9 signs that you have a frivolous relationship
'11.05.2017'
ForumDaily Woman
When a new relationship begins, every woman wonders how seriously a boyfriend treats her, what awaits this relationship in the future and how to understand - is it for a long time or just for a pleasant time? The feelings of the woman are quite understandable, since no one wants to spend time on hopeless relationships, and then glue their hearts together because of unfulfilled hopes. There are certain signs that your man is not ready for a serious relationship, does not plan to connect his life with you or make plans for the future.
1You have been dating for several months and spend a lot of time together, you have quite a rich conversation. But if you understand the information you receive from your boyfriend, it turns out that you only know how he spends his days and where he works. You know practically nothing about the person himself, since he does not share his spiritual experiences, does not talk about how he was in childhood and does not talk about his feelings.
If a man is serious about a woman, he will allow his chosen one to see himself as the present. This is a serious step for a man to show his level of vulnerability.
Men by nature are more restrained in their feelings and therefore very carefully choose those who are allowed into their soul.
If a man is not afraid to talk about his fears, dreams, desires and hopes, then your relationship has a future, you are trusted. If your chosen one closes even detailed questions about feelings, either he is still eyeing you or you do not enter his circle of trust and you are not on the way.
2Your man considers it absolutely normal to disappear for a few days, and then appear and act as if nothing happened. You can, of course, keep silent on this behavior, but usually this leads to the fact that in the future your elect will treat you disrespectfully, since he will know what he can do, and you will wait for him anyway. If you are important to your man, then he will find time for a short call or a message that he is busy with urgent work or suddenly went on a business trip. A man who plans a serious relationship with a woman makes room for this woman in his life, in his head and in his heart. If he needs a break and a weekend from communicating with you, then he is not afraid to lose you.
3. Sometimes men say bluntly that they do not want a serious relationship or are not ready for it at the moment. After such a conversation, it is worth stopping the communication, and not indulge in the illusions that he does not want now, and then he will be involved. Or that your love will melt the ice in his heart, and he will understand how important you are to him. In 95% of cases, none of this comes out, and the woman remains heartbroken, and the man is perplexed - he honestly warned that he did not want, thus he did you a favor.
4. You do not have real dates. Your relationship is less than six months, and the evenings are the same scenario - dinner at home, watching a movie and sex? This is not a serious relationship. A man does not try to impress you or show his concern, he is satisfied with the fact that for the sake of relationships there is no need to strain. Believe me, if a man likes you, he will try to show it to you.
The same goes for dates when you do not decide where they will go and how. He simply reports that you are going to the exhibition today, tomorrow for dinner, the day after tomorrow for the movie for the film that he chose. He is not interested in your desires and preferences, but leads you as you carry a handbag. If even after a frank discussion of this problem, nothing changes - leave.
5It does not introduce you to family or friends. Have you been together for half a year already, and besides your work colleague, with whom you somehow accidentally drank on the run, have you seen any of your chosen one's friends?
This is a very bad sign. But even if he showed you to friends, do not flatter yourself. It is quite possible that he simply boasted or is quite normal for him when he comes to meetings with different girls. But if he decided to introduce you to his parents, and worries about whether you like them, and they give you - yes, such a relationship should be called serious. If, on each attempt to talk about this topic - he dodges and searches for different excuses, then you should not waste your time on relationships with him.
6.There is no pronoun “we” in your vocabulary. Each couple a few months after the start of the relationship one way or another begins to use this pronoun: "We went to such a funky movie yesterday" or "We are going to spend this weekend together." But the seriousness of the relationship is shaped by other phrases, for example, “We are going to go on vacation together this summer” or “We will go to parents for Christmas together.” If you do not hear such phrases, then your relationship has no future.
7Despite the fact that you often spend the night at each other for several months now, slippers, toothbrushes or empty shelves for things did not appear in your apartments. There is an even worse option - if you accidentally forget your thing in his apartment, he will try to return it to you as soon as possible, even if it is a trifle such as hairpins or lipstick. This indicates that he does not want your lives so close together, and tries to keep a distance.
8. He is not interested in you and your life. In addition to the duty phrase "How are you?".
He is not interested in your problems, and even if you talk about them, he does not offer you his help or sympathy. He doesn't remember the name of your favorite writer and he never wondered what kind of chocolate you like. Do not flatter yourself, he is not an absent-minded and forgetful guy, he really doesn't care.
9He does not offer his help to you and never asks for yours. You could feed his fish when he was away, or find an important book for him on the Internet, but he will not ask you about it. And if you say that you have a problem with a computer or with a tap in the kitchen - he will tell you to use the services of specialists and not fool his head. It happens, of course, that a man is not able to help in such things, but a man who wants to impress a woman will first try to fix everything himself or, as an option, he will call a specialist and control his work.
