What to do if during the holidays all is well, and you feel bad
'14.12.2017'
Source: Huffington Post
Yes, it is - certainly - the most magical time of the year. But not for everyone. A universally created picture of sparkling happiness can be completely to the liking of one person, and literally finish off others who have neither delight nor jubilation. Why are you waiting for the holidays with a shudder, and advises Huffington Post.
Unrealistic expectations
Romantic Christmas films, where exactly under the holidays miracles certainly happen, children's promise and waiting for a fairy tale - we often transfer all this to adulthood, and this is in many ways normal. Believing in the best is necessary. However, if expectations are too unrealistic, you will certainly be disappointed, and this does not bode well. It is important to remember that external images are one thing and reality is different. Psychologists advise also not to expect a family idyll on holidays, if it was not there before, because the result will be the same: disappointment. It is better to have realistic expectations and try to find reasons for gratitude. Remember that the holidays are over - and focus on the good.
Perfectionism and self-reassessment
Holidays are pressure. The pressure of multitasking increases day by day: you try to plan the perfect Christmas, get the whole family together, go to every party, meet tons of people. You sleep less and forget to eat, do not have time to pop into the fitness room to get a full load. You don't take care of yourself, worsening your overall physical and psychological well-being. All this can lead to the fact that it will not be perfect anyway, but you will also “fall out” the day before. Don't need perfectionism, set realistic goals.
Comparing your life with other people's "pictures"
You can look at other people's Instagram and Facebook and suffer: it seems that everyone around is not life, but a continuous holiday, pure idyll and happiness. And everything is not so with you: a slightly less ideal family, there are some problems at work, children do not obey, and so on. Remember: on social media, everyone is trying to show themselves better than they are. Many people in this way convince, first of all, themselves, and then their subscribers. Psychologists say that a perfect Christmas (“as in childhood”) is initially unattainable because you are already a different person. Close your browser tab and go back to real life - it's entirely possible to make Christmas just good. As you decide.
