What to do if the husband is sitting on a dating site
'06.01.2018'
Source: GoRabbit
My friend Lenka divorced her devout because of this. He sat on dating sites, and talked with some depraved women on equally depraved topics. How she sobbed when she saw tons of pornographic photos exchanged between her husband and these shameless women! But was it worth it so abruptly to terminate the relationship because of seemingly innocuous offense? Is the correspondence on dating sites treason?
The questions in the previous paragraph are rather rhetorical. Definitely, yes: it is treason. But is it really necessary to get a divorce, especially if it has not yet reached sex?
If a person has a desire to go left, in modern realities, he most likely will not glue beauties at the bar, but will go to a dating site and there, as in an online store, he will quietly choose a girlfriend for meetings and comfort.
It is no secret that the majority of users of such sites are registered there not to find a prince on a white horse or the love of all life - although, of course, this also happens. But it happens more often in romantic comedies like “Real Love”. Do you have a relationship, and what to do about it?
Cross out all the happy days of living together just because some 19-year-old student sends your man a photo of his bare ass? Here is a list of options that will help solve the problem with a dating site without divorce.
1. Do not make a scandal
Of course, the first reaction to this is to poke your man in the correspondence with his nose, like a naughty cat. But do not forget that men have the best defense - this is an attack. The winner from this scandal is unlikely to come out of you - he will remember you all your misdeeds at the dawn of a relationship and pull out skeletons from the closet that you were unaware of.
It is better to talk with him calmly, as if by the way - for example, after good sex. Ask what he expects from this correspondence and what prompted him to take such a step. You may be able to find out what does not suit him in your relationship, and then you will have to decide whether his claims are fair and whether you should listen to them.
2. Do it to spite
You yourself are not interested in what is there on these dating sites? Try to sit there yourself. Sign up, put your real photo and name and flirt with the men you like. Play along with them. After a week or two, as if by chance, forget to close the tab on your laptop - let him see what his beloved does.
You can think up for the fan of flirting on the Internet and trolling more interesting: create a "left" account and rub it in trust. Try to pull him out on a date, promising sex and all that. Come - wave him a pen and smile. Then, of course, there will be a stormy showdown, but there is every chance that a man will understand - no need to do so, and he will calm down.
3. Go to sex courses
Yes, you may consider courses called “How to become the most attractive and charming” and “How to make your husband carry you again” by the divorce of charlatans, but there is some truth in them. A man hangs on dating sites because he wants diversity - he is not in love with anyone and is not going to divorce you, so why don't you try to add fuel to the fire, learning something new?
By the way, he would never believe that you learned 100 new poses on some courses.
“She has a lover!”, - such a disturbing thought settles with a partner in the brain, and in order to drive her out, he, in theory, will have to dwell on you, as at the beginning of a relationship.
Whether a man will change or not after your tricks is unknown. Basically, the experience of women from the forums suggests that the humpback grave will fix it. But in any case, do not throw all the bumps on a partner: always two are to blame for treason. And the so-called male polygamy (and female monogamy) has nothing to do with it: problems are usually much deeper.
