The American woman raised her children in Russian for a whole week - and that's what happened to her
'01.10.2019'
Source: Nan
Maiden American Megan Zander, mother of two children, originally from Russia. According to her, he is a great example to follow: smart, kind, cultural, athletic, neat. All this she would like to see in her sons. Therefore, she turned to the maiden for advice and asked him to tell him how to raise a child “in Russian” in order to instill in him these important and useful qualities. He advised her to adhere to the following rules.
Responsibility
Maiden Megan told her that in Russia, children from an early age are taught domestic duties and responsibility for them, writes Nan. She herself believed that her four-year-old sons were still too small to trust them with any serious things, but it turned out that they could easily remove the shoes from the table, put their shoes after a walk to the place, fold their clothes, arrange the toys. She noted that many children themselves began to do with enthusiasm.
“My husband and I share household responsibilities equally, so it is important for me that children perceive them as a common responsibility, and not just as a woman's. But I figured that they would begin to understand this when they get older, and we can discuss it in a serious conversation. ”
“Russian parenting is less dramatic and more focused on achieving a goal: if you want a child to learn how to clean up after himself, give him a rag,” Zander shared her impressions.
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Soup
Russian parents feed their children with soup. "Dinner without soup is impossible," said brother-in-law Zander and threw her into confusion. Like, “Soup every day? Even in the summer? Even when it's a trillion degrees of heat outside? ” Russian kind, cultured and athletic person answered “Yes”, and Megan decided to try it.
According to her, the soup that her children used to receive only during the days of the illness turned out to be an excellent opportunity to acquaint them with different tastes and feed them with vegetables - for some reason in the soup, they seemed to them less vile.
Walking
A Russian man in an American family said that in his homeland, parents walk with their children in any weather, and not only when it is warm, sunny and pleasant. Heat is not every day, and the need for fresh air and physical activity has not been canceled! After a long walk, you will eat the soup and you will not blink an eye.
But since the Zander family didn’t have the habit of walking every day in any weather, and Megan herself can’t stand out in the cold (as if we adore all this!), She found a compromise: two times on 20 minutes in the fresh air near houses. And, as she says, the result met the expectations.
The children's behavior has changed - on walks, including in the rain and in the mud, they splashed out the accumulated energy and charged with positive emotions.
Ballet
According to Megan, all Russian children attend ballet classes. We certainly do not believe him. But the naive mother of two children tried to attach the sons to the ballet circle, but nothing came of this idea - instead of feeding on the culture of classical dance, they bellow, jumped and made ridiculous movements.
“I understand the importance of cultural education for children, but ballet is not for my children,” she says. In consolation to Megan, we note: ballet is not at all for most ordinary people, regardless of how they are brought up.
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Night Vigil
The Russian Deuter said that Russian parents do not stack a child at a certain time every day. Instead, they (that is, you and I) allow children not to sleep until they are cut down from fatigue. According to Megan, her children usually went to bed at 19: 30, but the Russian regime delayed bedtime by 22: 00.
At first, she was not happy about this - before going to bed, they were mad, jumping and throwing toys. But gradually they were tired of such freedom of action, and they chose quiet, quiet games and reading before going to bed. This regime allowed Megan to get up a little later in the morning - starting to practice the absence of a strict regime, the children began to sleep longer.
Summary: Russian parenting "by brother-in-law" seemed to Megan a good way of interacting with children - on the one hand, it turned out to be quite strict and subordinate to certain principles and rules (like soup and walks), and on the other, relaxed and peaceful (like the absence of an evening routine) ...
It seemed to her that this is more convenient than all types of American parenthood, which, as it were, do not allow mothers and fathers to act on a whim in situations where it can be afforded.
And despite the fact that she had been observing some rules for a whole week, which actually do not exist (are there many among you who lead children to the ballet and walk with them for two hours every day?), She caught the point right: In fact, modern parenthood in our country is a mix of all that we know about educating ourselves, traditions, new data, techniques, approaches and methods. With national traits, virtually any parenthood is now striving to become the most humane and, at the same time, active in its history.
What do you think, that from the typical Russian methods of education, we should definitely forget how to have a bad dream, and what to leave?
