What do people want to catch in the last year of life
'12.06.2017'
ForumDaily Woman
Social news site Reddit conducted an unusual survey among its users. First of all, the survey concerned those who stayed for less than a year. And the question itself sounded like this: “What would you like to have time for and how can you be helped?”
There were a lot of answers, and not only from those who really have very little to live. Many users offered their help and services, and also talked about how they help dying relatives, friends and neighbors.
Here are some answers:
the_nerd_whisperer99
I work in a toy company. If someone has a child who has an incurable disease, drop me a photo with short information and I will think of something.
2-cents
My 94-year-old neighbor called last week and told her that she had 4-8 weeks left to live. Wonderful lady, I was always pleased to communicate with her. She asked me to cut the lawn in front of her house before she died. And I am pleased to provide this service if, thanks to this, she has one less thing to worry about.
dudecephus
Alzheimer's my elderly neighbor went so far that she had to go to a nursing home. On the eve, someone stole one of the flower bushes in front of her house, so I replaced it with a LOT of flowers so that she would not grieve in the last days she spent in the house where she had lived for half a century. Before she was taken to a nursing home, I assured her that I would water the flowers until she returned.
Of course, I knew that she would not return. Her son soon rented out the house. But he kept me informed about her condition. Until her death, she at each meeting with him mentioned me, and her memories became more and more bizarre. I just replaced a couple of ornamental plants, but her version of events eventually transformed into “that wonderful young man from a neighboring house who drove the robbers away.” One of her last questions on the day of her death was: “Does that wonderful young man still water my flowers?”.
I really miss her.
dj_narwhal
My father was diagnosed with glioblastoma, and the doctors said that he left to live from 6 to 24 months. He lived a good life and he had not so many desires. But this year he wants to get into Key West for the Hemingway doubles competition.
ANSWER: AgainIGoUnnoticed
If your father wants to take a Coast Guard boat, let me know.
ANSWER: luckyleftyo4
I don’t know if you have already booked an apartment, but I have a property in Key West. Let me know if this interests you. Of course, I will not take payment.
betweenthebars24
I have a fourth stage of brain cancer. I believe that I will break through, because this was with me already 19 years ago. True, this time the tumor is inoperable, but next week I will begin chemotherapy. If I fail, so be it. Even 19 years ago, it became clear to me who I am and what I expect from life. I can say that I had to live a full life, and I can die at any moment without the slightest regret, quite peacefully. Many do not realize how important it is for each of us to step back, look at the whole picture and realize what we really need. After that, life becomes very clear, and how to live it becomes even clearer.
unsuitablewoodchuck [S]
My father was hospitalized in Taiwan after he fell and hit his head on the cement floor. Doctors believe that he just lost consciousness. For almost a year he was in a coma. During this time, his condition was complicated by internal bleeding and pneumonia. On the eve of all this, I got married and did not have time to introduce my father to my wife. I am sure that he would very much like to see her. Therefore, we immediately flew to the father, although we understood that he might not recognize us.
We spent many hours at his bedside and called him by name. He could not even turn his head to our call, but was able to move his fingers. And we noticed a few tears in the corners of the eyes and decided that he was grateful that we came.
Father was born in poverty. But he raised beautiful three sons, he learned us. We all became doctors of science. And together we flew to him with our families. I think he felt our gratitude and love before leaving us.
Igloo32
I am a 50 year old father of two. I have stage XNUMX cancer, metastases, and the doctors say there is almost no chance. At the moment I am on palliative care. I try to spend a lot of time with my children. Recently I went with my daughter to a production of "The Lion King" - and it was wonderful. In September I want to fly with my son to Japan, if my health allows me. I am also planning a road trip through the USA. As with many other dying people, the most important thing for me is to spend as much of the remaining time as possible with my loved ones. And to die - no, not a pity.
lekkerdekker
My father died when he was just 49 years old. I then studied in the 8 class, my brother in the sixth, and my sister in 10. He was ill for three years, but he tried to spend a lot of time with us. Going to the theater, traveling around the USA and other wonderful things. We played golf on his last weekend. All this allowed me to remember him.
But what I say from the point of view of a child: tell your children about your youth. Tell us about your hopes and dreams about them, as well as about your own life. Just talk to them about yourself. My father never did this. I have no idea how he would like to see us when we grow up. My brother remembers him even less.
Therefore, if you know that you have very little left, and your children have not grown up enough to discuss such things, write them a letter. About who you want to see them in the future, what kind of education you want for them. What you see their family. Write about yourself. About your dreams. Buy them gifts for future birthdays, which you will not be able to attend. I now understand that I did not know my father as a person. I only remember him as he was during his illness. At his funeral, I listened to speeches about a man whom I did not know. Now I’m 20 years old, and I’m looking for his old friends to tell me about how my father was. And so sorry that I can not hear it from him.
gravrain
I have a 4 stage of colon cancer. Now I am undergoing chemotherapy. The only thing I dream about is spending every minute with my young children. The idea that they can grow without me kills no worse than cancer. I have already made a list of what I want to do. For example, climb the mountain again. I grew up close to the Rocky Mountains and for many years used to mountaineering. I also want to create a group to climb in Indianapolis with those who have never conquered the summits.
Troaweymon42
My father is currently dying. He has 4-I stage pancreatic cancer. You've probably heard this advice a billion times, but listen again. Please, I beg you - go to the one who dies, talk to him. Ask for forgiveness or forgive him. Say you love him, that you are grateful for everything. Let him go quietly. And take care every minute spent together.
Commander snake
Never give up! My father was diagnosed with 4 stage glioblastoma, when I was only 10 years old. And almost all the doctors refused to treat him, saying that he had only 6 months left to live. But he found a surgeon who wanted to help him. My father passed away 2 a year ago, but thanks to one single doctor and the desire to live, he received additional 11 years, which he was able to share with his wife and children. Never lose hope!
Members Reddit Not only were they able to support each other, many found new friends. Mom 16-year-old boy, whom doctors do not give much time, was able to find him friends for online games. Several people were able to team up and discuss their similar diagnoses. Sometimes for a dying person - support and normal communication replace hours-long droppers and medications. Be kinder to each other.
