godfather" and "Star Wars" with a bang? Fine! But if you like melodramas and TV shows, but this all male toughness is alien, you don't need to pretend. By the way, what if he is crazy about "Pretty Woman"?
9. Your body is your business.
Do you see figure flaws? Don't like your legs? And there are a lot of advisers around who all as one repeat that you need to love yourself? Let them teach others. It is good to love yourself, but you need to go to this for a very long time, perhaps all your life. Moreover, you will not become less attractive from the fact that you love yourself in the wrong way.
10. Do you have oddities? Good.
Do you like writing poetry or prose? Do you talk to your fish, especially the little red one? Collect stamps, herbarium, sewer manholes ... Anyway, sooner or later, he will find out about your strange hobby. So why hide it now? What if he gets carried away and collects spiders - you can't run away from him!
11. First date politics - politics.
If this is important to you and you have strong political views, then it is better to announce them immediately. So you will quickly learn what to expect in the future, because, most often, people with opposing political views will not be able to find a common language in the future. Even if he will be silent, you know how he responded to the party “Lovers of red semi-dry wine”, in which you have the honor to be!
12. It is possible and to him, and to you!
If you understand that he is a good person who has emotions and feelings for you, then you can go anywhere. There is absolutely no matter who will call someone first. But it works only with mutual sympathy and no fear.
It is invaluable when with your chosen one you do not need to think and figure out moves ahead in order to be able to remain yourself. But sometimes, if a person is good and to your liking, you can also correct it so that later it would not be excruciatingly painful.
