Santa Claus brought the child the wrong gift: what the psychologist advises
'02.01.2021'
Source: Jana delphi
Children find gifts under the tree - and the houses are filled with the rustle of a gift wrapper, enthusiastic exclamations and sometimes, alas ... loud crying. What if the child did not receive what he expected as a gift, says Jana delphi child psychologist from Tallinn Natalia Belyaeva.
“In the New Year, dreams should come true”, “The child will stop believing in miracles”, “The child should receive a cherished gift” - parents say more than once.
It's great when miracles come true and cherished dreams come true. But sometimes children make such gifts that are simply impossible to make, for example, a magic wand, magical abilities, a live pony, an apartment, and so on.
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What if Santa Claus did not bring what the child asked for
Natalia Belyaeva believes that nothing terrible happened in this case.
It is important for children to face the experience when the world does not give everything at once or at all. In such situations, the child learns:
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a) cope with difficulties;
b) overcome yourself;
c) rejoice in what is, and be grateful for it.
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Important skills, what do you think?
How to behave if a child has not received a long-awaited gift
The psychologist shares important recommendations:
- Say, “I’m sorry you didn’t receive the gift you wanted,” “I understand that you are upset,” “I see you are sad.”
These phrases support the child, help them cope with unpleasant feelings, and improve your contact.
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Refrain from arguments: next time; why do you need it; you misbehaved and others.
- After you have supported the child, tell him that Santa Claus has his own vision for gifts.
- You can talk to your child about the meaning of the gift for him.
For example, a kid wanted a magic wand. Ask: what is it for him? What would happen if he had a wand? And ask if the child can “do magic” without a wand. Of course it can - through the manifestation of kindness to other people.
Invite your child to focus on what is. After all, most likely, this is an interesting gift.
