7 things we hurt our children
'19.07.2017'
Source: Econet
Children absorb almost everything adults give them. If the baby grows in a family where they trust each other, then he will learn to trust too. If he feels love and care, he will also learn to love and care for others.
But, unfortunately, children absorb not only positive, but also negative, too. Adults can make terrible mistakes because they were irritated or indifferent at certain moments. Econet compiled a list of how we can offend our children.
1. We do not understand them
The first love can be a trauma for the rest of your life. And most often the trauma makes it the reaction of the parents.
"What do you know about love there!" or “This is not serious, it will soon pass” - what teenagers usually hear when they complain to their parents that the object of love does not notice them.
In fact, the first love in a tender adolescence is a very strong stress for the child, and any attempt to reduce the significance of such an event breaks the psyche.
2. We do not support them
When Caruso was very young, he ran to his mother in tears and said that the singing teacher had criticized his voice.
"The singing teacher said that my voice is like the wind in the pipe howls!"
To which the wise mother answered her son:
“Well, you're a son! Do not listen to anyone! You sing like the most beautiful nightingale in the world. I know that for sure! ”
It was my mother's support that made of a little boy a great tenor, whom the whole world recognized. Talk to your children as often as possible about how they will cope and that you believe in them.
3. Compare with other children
Comparing your child with other children in favor of just another child, we will achieve feelings of envy or hatred of other children. But neatness or good study is unlikely.
4. We make fun of our children.
When my sister was three years old, she picked up chickenpox and after an illness on her face there were green spots that are difficult to wash off. We went to the store and the first thing she heard there from the saleswomen was: “Oh, look what a beautiful woman came to us!”. Naturally, the child was very sad. Adults often scoff at children’s mistakes or their appearance. And thus break their self-esteem.
5. We offend children with our actions.
My elder brother used clicks on the nose or on the forehead as an educational process. Parents often scolded him for it. But after he clicked me again on the forehead, when I was 13 years old, I rushed at him with my fists, and then did not speak for several months. He could not understand why I was so offended.
6. We shout at kids and lose our temper.
Children are not to blame for having a bad day. And in that, our head is spinning from their 151 question in half an hour. They know the world and behave quite naturally. And when we shout at them, they get scared and freeze from horror.
7. We ignore our children
This item is probably the worst. Once a Japanese scientist showed the world the experience with plants. He planted three identical grains in identical jars. Every morning he came to these jars. With one grain, he greeted tenderly, on the second he shouted and called him insulting words, and passed the third past. A month later, in the first jar, a strong green plant grew, in the second - the sprout dried up, and in the third - the kernel simply rotted.
The same with children. Parents reap the fruits that they themselves have sown.
Take a break from computers, work and kitchen. Hug your baby. Tell him that he is the most wonderful in the world, that he will succeed.
